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October 13th, 2009, 09:19 AM
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My MIL had the nerve today to tell me that the reason we can't keep a pregnancy is because we don't go to synagogue! How rude! It's so nice to know that this is all my fault. I am sure that the crack addicted lunatics go to synagogue every week, that's why they have 7 illegitimate children. GGGRRRRR!!!!


Sorry just had to let it out....



Update: I am sorry, I meant to say that she says it's because I don't keep kosher, in addition to not going to all the synagogue services. I do go to Torah study every week. It was mainly the Kosher thing that she thinks is causing miscarriages...
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October 13th, 2009, 09:26 AM
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OH Erica.. I am so sorry.. I don't know why people have to so insensitive! HUGS. That was just wrong of her to say. Just wrong!
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October 13th, 2009, 09:36 AM
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Hugs hun! I can't believe she said that. People are so rude with things they say. They really need to think before they open their mouths.
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October 13th, 2009, 09:53 AM
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Well that one takes the cake. ((Hugs)) Sorry your MIL is such a big idiot.
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October 13th, 2009, 09:53 AM
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I can't believe she would say something like that to you. I'm not sure I would have been able to keep my mouth shut and be nice if someone said something like that to me.
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October 13th, 2009, 09:53 AM
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Wow...what a terrible MIL-ish thing to say! How ignorant of her... I'm so sorry! She's obviously never had to deal with a loss & has NO IDEA what that feels like....
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October 13th, 2009, 11:19 AM
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Im so sorry Erica, maybe her beliefs are that strong, does not give her the right to voice it though. I hope you do not even consider it for a moment.....
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October 13th, 2009, 12:56 PM
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Wow, Erica, you deserve some kind of award for not punching her across the face! It is amazing what those that 'care' say sometimes. Ugh, it is NOT your fault or anyone's fault, and you know that. Don't let someone that insensitive tell you otherwise!
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I'm sorry Erica. I just wanna slap her for you!! HUGS!!!
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October 13th, 2009, 01:31 PM
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ugh! I hate (most) MILS!!! HUGS!
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October 13th, 2009, 03:32 PM
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Oh Wow! I am sorry and you are amazing for keeping your composure. It is usually my step mom or step mother in law that come up with the zinger.

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October 13th, 2009, 03:40 PM
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Erica I am so sorry you had to hear that. I would have been like F you very much and walked away. Sorry but grrrr.

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October 13th, 2009, 03:54 PM
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That's just wrong!
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Wow...what a terrible MIL-ish thing to say! How ignorant of her... I'm so sorry! She's obviously never had to deal with a loss & has NO IDEA what that feels like....


I have to say, if it was me (and I tend to react first, think later), I would sever all ties. That is so rude & inconsiderate! Did you tell DH about it?
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October 13th, 2009, 06:05 PM
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Thanks ladies for the love! I am feeling better about it now. I always kinda blame myself for my losses anyway, so the comment just hit a sore spot.

I did tell DH and he was very upset that she would say that. But he said that she is a very "devout" Jew!
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October 13th, 2009, 07:54 PM
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I am so sorry she said that to you. I have quite a few jewish friends and they would never think of saying anything like that... I would shove challah (with salt) in her face. You are a sweetheart for tolerating all that. (((Hugs)))
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October 13th, 2009, 10:05 PM
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Wow I am sorry your MIL is being like that I shall stop whining about mine for the minute you are a very good girl for not knocking her out and yes I look at all the lovely people in the world producing like rabbits And us loving people struggle I am yet to figure that one out in my head but I am going to try I want a BFP and a easy pregnancy followed by a healthy baby because I am wondering if asking for a bfp isn't specific enough I want it all lol and I hope you get yours very soon. You are a wonderful person and don't ever let anyone make you question that!!
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That is rediculous! *hugs*
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