Forum: Trying to Conceive after Loss
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October 27th, 2009, 11:42 PM
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Veteran
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Location: Charleston, WV
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Hi I am new to this particular board...I was a member of JM about a year ago and I had a miscarraige at 6 wks in March (you can read my intro in TTC and the introductions). I have two other children but miscarraiges seem to be a misfortune to me because I have had three total. Sometimes I feel like something is so wrong with me. I had my first miscarraige at 19 and as young as I was, it was devastating to me. I went on to have another miscarraige 3 months later. At this point, I was convinced that it was me and nothing could change my mind. Then finally, I got pregnant, yet again, 3 months later which produced my beautiful son, Jacob. Two years after that, I got pregnant with my daughter Madison. But, things took a turn for the worst in my relationship. My fiance' got very controlling and hurtful towards me and after a few years of putting up with crap (thats summing it up politely) I found a way to get out. About 3 years ago, I found the love of my life. We were married in February, conceived in February also, but lost the baby at 6 wks in late March. I took several months off of ttc, well sort of NTNP, but I was really avoiding BDing during O basically. Now, I am actively ttc again but I am scared to death. One of the other girls told me about this board and how helpful it is so now I am here. I am sooooo looking forward to talking to others that have experienced the same things as myself. Some times I just feel so alone and like I am the only one who has experienced this so many times. Thank you for having a board so supportive!
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October 28th, 2009, 03:38 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Pennsylvania
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Welcome to the board. I am so very sorry for you losses. The ladies here are wonderful. They are so supportive and helpful. I hope you get your sticky BFP soon.
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October 28th, 2009, 03:39 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
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oh BIG HUGS hun. Welcome to the board, we're always sorry to welcome new members here... but we're always happy to help in whatever way we can. Please feel free to lean on us whenever you need it. I'm so sorry also for all your relationship hardship, but I'm happy that you've found such a good husband. The worth of good support (here and in real life) is immeasurable.
My name is Kristin, and I'm ttc my first with my husband. We've lost three little ones this year. I know exactly how it feels. It's scary and frusterating and sometimes I wonder how we keep going, but we do. I hope we get our BFPs and a healthy baby very soon!
By the way, since you've had three miscarriages, have you thought about getting any testing done or talked to your OB?
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October 28th, 2009, 08:11 AM
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Member
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Join Date: Sep 2009
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Hi and welcome to the boards! I am so sorry to hear about all of your losses and of course the hardships you have endured in the past with that relationship. So glad to hear you have found the love of your life!
I've been on this board for a few months now, and I have found that everyone is really awesome, super supportive, and quick to answer my questions! I know you will find the same support here that I did! 
My name is Jen. I had a molar pregnancy this summer (found out at 12 weeks and had to terminate immediately on July 18th 2009) Like you, I was absolutely devastated, as I was only 22. Since it was molar, I have to wait a minimum of 6 months to TTC again, so with that comes all kinds of frustrating emotions, which is really what brought me here.
Good luck on your TTC journey and welcome again!
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October 28th, 2009, 08:48 AM
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fka teresarunningmommy
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Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: Michigan
Posts: 47,603
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Welcome to the board. I am very sorry to hear about your losses. I have had 3 losses as well and 2 of them in a row. It is really hard to try again and not be scared. The girls here are awesome and have been a wonderful comfort to me.
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October 28th, 2009, 08:54 AM
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Mom of 4
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
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I'm so sorry for all your losses! HUGS!!! I'm glad you found us here. Good luck ttc again!!!!
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October 28th, 2009, 09:48 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: PA
Posts: 8,385
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I am so sorry for your losses... HUGS. Welcome to the board.. I have also had three losses. It is hard to want a baby with the love of your life only to losse that little miracle. I have a son 18 yo from previous (not nice teenage relationship) I have been with my husband for 16 years... I went back to school and put TTC on hold for over 6 years... Than over 15 months ago we decided it was time.... Three losses later... and no closser to any answers. It is hard. To not think it is you, You will go through all sorts of emotions.. HUGS HUGS... We are here for you! Your questions, your feelings, you fears!!
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October 28th, 2009, 11:32 AM
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Veteran
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Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Charleston, WV
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Thanks to everyone for their kind words. It's so nice to have this much support especially coming from others that have experienced it. I am so glad I found this board. Honestly, I don't know how I missed it last year when I was a member. I guess I just focused so much on ttc and had left my other two miscarraiges in the past because they had been so long ago and I was trying not to remember. It was only this last one that brought me back to reality. Anyway, on a happier note, baby dust to everyone and I hope we all get our BFP's soon!
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October 28th, 2009, 01:09 PM
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Happy to be a SAHM!
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Illinois (just outside of St. Louis)
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Just wanted to say welcome. Sorry for your losses but I'm glad you found us. I hope you don't have to stick around here too long.
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October 28th, 2009, 05:19 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: US - Alabama
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October 28th, 2009, 10:16 PM
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Proud JM hostess
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: @ JM if I'm not at work
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Hello Alicia! and I also want to  you!!!
Ya know you're going to find that you are not alone in having myltiple miscarriages. There are many of us out there... some are unexplained, some are explained, but one thing is true that you're not alone. I've had 3 confirmed miscarriages and even unexplained faint + hpt's just to go on to get what I thought was AF. It's definitely a painful thing to go thru... I have taken the 2 losses I had over the summer extremely hard. However I've found much help here with these wonderful ladies!
I cannot tell you how many I've seen in my short time here graduate into PAL!
So it will happen, for all of us, in our time....
I'm glad you're here and welcome welcome welcome
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