[beccasmom7718]

Do you ever ask yourself why people who dont take care of their kids are blessed and can pop them out anytime while others have tons of troubles and really really want a child??

Ive been asking myself that for the past few months...but today even more so.
We have had my SO's sons brothers for the past 4 days and had to take them home today...it would be fine if they were treated right...but they arent.
But on the positive side I am now stocked up on baby clothes from 0-9months and have kids clothes from 2t-5t when i do get that boy ive wanted


My SO's son is 2..he has a 4yr old brother and a 4month old brother. Everytime we get SO's son he is dirty and his clothes are dirty and his diaper is soaked...his shoes are too small and he never comes dressed properly....we sent all that stuff home last time and he never wore his new shoes here..he came in his too too small shoes..no jacket..etc...frustrating enough
BUT we got his brothers on halloween... the 4yr old came without proper clothes..no pjs.. socks or shirts ...his boots were 3sizes too small...he cant even put his foot all the way in...he was flthy and it took 3 washes for his hair to come clean...gross
Even worse the baby came...she sent him without clothes..no winter coat or snowsuit..not even a fall one..no blankets..no nothing .. just diapers and wipes... now he is almost 5monhths old and is about 12Ibs if that...she sent us niquil to put him to sleep..(UMM NO) and rice cerel (expired 4months ago)for his formula(no i dont think so)
Now baby spits up all the time and its not just a little bit its usually all of his bottle...and its projectiled all over the place. I swear i changed him 5 times a day. We asked her if he was allergic to the milk..she said no just feed him every 4hrs instead of 2...well im sorry but he is skinny..u can feel all his spine and ribs... i got asked if he was newborn and ppl were shocked he was almost 5months old. So i fed him every 2hrs...and when he went home today...his sz 1 diapers were getting tight andso were his newborn clothes. but i know he will be back to the same in a few days.
I am soooo pissy now... he couldnt even hold his head up! .... We called CS but we have called before and they waited 2weeks and then went in. Shes not allowed to take care of them alone...but her bf works..so what ..
It makes me mad... i want a baby sooooo bad and it felt great having 4kids to take care of this weekend....sorry for my long rant. Im just frustrated that they had to go home.

OOO to top it all off she sent them here becuase she was 'sick'...well sunday she called loaded...at 11pm and asked us to bring them home!!!... monday SO had court to get joint custody of his son...well she was too 'sick' to show up so now we have to wait a month til our next court date...so hopefully she doesnt start trouble!!1

[Trish36]

Hugs!!! I'm sorry. That doesn't seem fair at all. Those poor boys. I really hope that SO gets the joint custody of his son soon!!!!!

[Celena]

I don't know what to say, that's a very horrible situation... devastating to see children in such a situation. Especially children who are your family!

There has to be a way to report child abuse and endangerment because of what she's doing and her total lack of care. Social services needs to step in a little better or get the police department involved to get something done right away. There's no reason that they can be neglected as much as they are and nothing be done! I just don't understand how or why they're alowed to live that way.

As far as asking why can't some have and those who shouldn't do.... well there's never going to be an answer for that. That's something that you're going to have to look internally and do some soul searching over to be at peace with that because "God" and "karma" or whatever your beliefs are aren't going to manifest those situations. I'm sorry it's so painful to see and go thru, I'm sorry that your hurting. Wish I had some magical words to make you feel better... this isn't something that easy to read or hear about, but it's real and it's out there. Unfortunatly not ENOUGH is being done and dammit there should be!

[beccasmom7718]

its pathetic... we almost got temp. guardianship last time SO was home and we had his son...but we had to go see two different court ladies and the last one got pissy us and instead of the same day we waited 14days because she said that was the 'nice' thing to do.
we explained everything to her and its like she couldnt care less.

The last CW we talked to said they hardly ever remove the kids..they work with the mom...well come on...obviously its not working!

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS... What a sad situation for these kids to be in. I am so sorry you have to go through this.. HUGS

[.:Shortcake:.]

Hugs. That is terrible that those poor kids have to go through that.

[momof6lopez]

Hugs, that is a horrible situation. Sounds like you have done so much already in those kids lives. They are blessed to have you. And trust me, as they get older, your efforts at raising them will not go unoticed.

[missy123]

I so agree with Lori. You are a wonderful person and the children are so lucky to have you in their lives. As they get older, they will appreciate you more and more. You are so special!

We can all complain about the social services department in the USA but they are so overworked, underpaid, and underfunded as it is. It is up to good people like us to step up and help these children as best we can.

[krystal g]

[SmileyJen2009]

Hi beccasmom!
This situation sounds so frustrating, and Itotally agree its just not fair!!! I truly hope that your SO will get a custody order of some sort so that they can be taken care of properly.
I see this situation everyday, unfortunately. I work with homeless youth in Ontario, Canada, and many of the youth that come to our agency grew up in this exact situation. It really tears at my heartstrings because I feel like I could be such a good mother, I just haven't been given the chance to prove it!!
Many women who are incapable of taking care of children (due to drugs, alcohol, poverty) are having children left right and centre, and all of us here are praying everyday for our miracle.
Life doesn't make sense sometimes when we are in the moment. I hope everything works out for you and your SO and of course those children!!