[SmileyJen2009]

Hey ladies!
I just felt like ranting because I have noticed that the last few weeks I seem to have regressed emotionally in my progress since my molar this summer.
I have been able to remain super positive during this whole nasty experience, but lately I am just a mess.
A few weeks ago my best friend told me she is pregnant. I talk to her everyday and she has been there for me 100% during this whole ordeal, and I am so stoked for her and her husband! But there is this part of me that finds it so difficult to hear her complain about her morning sickness, her fatigue and her not so pleasant ultrasound experience with her screaming 17 month old on the floor. Sometimes I just want to scream "I would do anything to experience that!!!!!!!!!"
The worst part is, lately I have been having trouble talking to her at all. Its like I reach for the phone to call her and then I think "I can't hear about it today, I just can't."
I am trying to focus on some more positive things to get my mind off of this new sad feeling. I am getting into Christmas a bit, making some things for friends and family, and also I have taken on a fundraising project at work.
Does anyone else have these little bumps in the road after m/c? How do you ladies deal with it!?

Thanks!

[SkyBaby]

*hugs* I've had those issues as well. A lot of my friends my age are pregnant right now too or have just had kids. You are a strong person for remaining positive. I'm a bit of a negative-nelly. I was a huge mess the day *before* I started bleeding when I lost mine. I was depressed and all that and didn't go ANYWHERE because I tended to break down every time I saw a baby or a pregnant woman.

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS... What you are feeling is normal.. I had a friend that I sent a letter to.. Stating that while I was happy for her, and wanted to support her. I couldn't support her complaining. While yes it hard for her to be in a good mood, while puking, being tired, have all these early pregnancy syptoms... I would give anything to be sick, tired, puking...ect. And if she wants to talk about all the good things... I can't handle.. hearing about how unhappy she was (even if it was min) being pregnant.. since I would give my left hand to be pregnant. She said I am sorry I didn't even relieze... Not that she didn't catch her self ALL the time.. but she was than made aware... I also started the letter with you are my friend and I feel I can tell you anything... HUGS for what you are going through... it sucks, and is hard, and is not fair... Vent anytime! Vent away... we have all been their.. HUGS

[~InHisHands~]

You sound like a WONDERFUL friend! I do understand but haven't really been in that situation personally... I'm so sorry you are! To me, sounds like Kary has a GREAT idea!

[erinangele]

I'm sorry I think its only normal to have these feelings when you find out a friend is pregnant. Especially if she is complaining about m/s, fatigue, etc. I was also going to suggest talking to her. It sounds like you are very close, and im sure she is not even aware of how she is coming across.

[starrsgirl]

I will freely admit that I can't really even talk to any of my friends who are pregnant right now or have newly become Moms. I must emphasize that none of these are especially "close" friends...but they are people I would chat with on Facebook/call once in a while. Since my second loss, it's really more than I can deal with and I can't talk to them at all. I promised myself 100000000 times over that I will ALWAYS be aware of who I am talking to and be sensitive in my pregnancy complaining. In reality, DH and I are planning to wait until well into my 2nd trimester to even tell anyone. Hopefully I have less of a chance of accidently making someone feel bad.

We are all with you on this one. It's soooooo hard to hear when it's something you can't have right this second.

[Mel1979]

Originally Posted by starrsgirl

I will freely admit that I can't really even talk to any of my friends who are pregnant right now or have newly become Moms. I must emphasize that none of these are especially "close" friends...but they are people I would chat with on Facebook/call once in a while. Since my second loss, it's really more than I can deal with and I can't talk to them at all. I promised myself 100000000 times over that I will ALWAYS be aware of who I am talking to and be sensitive in my pregnancy complaining. In reality, DH and I are planning to wait until well into my 2nd trimester to even tell anyone. Hopefully I have less of a chance of accidently making someone feel bad.

We are all with you on this one. It's soooooo hard to hear when it's something you can't have right this second.

I agree, I definitely felt it harder after my 2nd loss and I was really lucky I got my BFP when I did as I felt I was in a black hole and wasn't sure how I was going to get out. I was lucky to have my DH to help me through.

What you are feeling is completely normal and I just want to give you a big hug as I have been exactly where you are. Are you close enough to your friend to be able to say nicely that while you are very happy for them you are finding it hard to listen to her complaints? I am sure she would understand if you told her how it made you feel. You have to look after yourself at the moment and that means your feelings need to come first.

You are definitely doing the right thing keeping busy and throwing yourself into things to keep your mind preoccupied. I threw myself into my work, it didn't mean I didn't think about it but it did help me to keep a littler saner.

Big I pray you get your sticky BFP soon.