[Justjessie]

Hi new neighbors!

I'm Angela, 35, have two children already, and I'm in the process of miscarrying #3. First miscarriage, and the first child of my husband and I. My D&C is tomorrow. I was due in June 2010.

I know everything I need to know about the procedure tomorrow. (I think!) Now I have a million questions!

how long did you all wait to TTC again? Our OB says two periods. If I start my period after the D&C (between Christmas and New Year's-ish) and my cycles are short (I O around day 9-11 and have a 16 day LP so 25 days usually) we are thinking we'll be trying again about Valentine's Day.

We're moving to our dream house in 3 weeks anyway and I wanted to paint...by the time I get settled in it'll be time to TTC most likely. (I paint slow...actually I don't know if I can paint at all but I think I can figure it out. I sure can't wallpaper.)

I want to hang out here and hear success stories about people having babies after a loss. I'm 35 so I'm older...higher chance of m/c...but I had two perfect pregnancies before so I'm really shocked. This blindsided me.

I also learned this week how many missed miscarriages there are. This is what happened to me. I haven't bled. Wish I would, I'm not an avid fan of surgery.

I look forward to getting to know you and talking about my cycles until I get regulated again =) I'm going to start charting on Sunday. I'm a charting freak. (My temps are actually STILL UP, as I'm still pregnant...which I just find WEIRD.)

Side note, I'm a first grade teacher and just got married to DH in July. My son is 10 and my daughters is 7. We have 5 cats and a dog and I'd have more cats if I could sneak them in.

[dancefever]

Hi Angela! - Sorry you're here though!

I can't answer any of your questions, as I'm just as new to this as you are. But, my doctor told me to wait one normal cycle and to keep taking my prenatal vitamins. So, that's what we're doing and we're hoping for a Thanksgiving AF and getting back on track soon after that. We'll see if my cycle is normal though.

Good luck tomorrow! I'll be thinking of you.

[.:Shortcake:.]

First off I'm sorry for both of your losses. It depends on your doctor... my doctor said to wait 3 cycles BUT if your body is not ready to get pregnant it won't. It really depends on you and what you feel. If you feel physically and emotionally ready then I'd say go ahead. There is no medical reason why you cant. There are plenty of ladies here who got there sticky BFP without ever getting AF after a m/c. Welcome to both of you and I hope you both get sticky BFP's soon.

[*MomofO&Nat*]

Hello! Welcome to this board, although I am sorry for your loss. This board is awesome, very supportive ladies here! To answer your question, my OB also said 2 cycles. We waited 1 cycle, TTC on #2 and were not successful. I am on cycle #3 since the m/c on 9/13. I think what the others said is true, if your body isn't ready it won't get pg. But if you are feeling up to TTC, maybe wait 1 cycle and start again. That is what we did, I think it is helping to heal the pain somewhat because it is really all I can physically do to move forward. Good luck, and welcome!

[Justjessie]

My sister got pregnant two weeks after her miscarriage. I now have a nutty nephew. But she didn't have a D&C. I ALWAYS take prenatal vitamins, even when I wasn't TTC. It gives my hair and nails strength and a healthy glow =)

[missy123]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is very heartbreaking. I will be thinking of you tomorrow. As far as the surgery goes, It only lasts about 10 minutes and you may or may not bleed after. I didn't bleed at all, others have had AF type bleeding for a few weeks. Your doctor may put you under or you may be awake. I was awake and I was more emotionally hurting than physically. My Doctor had me wait 1 cycle after my loss before TTC again.

You are not old at all, I am 40 years young and TTC my 4th! You have a beautiful family.

We will be here for you. I was more in shock for the first few days... then I am so glad these ladies were here for me. I needed them more than I can ever begin to tell you.

(((Hugs))) I am glad you found us.

[Kary♥RN]

Angela I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. My name is Kary 34, I have had three m/c's with my DH, we are still trying to have our first.. I have an 19 yo DS. I had a D/C with my second loss. We started to try right away.. was given the OK after my 2 wk check up. It took 7 months to get our third BFP.. only to M/C that one in Sept. I hope your BFP comes quickly.. Please jump in and Join Us! WELCOME!

[sportsmom2]

Just wanted to welcome you. You sound very optimistic in your post and that is very encouraging to hear. I have had a similar experience to you... I am 33 and have two boys (10 and 12) and completely normal pregnancies with them so I never expected to have problems with the 3rd.

I started cramping and spotting during my 6th week and lost the baby on Father's Day this past summer. I didn't have a D & C because I m/c naturally. My levels went down quickly and had a period only 3 weeks after the m/c. My doctor told me to wait 3 cycles to try again, mainly for the emotional healing. To be honest with you, looking back, I probably wasn't emotionally ready for another pregnancy because I was really devastated with the loss. I didn't take my doctors advice and started ttc right away. For whatever reason, I still have not conceived again and I have had 6 cycles since.

The journey has it's ups and downs... but I have learned a lot about myself and I feel incredibly blessed that I do have two healthy boys. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully your experience in this forum will be short lived so you can move on over to the pregnancy after loss forum. The support here is awesome, these girls are really motivating and reassuring.

Good luck today... keep us posted!

[KDD]

Hi Angela. Welcome to our group. I'm very sorry about your loss. I had a missed miscarriage too but I miscarried naturally. My Dr. said to wait one cycle to TTC again. I often tell people (and I'm not a Dr.) to wait until you are ready to start trying again. Having a loss is hard and the stress of TTC is hard too.

I hope that your D&C went well without any complications. Please update us!

[farasha]

HUGS. I'm sorry for your loss and to welcome you to this board. DH and I had two missed miscarriage, and one natural miscarriage. We waited two weeks after each one before having sex again - but waited one - two cycles between each to ttc. Everybody's body is different and takes different amount of time to recoop.

Congrats on the new dream house! Good luck, and please feel free to jump in here. Look forward to getting to know you.

HUGS for your D&C tomorrow.

[~InHisHands~]

Hello & My dr wanted us to wait 2 periods too. I am so sorry about your loss!