Death in the family today... (SENSITIVE) Updated 11/27 in 1st & again in post #22

Celena · #1 November 26th, 2009, 04:39 PM

My husband's favorite Uncle was in a horrific motorcycle accident in the wee hours yesterday morning. We got a phone call about it around 5:30am describing what was going on. He was on his way home from work in downtown Manhatten when some ******* ran a red light, hitting him. He suffered SEVERE injuries, brain swelling, blood clot in the brain, many internal injuries with internal bleeding that was putting allot of strain / pressure on his heart weakening it. He begain to breathe on his own, but still had a trech tube... we thought there was hope for a miracle. But he was taken off of life support this afternoon and passed.

It's been a sad day... but at least he's not in pain and his quality of life, well he would have never wanted to live life in a restricted or vegtative state... he would have wanted it this way. As much as no one wants this.

We will possibly be leaving in the am for NYC, we're not sure yet.

So if you don't hear from me for a few days, you know why. I will take my laptop, but there no guarentee I will be on.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~UPDATE as of 11/27~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Well, due to miscommunication and lack of total expression.... "technically" my DH's uncle is still alive, but on life support. He has 1% of total brain use, it is powering his heart to beat and from what I understand that is pretty much it. However I don't understand how he could breathe on his own if the only part of his brain is sending messages for his heart to beat? Anyways, I don't want to give up faith or hope on him, he is alive, but reality is he's *gone* he's expected to NEVER recover with the critical injuries that he's suffered.... all the swelling in his brain, the blood clot is said to keep growing along with internal bleeding / injuries... even if he did wake up from this he won't be the same.

We haven't left for NY yet, we're waiting a couple, few days to see what happens. They're not taking him off of life support until then... so we shall see. MIRACLES HAPPEN, who knows! Maybe he can be ONE OF THOSE MIRACLES???!!! One (many) could hope? I know the REALITY of it tho.

So yes if/ when we have a boy, he will have DH's uncles full name... if it were to be a girl I thought we coule name her a female version or the same initials. I'd love to give DH a boy so that his uncle can live on in some way thru him... (I would just be grateful to have a healthy baby, period)

Thank you so much from the depths of my heart all the prayers, thoughts & well wishes... I truly appreciate it! (they truly appreciate it)

Augie · #2 November 26th, 2009, 04:48 PM

*Hugs* I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't worry about us, take care of your family sweetie.

.:Shortcake:. · #3 November 26th, 2009, 04:53 PM

Hugs hun. What horrible news to get especially during the holidays. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers

mommie2many · #4 November 26th, 2009, 05:23 PM

Im so sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))

MountainMomma · #5 November 26th, 2009, 05:29 PM

I am so sorry! The family will be in my prayers.

Celena · #6 November 26th, 2009, 06:10 PM

Thank you ladies....

DH & I talked and even before he brought it up I had decided I'd ask him if he'd like to but, we're going to name our son after his uncle. (if / when we do have a baby boy) Want to breathe life into him, keep his memory going... even after he is gone.

missy123 · #7 November 26th, 2009, 06:47 PM

That is really sweet Celena. I am sorry for your loss ((Hugs))

momof6lopez · #8 November 26th, 2009, 07:23 PM

Celena, you sure have had your share of heartache this year. I pray that this vicious cycle has come to an end. The memory of your uncle, will hopefullly live on through your son, God bless your family tonight and through the up coming holidays.