Loss my Daughter to SIDS

mommyofanangel09 · #1 November 29th, 2009, 04:03 AM

My daughter had passed away to SIDS at 4.5 months old 3 months ago. My DH and I are trying for our 3rd child. I am sure that to some it may be too soon. We have our reasons on why we are starting sooner that usual. I miss her so much, and wish I can hold her and give her many kisses as I once did.

We were thinking of possibly having a 3rd child about 5 years from now. Now I want it to happen in less than five years.

I do have concerns with having another one. I am actually scared as well about losing another child. Has anyone else felt scared about trying again after a loss?

~InHisHands~ · #2 November 29th, 2009, 04:35 AM

I think we all do. No one wants to lose a child. And I, for one, don't think it's too early at all. Everyone is different & only you know if you are ready or not.

GL!

JessP · #3 November 29th, 2009, 08:23 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I am totally scared of another loss but the thought that it could also be ok is what keeps me going. I don't think its is our place to tell someone when they should start trying. If you feel its right for your family then that is wonderful and we will be here to cheer you on all the way. I hope it doesn't take long and you are able to have another child to bless your home. Welcome to the group.

MeganMomof5 · #4 November 29th, 2009, 09:19 AM

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your baby

GL and i hope you can get your BFP soon!

I just lost my baby not even 6 weeks ago and I'm already TTC...I'm scared something else might happen, but the want for another baby is so much stronger than the fear of losing another.

missy123 · #5 November 29th, 2009, 09:29 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. Like the other girls said, the only right time is when you feel it is right. ((Hugs))

Kary♥RN · #6 November 29th, 2009, 09:38 AM

HUGS... I am so sorry for the loss of your little Girl. Welcome to the board.. I hope your stay here is short.. and your BFP comes quickly. You feelings are normal.. after you have had a loss.. it will always be in the back of ours minds. But for me.. the want of having a child in my arms.. outweighs the fear of going through another loss. I can not control what will be.. I can only take today for what today is... and what can I do today to mold what tomorrow may or may not bring. HUGS... and please jump in and join us..

erinangele · #7 November 29th, 2009, 01:59 PM

I am very sorry for your loss. I think that if you feel ready then the time is right. I don't think anyone should judge you for that. All of your feelings are normal, and justified. I hope that your stay here is short.

abi · #8 November 30th, 2009, 03:34 AM

I am so so sorry for your loss. The other girls said it really well...you are the best one to decide if it's time to start ttc again. I'm so afraid...afraid that I'll never get pregnant again or afraid that we'll lose this baby too, but I'm trusting that God is in control and looking forward to what I hope will be, is a huge encouragement to me. *hugs*

~Lynda~ · #9 November 30th, 2009, 05:55 AM

OMG, i'm so sorry for your loss, and a huge loss at that!!! i can't even imagine what you have gone through and are still going through!!! don't let anyone tell you what is right for you and your family. if you long for another child, then that is what you do!!! i know how scared you must be, but you can't let fear take over. you must have faith, and trust that all will be well!! best of luck to you! I'll pray for you and your family!!! HUGS

noworries · #10 November 30th, 2009, 07:39 AM

I am so sorry for your loss of your little girl. It's normal to be scared of losing another child after you have had a loss. Like Megan said, my desire for another child is stronger than my fear of another loss so that is how I know it's the right time for me to be trying for another one. I hope that your stay here is short and that you don't let anyone tell you that anything you are doing is wrong.

Trish36 · #11 November 30th, 2009, 07:46 AM

I am so so sorry for your loss!!! I can't even imagine what you must be going through! HUGS!!!! My heart goes out to you! I think we are all scared of trying again and can never really relax and enjoy a pregnancy, but what else can we do but try. Good luck and I hope you get a BFP quickly!

faysdt414 · #12 November 30th, 2009, 08:20 AM

i am truly sorry for your huge loss. I cant imagine what your going through but i agree with the others. Everyone heals at a different rate and if you are ready then you should go for it.
HUGS HUGS HUGS!!!

Celena · #13 November 30th, 2009, 02:09 PM

what an incrediable pain you've endured! I am so very truly sorry for your devastating loss. I do not know the pain you've gone thru and cannot even fathom it. I've had 3 losses, but nothing like what you've been thru...

I think if you and your Dh are ready to TTC, then so be it! It's both of your decision and no one elses!!! So I'm sorry, but it's not anyone's right to judge when it's right for you or if you're doing the right thing. It's YOUR choice!

ldovey83 · #14 December 1st, 2009, 02:05 PM

First off I want to say how sorry I am to hear of your loss... I wanted to welcome you to the group.. I agree with what the other ladies have said. You start trying when you feel you want to start trying again.