[missy123]

Do you buy presents out of obligation just because someone buys one for you? Have you ever bought a present for someone expecting something in return?

How do you chose the people on your holiday list?

[Augie]

Well, with 21 nieces and nephews, 4 living brothers, and 5 sisters, my rule is if they are not here for Christmas, they don't get a gift. It's way too expensive.

As for friends, this year, I'm buying for one friend and his son. He has gone out of his way to help us and my sister numerous times. It's the least we can do for him. We will be buying for another friend's kids. She and I aren't overly close anymore, but her son and I are. He's autistic and just wouldn't understand that I can't afford it this year. So, I'm not sure how, but I will buy for him and his siblings.

[Celena]

I used to, but my IL's NEVER buy anything for the kids and they get so heartbroken.... so I'm done wasting my money since it seems like a one way street of take take take. I always went out of my way and thought very long and hard on each person and it's always been about the giving... but no more, forget it. Not to mention they owe us money, and since FM made me cut down ALLOT at work, I can't afford it this year. Can you tell I'm bitter?

I buy for one BFF that I've had for 24yrs now and that's it.... obviously besides my hubby and kids. This year all he wants is a BFP and well ya I'd LOOOOVE one too.

oh I forgot to add my parents refuse to accept a present or presents from us, but I always send them pictures framed or something I've made I don't really think about that tho

[MeganMomof5]

We buy for my husband's parents and they do a family gift swap and draw names every summer....Every year I tell my husband that I don't want to be in that swap..Everyone lives out of state, it's expensive to ship, plus I'm not super close to his family and it's really hard to shop for them...I have never bought for someone and expected to get something in return...If I buy a gift for someone (out of a name swap etc), it's because I want to give it to them...I Told my husband all he has to do is get me pregnant and i'd be happy, I want nothing else.

[missy123]

I bought 2 small presents for a friend yesterday and really don't want anything in return. I have so much and am really not wanting anything back. I got them for her because they reminded me of her. She is going through a rough time and my present in return would be to make her smile and be happy (even for a brief second). How do I give them to her and tell her and for her not to feel obligated to run out and get me something?