[jayepink]

Hello Ladies,

I am new to justmommies. Hubby & I started ttc in Nov. and on the first cycle we got pg. We were excited, but it was short-lived as I noticed a plummet in my temp. and then later that day took a pg. test which came back negative. (Earlier in the week, two were positive.) I guess this may be what they call a chemical, but it hurts like hell. I felt all the symptoms of pregnancy, even before a positive test and now my heart is so broken.

How did you bring yourself to try again after a loss?

[mlyster]

What you are feeling is completely normal. I hate the term Chemical Pregnancy becuase it seems to make people think there are no feelings involved which is completely untrue. I saw a grief counsellor who told me that seeing those 2 lines immediately bring about all the hopes and dreams for the future. You can see/feel the future and what it holds. Then when you miscarry all those hopes and dreams are dashed. Feel what you are feeling, cry when you need to cry and eventually your hormones will settled down and you will see that you want to be a mom more than anything. And that will make you try again. What you are feeling right now confirms that you want this.

Take some time to yourself and let yourself get through the motions... in time you will get to where you want to try again.

BTW Welcome! This is a great group of ladies who have all been where you are. Ask anything and we will answer. I am Michelle (28) DH is Steve (28) and we have had 4 losses already this year.

[farasha]

Oh HUGS. I am sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board. No matter when you loose a pregnancy, it's heartbreaking. I've had three m/c this year, and I often ask myself why I keep trying.. but I want a child. And that's a drive enough. It's not common to have multiple m/c in a row, so try not to fear. Take the time to grieve and cry and vent, and use us whenever you want to... and when you feel ready, we'll be here to help you through the emotions of trying again. I look forward to getting to know you.

[jayepink]

Thank you dear ladies. I am so very sorry for your losses. I am amazed at your courage to keep your chin up and not give up. I guess I will get there with time.

[Trish36]

HUGS! I'm sorry for your loss. It's totally normal to feel that way. You need time to grieve and eventually you will be ready to try again. Sometimes it takes a while and sometimes you might be ready right away..just depends on the person. It can only make you stronger, so don't give up and just because you have had one loss doesn't mean it will happen again. Just remember that.

[Oreobaby]

I am very sorry for your loss...and we all understand the feeling of not wanting to try again. For me...my want for a child, out weighs the pain of a loss....but you definitely have to wait till you are ready again. Take all the time that you need to grieve the loss that you had...and we will all be here to support you when you do feel it's time for you to start trying again.

[missy123]

I am so sorry for your loss and welcome to the board. It is so heartbreaking to lose a child, it doesn't matter how long you were pregnant for the hurt and pain is all the same. Give yourself some time to cry and be angry and go through the healing process. Then you can decide if you want to TTC again. It is a personal decision that only you and DH can make. Whatever you decide, feel free to join us. These ladies are so awesome here and have really helped me through some rough times.

[SkyBaby]

Hi hun, welcome to the board. Mylester said it perfectly. *hugs* I'm so sorry for your loss.

[jayepink]

Thank you beauties--I am feeling much better today. Many baby blessings to you all.

[lindseyp1019]

I am so sorry for your loss. I had 2 chemicals this year and it hurts just as much as a m/c farther along. The only thing that keeps me going is knowing that one day I will have another baby. We're here if you need to talk. Hugs.

[Kary♥RN]

I am so sorry for your loss.. {{HUGS}} How I get through... 3 losses.. is my want to give my DH a baby of his own, and the need to be a mom again.... outways the fear of having another loss... While yes.. the fear will always be here, and I will never have the carefree pregnancy that women who have never had a loss will have.. I just pray and hope... that my next will stick... and give me a healthy miracle in 9 months.... HUGS to you... the feelings you are having are natural.. they will wax and wane.... Somedays you won't notice them.. than other days.. it is overwhelming... On those days turn to us.. we will help you get through the day... HUGS