[kitkat8323]

Ok so this is the low down of whats been going on lately lol it might be long so sorry in advance.

Ok here it goes so as you all know im getting married 10-10 of next year when he proposed we were all for waiting till after the wedding to get preggers me partly cause i was terrified of another m/c his cause he knew i would never leave the baby for a honeymoon lol well that went out the window the first cycle after we lost the baby we were fooling around and he didnt pull out when i was oing i told him that i was and he was like oh well what ever happens happens lol i was estatic haha cause i wanted a baby and i figured even if i did get preggers it be ok cause i could get a corset wedding dress and id still be able to fit in the dress well come to friday and well the dress i fell in love with not a corset dress lol so i come home tell him from now on condoms are being used cause i want to fit in my dress next year and if i get preggers this cycle id be due 6 weeks before the wedding prob not enough time to be back down to prepreggo weight so i was all for waiting now come tuesday i kept having the same dream all night i was in our kitchen with a little girl about 13-14 months old and i was breast feeding her and getting crap from people for still breast feeding her then come wed night i kept having preggo dreams this time it was my mom that had a baby (lol little side note i told her about that and she was like thats not a dream thats a nightmare haha) that dream was long and weird but centered around a baby so the last three days ive woken up in a pissy mood and grumpy then come today im getting that i really dont want to wait to have a baby till after the wedding feeling cause ill be almost 28 by the time the baby would be here and i wanted 6 kids and wanted to be done by 30 lol thats not gonna happen

So right now i dont know what to do i know i can always get a corset put on my dress so i could fit it on my wedding day but im afraid that i wont even get the dress on if i was preggo cause my mom and sis both had toxemia with their first pregnancies and if i get that ill blow up and i really want to look good in my dress but i want a baby sooo bad i was thinking of holding off on trying till about may or june of next year but another part of me wants a baby now im so confused lol please help me haha

[Pink.Crazy]

All I know is... if I really want something I CAN'T wait.. so I admire you if you can! Other than that, follow your heart, if you think you'll be happier waiting for a baby, and wearing your dream wedding dress that's what you should do chick

[dancefever]

to the above! More power to ya if you can wait! Good luck hun!

[alethia]

Ditto with the above - follow your heart hun - it's ok to wait and it's ok to have a baby too - it's really up to you and your SO. HUGS!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Follow your heart hun. I'm a firm believer in what will be will be. We have no control over our destiny. Maybe your dreaming about it because you want it so badly. Hugs! You have to choose what is going to be best for you.

[JessP]

You are the only one who can answer that question. sorry lame answer I know. But the reality is that loss makes you realize just how much you wanted something even when it wasn't planned. And then knowing you had it and it was taken away makes you want it more. So really I guess I should wish you luck if you hold out that long . I was going to not try this month. Needless to say that didn't happen. We didn't try alot but we tried .

[Kary♥RN]

I don't really know to tell you... On one hand you will be almost 28... You have already had a loss... I am 34 I look back thinking if only I had gotten pregnant while still trying to finish school (you know things always have a way of working out) But no... I stayed on my pills... and not I look back.. I don't want you to regreat waiting... but I don't want you to regreat... not having that picture perfect wedding... Which would you regret more? HUGS... you have a real choice to make here. HUGS

[kitkat8323]

I casually brought up moving the wedding up to him last night and he said no and there was no swaying his answer all his reasons are completely valid and true like we have the budget and everything planned for 10-10 and we wouldnt have enough saved if we moved it up due to the fact we have been planning on 10-10 since aug and wed have to half ***** it if we moved it up lol i hate when hes right

So after figuring that i HATE being pissy and angry all the time cause i was figuring i have 10 months till the wedding and anywhere from 6 months to a year to ttc and then another 9 months on top of that i wouldnt have a baby in my arms for about 3 years and that is not gonna happen if i can help it i cant wait that long for a baby id be almost 30 i already have 3 things going against me i have PCOS, ive already had one loss and then my family starts going through menopause at 34 i dont need age adding more strikes against me getting preggers and having my baby so i figured id be willing to wait till march to ttc cause if it took 3 months like last time that would put me around june or july to get preggers i know it wont happen at the same time im just using that as kind of a guideline lol which would only put me 3 or 4 months preggers at the wedding ill get a corset back added on to my dress which i wanted anyway and hopefully get my baby and wedding that i want lol i feel so much calmer now i was NOT happy at all with the thought of waiting and pretty much on the verge of tears anytime i thought about it but i feel like ive come to a good resolution for me and my sanity lol my fiance is up for anything i want he told me hell be happy if i get pregnant but its not gonna be the end of the world if i dont by the wedding he told me after the wedding if were not pregnant then well get serious and start doing the ttwma route which is when i get on his insurance which is bcbs

[Kary♥RN]

Sounds like a great plan! I hope when you do start TTC in Feb.. All your plans fall into place! HUGS!

[Celena]

Well take out a piece of paper...

Write down the pros of sticking to your plans of wedding 10-10, TTC afterwards... and write down the cons....

Then using a seperate sheet of paper do the same but being pg and plans being changes.... pros one side / cons on the other

Put them side by side and which one out weighs the other?

What CAN you live with? What can you NOT love with?

And definitely talk in length with your DH about it all... shoot have him even do it!

Then you can both sit down and share your feelings, fears, excitements, etc...