Let's have a TERRIBLE TTC, TUESDAY... (figuratively)

Celena · #1 December 15th, 2009, 09:18 AM

Spill it,

if you want to...

What is it that bothers you the MOST or brings you down while TTC

It doesn't have to be just one thing, name 'em all... but let's get it out there!

I think sometimes we're so hell bent and focused on trying to get those + opk's, BD'ing, testing early, charting and a + hpt... that in between it all there are fears, worries, concerns, down right angry things that strike our nerves differently on our emotional rollarcoaster ride of TTCAL.

I mean, there are some things that only bother one of us or all of us... some things aren't entirely normal because we each struggle and deal with different scenarios. It's not easy, having been thru 1 loss is too many and for allot of us it's multiple... so TTC has a whole another set of issues than ever before.

If you need to or want to.... just throw it out there! We're all here for each other, even in our darkest or lightest of moments

Remember we're here to support and not chastize each other, so what bothers one might be small potatoes to another... but all problems to each of us are valid and our problems.

*MomofO&Nat* · #2 December 15th, 2009, 10:21 AM

I think the day I get AF is the worst. I always cry, feel so down and seeing that big ol' CD1 staring back at me on the chart feels just awful. I end up eating a lot and being mean to DH, which he doesn't deserve. That's thing one. Thing two that is terrible is that I sometimes wonder if I will ever just feel pure happiness again when someone tells me they are pg or when they have the baby. Right now, I feel jealousy first, then happiness which is an awful awful feeling and makes you feel like a bad human. Ok, I feel better now.

farasha · #3 December 15th, 2009, 10:28 AM

I think what bothers me the most is that we even have to ttc again... it's like we already got pregnant and lost the babies... and we shouldn't HAVE to be doing this again. It's especially awful that the majority of a new pregnancy is spent being worried and not enjoying our BFPS.

That really bothers me. And probably whatever else you girls come up with bothers me too!

I'm very bothered!

Justjessie · #4 December 15th, 2009, 06:07 PM

I feel like I loser when I'm not pregnant. Like I'm letting DH down. He even said it once...why does your ex husband, a big jerk, get two kids and no miscarriages, and I lose a baby????????????

GOOD QUESTION.

So I feel like I should just go into menopause since I'm all dried up and old.

Of course, I got pregnant at 35 faster than I did at 24 and 27, so I shouldn't feel too bad.

But this is a thread where I can cry so I am =)

jjc99 · #5 December 15th, 2009, 06:38 PM

Angela, funny you mention what DH said, about why your ex gets two kids, and he hasn't (yet!)

I had a similar comment to my DH. Why did his ex accidentally (on purpose???) get pregnant and care him to full term? Why is it that I had to m/c? Gosh...if i were to get pg and m/c again...then i'll really be p**sed. Just add another reason to not like her.

Aside from that. What's frustrating (for me, so far) is the waiting part and the unknown. When will my AF arrive? When can I really REALLY start charting? Where's my darn CM?

Good topic Celena!!!

MeggysMommy · #6 December 15th, 2009, 08:25 PM

I agree with Kelsue, that getting AF is the hardest especially when I feel like it was my month. Also before when we were TTC we weren't charting so it was a lot of guess work.