Conundrum

BigGrin · #1 January 1st, 2010, 11:50 AM

My husband leaves out of town on business during my most fertile time. (according to my chart) He will be gone 2 days so I am trying to decide how to approach the BDing. He will be getting off work (night shift) and boarding a flight that same evening....so about 5 hours between work and flight, Should I simply show him my chart and explain why we MUST BD before he leaves or dress all sexy and try to surprise him?

So far he has been very relaxed about this TTC journey whereas I've been a tad...obsessive to put it mildly. I try very hard not to make this a chore and mostly keep my neurosis to myself. But we are now going on 6 months after our loss and I am becoming twitchy. I know, I know...6 months is nothing when compared to folks who've walked this mile for years but I am a nut and patience is notably absent from my assets.

How do you ladies approach your manbeast when it come to time limitations? Just throw it on the table or subtle, seductive approach?

lex1078 · #2 January 1st, 2010, 12:06 PM

Me, personally, I would do something sexy.. or just be naked on the bed when he gets home. I would try to make DH feel like you are going to miss him so much while he is gone and things like that. I wouldn't want to make him feel "used" KWIM? But if it comes down to him saying he's not in the mood then I would throw everything out on the table, in a nice way.. don't be mean about it. If he says "no" just tell him your fertile now and feel like this is your month and try to turn it around for him, but don't pressure him.

Good luck KUP!

HopefulMommy81 · #3 January 1st, 2010, 01:42 PM

I agree with the above. Try the sexy approach but if it doesn't work, explain you really don't wanna mix out on this opportunity this month. My DH knows how important this is to me so has been very understanding and I just try to make him not feel "used" LOL....Good luck!

Kary♥RN · #4 January 1st, 2010, 01:47 PM

I have to throw it on the Table.... subtle? He is a man.... I have to walk around with a neon sign... how's that for subtle!! LOL

BigGrin · #5 January 1st, 2010, 02:16 PM

I am giggling over here picturing the neon sign. He is pretty thick sometimes and I have literally had to spell it our for him. I may just put on something slinky and almost nonexistent when he arrives home. I don't want him to feel "used" or like our intimate life has turned into a chore. Thanks for the suggestions everyone!

MeganMomof5 · #6 January 1st, 2010, 02:18 PM

You can do both...Let him know it's your time of the month, and then seduce him...GL!!!

stargatemommy · #7 January 1st, 2010, 02:43 PM

I would try sexy first and if that fails go into the explanation...

Justjessie · #8 January 1st, 2010, 04:39 PM

My DH would TOTALLY not go for sexy if he was getting off of work and thinking about going on a flight. I would literally have to tell him why. I love the being sexy idea, that's perfect...but you can only do this with some men. I, for one, could not pull it off. His dreamgirl is Jennifer Aniston and SHE couldn't even pull it off...my DH just gets too focused sometimes and he can't do more than one thing at a time.

So I hope Jennifer never wants him to get her pregnant cuz she'll have to get in line and it can be a long wait.

Do tell us what you end up doing LOL!!!

~InHisHands~ · #9 January 1st, 2010, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by lex1078

Me, personally, I would do something sexy.. or just be naked on the bed when he gets home. I would try to make DH feel like you are going to miss him so much while he is gone and things like that. I wouldn't want to make him feel "used" KWIM? But if it comes down to him saying he's not in the mood then I would throw everything out on the table, in a nice way.. don't be mean about it. If he says "no" just tell him your fertile now and feel like this is your month and try to turn it around for him, but don't pressure him.

Good luck KUP!

^^ Ditto!

.:Shortcake:. · #10 January 1st, 2010, 05:31 PM

I agree dress up sexy and seduce him!

BigGrin · #11 January 7th, 2010, 09:04 PM

So it was a complete fallout. I had a very long period followed by spotting. It cleared up for one whole day and then I have menstrual like flow again....so nope. Instead I called my OBGYN and have an appointment on the 25th to find out why my body has suddenly gone into revolt. But thanks for the suggestions ladies, they made me smile at least.