[dansyl]

Hi guys! I'm Kara (24) and DH is Derek (28). I just experience my first lost. I am excited to start TTC again when I am able. Does anyone else have fears that this will happen again? I know the only way to have a baby is to get pregnant again... but I am just so scared this will happen again... this was so hard to go through, physically and emotionally... anyone have any words of wisdom?

[Pink.Crazy]

I am terrified it will happen again, I had a missed miscarriage, so I had no idea until my ultrasound and to think I could find out that way again is heartbreaking. BUT, I really want a baby, and i have to take that risk. Getting my BFP will only be the start, I won't relax until after 12 weeks! But I know it will all be worth it, once I have a baby in my arms.
The pain is still there, i miss my bean so much.. andI can never replace the baby I lost but it does get better in time..and you do learn tomove on and try againx

[Justjessie]

Hi! I, too, had a missed miscarriage. So I had to have a D&C, I never lost her naturally. But 26 days later I got my period, and about that time I started feeling normal again and we're TTC now. You never know, it may happen again, but I am not going to sit around and worry...if it happens, it happens. I just hope it doesn't happen again!!!

I won't relax until the baby is in college LOL =)

[*MomofO&Nat*]

Welcome to the board! I am so sorry for your loss. I know it hurts so much. However, these ladies have made it so much better for me since I joined in September...to have someone to talk to that understands. I hope you find comfort here.

[mlyster]

Welcome and I am glad you decided to come over here for some support. Yes I fear this will happen again but I am one of the unlucky ones who have had multiple miscarriages (4 - all in 2009). However it is very uncommon for someone to have more than one. You will find many of us on the board but there are so many ladies that have had a miscarriage and went on to have the next pregnancy be a sticky one. Pregnancy after loss is scary but when you get there you will find another group of fabulous ladies to help you through. I hope your stay here is short and sweet!

[Kary♥RN]

Kara... I am so sorry for you loss... HUGS ... Welcome to the board. I have had it happen 2 additional times.. and I am scared to death that it will continue to happen. But my longing to have a baby out weighs my fear... HUGS and I hope your BFP comes quickly! HUGS

[Celena]

Hi Kara and

I'm sorry to welcome you under such devestating circumstances (none of us like seeing a new lady here, just means more sadness) Hope that we can help you, even if it's just a little...

I'm Celena, 32yr & DH is 31yr. We're TTCAL our first together after 2 losses this summer (long story) It was very hard emotionally, definitely one (well few) of the hardest times to go thru. Cannot even begin to describe the rash of emotions I've gone thru and am still going thru.

Words of wisdom... well that depends on what you think of as wisdom lol!

Ok all kidding aside tho, taking one day at a time and allowing yourself to grieve were a couple very big things. The fears are only natural, no one wants to go thru that sort of loss, pain, & sadness again let alone the first time to begin with... so with that experience it taints you, puts fear worries and concerns in your mind that would have never been there otherwise. It's only natural to be afraid of it happening again. Like a few of the ladies have said here... it's really up to you and how much you want to get pregnant & have a baby. I think Kary had said her want outweighs her fears; that is what keeps allot of us going on this TTCAL journey.

I Cannot say that I haven't wanted to give up and lost hope, miscarrying definitely messes with you in so many ways on so many levels, each of us on varying degrees & ways it's effected us.

Having good support is important, but knowing that if someone has not gone thru it themselves they will never fully understand what it feels like... at all. So don't be surprised that there might be some pretty ignorant folks out there that might say things that really hit you the wrong way, even if they didn't mean for it to. (ie: people think they're being supportive of you, but say something like "It's probably a good thing, there was probably something genetically wrong" OR a million other insensitive things! That goes back to they don't know what it is like emotionally or physically if they have not gone thru it themselves. It's NOT an excuse by any means.

Man, I'm rambling.

Anyways, check out the TTCAL Info Spot up top in those subforums there is a ton of info that I've come across from things that have been asked or discussed here... I hope that you enjoy being here as much as I have. Everyone is wonderful!

[KDD]

Hi Kara ~ I'm so sorry for your loss.

For me I've gone from being terrified of another loss, to being afraid I'll never get pg. If (when) I do finally get pg again, I'm sure that the thoughts of another loss will always be on my mind.

If you have any questions please ask. This is a great group - full of lots of answers and support.

[iVari]

Kara, I am so sorry that you find yourself here (((HUGS))) A loss can be devastating in so many ways. It's next to impossible to get your head around it when no one can give you solid answers. It is important to give yourself the time you need to heal and grieve, the ladies here are so wonderful and are here to listen, support and encourage you.

[dansyl]

Thanks so much guys! I am still dealing with the emotional and physical pain of miscarrying, but getting another BFP is the only thing that is giving me hope and keeping me sane. It happened the first time. I'm sure it will happen again. I have PCOS so that complicates things a little... but I have faith it will all work out in the end. I'm just trying to rest right now. I have a great DH and great friends who are more than supporting me. i look forward to getting to know all of you and I hope to find support and friendship among you ladies.

[stargatemommy]

I am sorry about your loss.

[~InHisHands~]

Hello & No words of wisdom here though I think we all have those fears... I know I do. But you can't think about it, ya know. I'm trusting the Lord to bless me & keep me safe regardless.

[dancefever]

But, welcome to the board Kara! I'm sorry you have a reason to be on this board, but everyone is very supportive and I think you'll find it useful. I just had a miscarriage in October so I still have all the same fears you do - I think we all do. I hope none of us have to go through it again!

[Natalie_Snow]

I am so sorry for your loss!! {hugs}

I was 7w3d and everything was great...then m/c happened...I am terrified it would happen again . But all we can do to have a baby is to try again... I had a m/c 34 days ago and I want to try again as soon as AF shows up.

[dansyl]

Originally Posted by Tusik

I am so sorry for your loss!! {hugs}

I was 7w3d and everything was great...then m/c happened...I am terrified it would happen again . But all we can do to have a baby is to try again... I had a m/c 34 days ago and I want to try again as soon as AF shows up.

I also want to try again as soon as AF shows up.. but I have PCOS and I'm so afraid it will be another 6 months before she shows again!!!