[Augie]

that I'll ever have a baby of my own in my arms. I want one so bad. DH claims he does to, but the last several months when it comes time to O he won't BD. He's either too tired or not feeling well. Tonight's excuse was being tired, yet he was able to stay awake and read. (And then get pi$$ed at ME for being mad.) How am I supposed to have a baby is we never have sex???

To make matters worse, I have been in pain for a week. I'm not sure, but I think I have gallstones. The pain was REALLY bad today and the ONLY reason I didn't go to the ER was that I was worried that they'd want to keep me for surgery and we wouldn't be able to catch the egg this month. So now, not only am I angry about not having sex, I'm in pain and can't do anything about it!

[brandimomof2]

I am so sorry. How long have you been trying? I would just sit down with him and talk about this. Maybe there are other reasons. I would just explain how important it is to bd near O and on O.

I would go see a Dr about your pain. I had gallbladder trouble with my daughters and I ended up having to have surgery to remove my gallbladder while I was PG with my 2nd. Its really risky and I was so worried. Luckily everything turned out fine. You really want to have it out before you get PG though. Its horrible to go through that type of pain while being PG. If it does need to be out it is a fairly simple procedure and you will recover fast.

[missy123]

I am sorry Augie... I would still go to the doctor just in case. I hope you feel better soon.

[Augie]

Brandi, we have been trying off and on for years with three losses.

I do have an appointment Friday, but with the way the pain was today, I was tempted to go to the hospital instead.

[KDD]

I'm sorry that DH is being a pain and that you're in pain. If the pain gets worse definitely go to the hospital.

[..Penelope..]

I'm so sorry, Augie

I hope the pain goes away soon or you get some answers as to what it is. Please KUP.

[Kary♥RN]

Thinking about you!!! You better call me and let me know if you went tonight.. HUGS!

[mlyster]

Augie, this is a hard road we are on. I know what you are dealing with. DH is not really "getting it" either. Perhaps your DH has some reason he avoids BDing (like that he is scared to see you hurt so much again). I would try and talk to him about it. Maybe it is completely coincidence but if its not then its good to talk about it.

Hopefully your pain does not get worse and you can wait until Friday. Keep us posted.

[~Lynda~]

Augie, hugs to you girl!!! I would sit him down quickly and tell him how you truly feel!!! don't be combative, but speak from the heart! I agree there may be some underlying reason as to why he is being difficult. But I wouldn't wait another minute! you can't do it when you're angry! won't be productive!!! good luck!

as for your pain, you gotta get that checking out asap. Friday is a long time away.
hope you feel better soon hun! HUGS

[lex1078]

I'm so sorry! Like the other girls said, you should really sit down with DH and have a discussion about TTC. I hope everything turns out OK at the Dr.'s. Please KUP.

[iVari]

I ma sorry that you have such bad pain, like the others said it would be best to get it taken care of before you are pg.

As for DH, I don't know why they are so difficult at times. I just went through the exact same thing with my dh this month. That was 5-6 days ago and I'm still piddled with him. They have all month to be tired and rest, why they can put a little extra effort in when needed is beyond me. I plan on having a serious talk with dh when I feel calm enough, I'm hoping that I can try to understand where he stands with TTC'ing and to explain to him how I feel and what we as women have to go through when it's not easy for us.

Good luck and KUP (((HUGS)))

[Celena]

Augie did you go today? Thinking about you!!!

Kary if you hear something let us know that Augie is ok, ok? Not that you wouldn't KWIM?!

[Justjessie]

My DH wants a baby (I could take it or leave it) and he doesn't want to do it but once or twice a month...and I'm fertile for what, ONE DAY????????????????? He did good this month but he won't touch me again until I'm ovulating, if football isn't on and if his friends don't want to go to the bar...so I feel your pain.

But not the gallbladder pain! See a doctor, if you do get pregnant, you don't want those!!!!

[Augie]

Update: I guess he felt bad about it, because yesterday he was MUCH more willing. Hopefully we catch the egg.