[jayepink]

I think this is the worst thing that someone can say to someone that has experienced a "chemical" pregnancy. When I called my doc yesterday to tell them of the second one, the nurse said "Oh that's just your menstrual cycle" as if I, a 33 year old doctoral student, don't know what the h*ll a menstrual cycle is. AND, I don't pass 30 or so clots with mucus and stringy blood during my normal menstrual cycles.

To make matters worse, I got a bill in the mail from them related to last month's chemical pregnancy. I had given them 3 or so of the clots I passed with the first one. They never called me with the results, but did not hesitate sending me the bill. So upon receiving the bill, I call and inquire about the results. The receptionist or nurse or whoever answered said "no products of conception were found, so you weren't pregnant." I angrily told her that I had two positive home tests and then she said "oh well, what you gave us weren't products of conception."

I have an appointment with a NEW doc tomorrow.

[MonkeyBugMommy]

I'm so sorry to hear that they treated you that way! I'm glad you're going to see a new doctor, and I hope you have a much better experience!

[~Lynda~]

isn't it funny ( and i don't mean in the ha ha kinda sense) that they make us feel like we are certifiable? i find that so many people think chemical pregnancies were not really pregnancies, which is so far from the truth!!! hugs to you girl, i'm glad you are finding a new dr. AND I am very sorry for your losses.

[Pink.Crazy]

their attitude stinks, i hope your new dr has a better idea of what's fact!!

[MeggysMommy]

I'm sorry that they put you through that kind of crap! Hoping you get some actual answers from your new doc!

[Trish36]

HUGS! I've had that told to me by a dr. as well. And this was after my beta showed a level of 16 (it had gone up to 22 and then went back down to 16) and she actually had the nerve to tell me "your test was negative". Whatever!!! Defintely time for a new doc!!

[mommy x 10]

I'm glad you're seeing a new doc. I'm sorry they treated you like that.

[lex1078]

How rude of them. I'm happy you are seeing a new Dr. I can't believe how people, especially in Dr.'s offices, can be so insensitive. It really bugs me to no end. They start taking their work for work and lose all feelings for patients. Please KUP with what the new Dr. says.

[mlyster]

I am glad you are seeing a new doctor. There is a reason HPT's are coming back positive - if they say its not a pregnancy then WHAT IS IT?!

Hopefully your new doctor will be much more helpful.

[HopefulMommy81]

Ugh, that is just so awful!!!! I got that reaction when explaining to someone the term "chemical" pregnancy and I just about had to walk away before exploding. I hope your new doctor is much more pleasant and appropriate and gets you on the road to that sticky BFP soon! I, too, have an appt with a new OB tomorow- hopefully we both love them!

[stargatemommy]

I totally know the feeling. I am so sorry. I once went into the doctor because I was spotting and knew I was miscarrying. Now this was after about 11 positive HPTs including 2 digis. When I got there and my beta was 8.5. I started crying and he said "Why are you crying? Because you thought you were pregnant?" What a jerk!

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS... I can't beleive Dr's offices can be so insentive... I am glad you are going to see a new Dr.... I hope he can bring you some answers.. and get that BFP for you!!!

[iVari]

Good Lord, I can't believe that Dr's offices can be like that. I'm so sorry that you have had to deal with that on top of what you are going through.
Wishing you the very best with a new Dr (((HUGS)))

[Celena]

What an arse! That is great that you're switching Dr's offices, if that were to happen to me I would have done the very same thing also. (and I have had too, sure allot of us have) Definitely don't hesitate to express your concerns and let them know about what you just went thru with your past office, perhaps they will be a bit more attentive especially being thru such a crappy time with the old people.

sorry to hear about the insenstive, ignorant comment!

[brandimomof2]

Well I would love to see there reaction and an explanation when you get to heaven and have a baby waiting for you that they said wasnt conception materials or you were not PG. Lord.
I cant wait to meet my angel baby in heaven.

[~InHisHands~]

I hope the new dr can help you out!

[Justjessie]

I don't blame you for switching doctors. I feel the same way, I have a Masters Degree, I know my body better than any doctor...and pregnant is pregnant. And could they refrain from calling our children "Products Of Conception?" I know it's a technical term but how rude.

They billed me for my miscarriage. I called and explained that I will not be paying for the accidental death of my third child. They weren't supposed to bill me and I knew it but I didn't appreciate thinking even for a minute that I owed 5000 for surgery I could have gone without for the res=t of my life and not lost any sleep!!!

I hope you get a great new OB!!!

[KDD]

That's horrible! I hope that you find an awesome new Dr.

[BigGrin]

I would write a letter to the physician letting himher know why they have lost your bussiness. The only way to prevent this from happening to someone else by this clueless person is to let them know they have lost $$$ due to their own stupidity. That tends to send a very strong message and get some change.

[jayepink]

I just wanted to share my updates with you all. I have copied and pasted from an email I sent to a girlfriend who's a doc in another state.

***Jumping ahead--I went to see Monica's doctor today. Her name was Dr. Kollar. She was immediately a breath of fresh air. She asked a ton of questions, which I liked. I brought in bloodwork, last pap results, and even the hormone saliva panel I had done in late '08 when my face was breaking out (remember that!). She was eager to look it over and make copies.

Then I had an extra page of notes based on things you've shared and based on things I've spent too much time reading on the internet. She was actually happy that I'd garnered so much info. from the net. She shook her head as she read down my list and she was like "yep, we're gonna do that, we're gonna do that, and that and..."

To try and be brief:

*She did a pelvic exam, said cervix was nice and long, uterus felt good and clear, even showed me exactly where uterus was and let me feel!

*She took a cervical culture

*She said (as nicely as she could out of respect for previous doc) that it would've probably been best to wait at least a cycle after the first loss before trying again, uterine lining was not built back up she said--which makes MUCHO sense, because I only bled for 2 days this time, by the third day it was so light and only lasted half of the third day

*She said the reason the lab results from my blood clots said "no product of conception found" was because the loss was so early. She said I would've needed to submit fetal tissue which hadn't exactly formed yet.

*She ordered the blood work right away! I went to the lab today. I have never been so happy to give 12 vials of blood! (not that I do that on the regular )

*She told me to take extra folic acid, an extra 400-1000 mg and also to take a baby aspirin per day.

*The only thing on my "list" that she told me it would be difficult to test for was natural killer cell activity. But at least we are getting somewhere, and will at the very least be able to eliminate some things.

*She even got a little personal, in a good way. With me putting *ALL* of my reproductive history, the good, bad, ugly she looked at me and said "You know these losses have nothing to do with anything in the past, right? You're not being punished for anything." I know that in my heart, but I needed to hear that from someone. I know God has forgiven me, but any woman that has had an abortion and has reproductive troubles later always wonders...


*She said give it a few months to try again. I definitely am. It's too emotional and my crazy behind is taking 6 hours this semester. I could not do that, work full time, and try to ride the emotional roller coaster too. But like you'd said, the uterus needs some time!

The right medical personnel can make or break a woman after these heartbreaking experiences. I've read so many stories of women on the internet that went to the ER and after getting blood drawn, the Hcg would be so low that the ER doc would tell them something like "oh you must've just thought you were pregnant" --worst thing someone can say at a time like that in my opinion

I am feeling so much better after my appointment with Dr. Kollar. She was so reassuring and she just kept saying "we're going to figure this out" and she was very sincere about it.

So... to God be the glory! ***