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January 5th, 2010, 10:19 AM
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This week and last have been extremely hard and emotional roller coasters for me idk why. Ive cried at least every other day and feel like i just wanna scream at the top of my lungs cause im so pissed off. i was doing good yesterday till i read a comment on a pic my mom posted on her fb a lady she did daycare for years ago they were talking about wedding dresses and commented on a pic of me and my fiancee saying she hopes her daughter could wear her dress one day cause they were suppose to have there ceremony in june but she preggers again and due the day after her sons first bday almost exactly a month after i was suppose to be due she got preggera 3 months after her kid was born and got to keep her baby and mine was taken away soo not fair
that sent me in to a tail spin it brought up all the questions again and make upset again why does this keep happening and will it ever stop im so sick of be upset, sad and angry all the time
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January 5th, 2010, 11:58 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Oh HUN... what you are feeling is totally normal... I still have little things that set me off.. Some things just hurt worse than other days.... You might have read the same thing tomorrow.. and it might not as hit as hard... You have bad days, worse days... and days that you will think.. wow it was so bad of a day. No matter what we are here for you.. We understand.. come rant, vent, scream, cry... what ever it is you need to do that day! HUGS!
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January 5th, 2010, 12:20 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Oh, I am the QUEEN OF ANGER.... It was all so hard for me. It is just for the past 2 months that it has gotten easier, but for the first 7 months I was a mess.
(((Hugs))) It is ok, it is completely normal.... Dont hide your feelings as it makes it worse. Feel free to vent away here, we understand!
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January 5th, 2010, 12:30 PM
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Im sorry for your loss.I just had a miscarriage on the 21rst of December. I am still pretty angry too. I have a huge mix of emotions though. I go from sad to just mad to fursterated. I feel kinda bad though because I have been feeling anger towards my friends that are pregnant because they are doing fine and I lost my baby. I am supposed to be pregnant right now. We had such plans for this baby and we had been trying for several months. It hurts so much. I am kinda glad I found this section though so I can talk to others feeling the same way I do.
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January 5th, 2010, 01:18 PM
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Yes, the anger is totally normal. I'm sorry that you had to read comments on FB that upset you. It seems some days that no matter what you do, read, watch on tv, or talk about that babies or pregnancy is brought up and each and every time it stings so bad. I have some good days, but most of the time I am bitter, angry and resentful.
I hope that your time is coming soon and that you can feel better too. (((HUGS)))
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January 5th, 2010, 02:06 PM
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This reminds me of yesterday. I was watching tv and every channel had someone pregnant or thinking they were pregnant and then on the **** commercials there was hpt commercials. I was so frusterated. .....sigh.
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January 5th, 2010, 05:08 PM
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The one thing that has helped me the most is the pg loss study that we are actually about to start on the Christian Parenting board. I'm so sorry you are having a hard time but know that I think we all have our "down" days.
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January 5th, 2010, 05:28 PM
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Kelly, Massachusetts Mama
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It is SO hard, and it seems pregnancy is EVERYWHERE. I don't know your age, but everyone my age is having babies and it hurts so bad when you see them growing while you are no longer. I had a lot of anger, jealousy, etc. Don't beat yourself up for it, I am sure everyone on here has had the same or similar feelings at one time or another. I hope tomorrow is a better day!
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January 5th, 2010, 05:34 PM
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Really Just Angela
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I am feeling the same way. But SO much happened in my life since my miscarriage...I think I can say "Oh I'm not mad about the baby." But since I think EVERYTHING SUCKS ALL THE TIME, and it never was like that before, I think I miss my baby and I'm mad about the miscarriage!
A coworker is due when I was due and she's all popped and cute and my son's dance teacher is due then too and she is also pooped and cute...and I'm just fat. Actually I lost my pregnancy weight...so I think I look good...but I'd rather be popped and cute. Or popped and fat. Whatever...just want that baby back =(
Coming here so totally helps =)
Oh and I love your daughter's name...Savvy Rose...gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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January 5th, 2010, 07:18 PM
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Im 26 ill be 27 in march and yes pregnancy is every where i wish there was a place where we could all go where we werent bombarded on daily basis with it i was doing good for a while there and i dont know what it is but something set me off and its taking longer to get out of this funk then it has before but the anger was something new that came this time thaks for letting me know it was normal lol i thought i was going crazy
Thanks ive loved that name forever and would still love to use it one day but idk what others would think if i did that
Thanks for the articals i read all of them they helped some
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January 6th, 2010, 08:05 AM
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Kat I agree it seems like we do get bombarded when we're in such a dark place.... it would be easier if the lights were OFF so we wouldn't have to see baby bumps  grr!
Ya know about not being sure what set you off, here's an example of time I was set off by what I don't know.... was driving along, sunny day, good variety of songs on the radio nothing sad, then BAM! bawling uncontrollably... had pulled into a grocery store parking lot for a few until I could clear some of the tears up. It stayed that way more than just that day then sprinkled with pissed off at the world spice.
It's like a rollar coaster you're riding in the dark, you have no clue which way your emotions will take you sometimes... while you're on this ride we'll be right there next to you to be some support, as much as we can be.
 I'm so sorry this is a real rough time
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