[kansasgal]

Do you ever get sick of everyone close to you giving their opinion on what you should and shouldnt do. I dont mind it if I ask but if I dont ask then just leave it alone.....seriously. I have people telling me how long I should wait and why and its annoying. Its my body and my life and I can do what I want. I am also sick of people telling me well since you were only a little over 5 weeks its not that big of a deal. They say well it wasnt developed very far so its not like it was a full baby. If I hear that one more time I may scream! I know they are probably just trying to make me feel better but that is not working. Does anyone else have this happen to them with family or close friends?

[MeganMomof5]

The only thing I hear is from my mom sometimes...She's brought up the fact that my son will be in school in a year and a half and that it would be a good time for me to have a baby then...She doesn't know i'm TTC, and it's not her buisness....She's said it more than one time....I'm not going to let anyone tell me when the right time is...They aren't going threw what I am...She doesn't know what it's like to lose a baby...I'm sure if it were her, she wouldn't want to wait 2 years before even having another baby...ugh sorry for my little rant.

[mommy x 10]

I sure do! Since we have 9 children most of our family thinks we should have been done awhile back. Most of my family didn't say anything about the baby. It bothered me a little but I guess they didn't want to bring it up and upset me. Which was a good call because they probably would have said something stupid. I did have some that talked to me about it right after and they said some hurtful things. I know they were trying to comfort me so I didn't hold it against them. But yes, I can totally relate to unwanted advice about having children.

[Trish36]

You know people will say anything without thinking, especially if they've never had a loss. they think they are making you feel better where in fact they are not. The best thing a person can say is "I'm sorry" and leave it at that.
I've heard many different comments..'it's better that way', 'better now than later', 'at least you have your other kdis', 'you are just getting too old', 'did you want it?' (that one really pissed me off) 'you can try again', 'just take it easy and it will happen'.
HUGS!!!!

[.:Shortcake:.]

Super big hugs! There are always going to be people out there that make rude comments. You just have to try to think positive and remember that they might be trying to help even though they really aren't.

[Natalie_Snow]

I do. I am glad that only several people knew about my pregnancy. and still, they make plenty of annoying comments. The most common is that it was just an embryo. Well, according to my beliefs it had a soul already. Therefore, I miss that soul very much now. But, of course, I do not go into detail about my beliefs with anybody except my husband. I am polite and I do not interrupt people when they say that God took him (but that is very annoying to me too because I do not believe in heaven). I know they mean well, but I prefer not to talk about it.

The "best" comment/question I recently got from a husband's cousin was, "So, when are you guys going to have your own baby?" I am pretty sure she knew about about my recent m/c, and in the light of that I do not consider that a nice question. The room was full of relatives and they all stopped talking & were staring at me waiting for my answer (some of them knew about m/c).

[Kary♥RN]

It is taboo to my family.. not even mentioned... like I was never pregnant, once, twice or three times!! SO I don't have to deal with that.... I am not really sure which one is worse???