[EVY&EGYsMommy]

Hi girls. If you missed my intro...I miscarried Fri night/sat morn at 5 weeks. I thought I was doing pretty good...then...

My dh told one of his close friends about it and today his wife (a friend of mine) called and left me a message to know they are thinking of us and all that...well she herself is like 13-14 weeks pregnant and she starts almost crying on the message.

Which got to me. But I was ok..

And then...I go check out my PR and two MORE of my PR buddies are pregnant. (There are like 12 of them now...you may want to go ask them for some of their water in there! LOL)

UGH. Seriously I thought I was fine but reading their stories made me feel sooooooo sad (tho I am soooooo happy for both of them of course...I love my PR girls so very much!). It is so weird.....the way I felt. I wasn't expecting it. Like I got hit my a bus.

How did you all feel after when friends got pregnant? How did you deal?

[~InHisHands~]

Oh, it's def rough for me. I often try to avoid pg stories, depending on the day. Though you can't avoid everything so I usually, when I do get depressed, read my Bible. That usually snaps me out of it!

[scunch]

I am so truly sorry you are going through this. We all know how you feel. I try to put the shoe on the other foot and imagine how your friends feel. They are definitely hurting for you as well. Huge to you.

[mommy x 10]

I know exactly how you feel. It was so hard when all the girls kept announcing that they were pregnant back in Nov/Dec. Seems like every day 1 or 2 more would announce. I mean I was happy for them, I really was, but it was hard. It doesn't bother me now and the new BFP's didn't bother me, but it made me feel so sad then. I guess it was just because it was so close to my loss and the fact that my miscarriage drug out so long.

I also found that some days I was fine and could talk about it and other days I'd break down in tears at the slightest mention or thought. I went back and forth between feeling ok and not for awhile, well I still go back and forth sometimes.

[missy123]

I am so sorry for your loss. We all understand how you feel as we have been where you are. It has been 9 months for me and I still feel sad sometimes when I see a pregnant woman. It should be me, I should be holding my baby right now and I am just empty. It is hard and painful and the hardest thing ever to go through. ((Hugs)) we are here for you. I wish I could do something to make it easier for you but the only thing I can do is offer an ear to listen.

[EVY&EGYsMommy]

Originally Posted by mommy x 7

I know exactly how you feel. It was so hard when all the girls kept announcing that they were pregnant back in Nov/Dec. Seems like every day 1 or 2 more would announce. I mean I was happy for them, I really was, but it was hard. It doesn't bother me now and the new BFP's didn't bother me, but it made me feel so sad then. I guess it was just because it was so close to my loss and the fact that my miscarriage drug out so long.

I also found that some days I was fine and could talk about it and other days I'd break down in tears at the slightest mention or thought. I went back and forth between feeling ok and not for awhile, well I still go back and forth sometimes.

I figure you would know EXACTLY how I feel! Thanks for the insight. I am so happy it is getting easier for you and I and praying you get that BFP asap!!

And thanks to the other ladies as well. It is so great to know I am not alone (tho I wish you were not all feeling this way ) Thank you so much for the support!

[HopefulMommy81]

Oh, hon, like all the other ladies, said, we know how you feel. It's really rough sometimes hearing about other people's pregnancies/babies. Sometimes it's fine, but other times it's not. Not sure why some days are good and others are bad. I really hope you get that sticky BFP soon! (((HUGS)))

[Celena]

First I want to say I'm sorry that you're in so much emotional pain. It's traumatizing, one of the most painful experiences a woman could ever go thru in her life.

Here's some things I had felt... hope that it helps you know that you're *OK* for feeling the way you do. You're far from a bad person, just a person that is hurting, badly inside and it's ok not to be 110% excited for others at the moment. The joy will come when you're in a better place, but right now you have to take care of you most importantly... others will have to just understand and deal.

Well thru the months prior I wasn't excited when my friends would find out they were pregnant... none of them were really trying that in itself was frustrating. Then I had become pregnant in June only to lose the baby at the end of July, then got pg again right away then to lose that one to a dr's mistake... sometimes I wonder if I would have handled them differently if they weren't so close. I was on a rollarcoaster... my niece was born the day I lost our first baby over the summer. I cried, I'm sorry, but I bawled my eyes out. Found it so hard to even be around anything, anyone who was pg I had to advert my eyes because I would start crying uncontrollably. Fricken radio had a bazillion fertility commercials on out of no where... it was everywhere and everyone. Sent me into a deep depression that actually opened up old wounds... I'm still dealing with it to be honest with you. 6+ months later and I'm really just now feeling closer to some sort of normalcy. Don't get me wrong I have my bad days and really weak times... but that's just it time is a healer. Also going to a counsellor has helped, it opens Pandora's box and for the rest of a day I'm a mess, but it's a good mess... you have to go thru the grief, the pain, the sadness to heal. Healing is what we're trying to achieve... some handle it better than others, some handle it in a variety or ways and it can manifest itself out of no where months, weeks, days later. It's not the same for everyone that's for sure, but just know that you're not entirely alone.

In the Pregnancy Loss & TTCAL Info Spot, there's quiet a few helpful articles & letters that people have written... I found them help me accept what I was feeling was ok and that it was a part of my grieving process. Hope that it can help you too.

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS.... All I can say is it is hard to see other people getting what you once had, and no longer. I have had three losses... and with each loss, I have people in my life that have gotten to keep thier pregnanices.. or that are still pregnant.. It is hard to see thier milestones.. and know I will never have those milestones.. with the babies I have lost. Thier will be no "firsts". I can't really say if it gets better... Since I should have a six month old, a 4 month old... and I should be in my 22week of pregnancy..... So I still have have another EDD to get through.. I have 2 first birthdays that I still have look toward... and 2 more year angelversarries... It is so hard.. but I come here to were I have a great ladies who understand, support, and can relate with what I am feeling.

I am sorry you are having a bad day... I know how bad days go... it is hard.. and we are here for you.. HUGS!

[EVY&EGYsMommy]

Thank you so much Celena for sharing your story. It helps when people are so transparent...makes me feel less alone.

I am so sorry for your losses and hope you get that sticky bean asap!!