[JesSsica]

Tonight I had a working dinner. The doctors at the practice where I work were invited to a dinner regarding the launch of a new product. I was invited also because I run the department. They want ME to listen and learn and then they can have lots of wine and just visit. LOL

One of the doctors there has been married for several years. He and his wife struggled with infertility for many years but she's now 20ish weeks pregnant with a little boy. I was pregnant and due 4 weeks after her with my pregnancy that ended in my missed miscarriage.

He knows that I was pregnant. He knows that I had a loss. In his defense, he works at our satellite office and doesn't see me daily.

Back story: Last Christmas he and I were both involved in a weight loss challenge. We did a little smack talking and had a side bet going about who would have the biggest percentage of weight lost. Long story short, I lost the 30lbs I wanted to lose and won so he forked over $320 to me.

I gained a little bit of it back through the first part of 2009 but then gained 8lbs during my first trimester. After my loss I got depressed and did a lot of emotional eating. I gained another 5lbs. This puts me 13lbs heavier than my pre-pregnancy weight and about 20lbs up from my post-weight loss challenge weight.

He asks me at dinner tonight, "How are you doing since the weight loss challege?" I just said that I'd done ok for the first part of the year but the last few months have been a little rough. He went on and on and on about it. He didn't let up. For one I was feeling frumpy because my clothes are tight and I refuse to buy new clothes when I WILL lose the weight, but for two, enough already, dude!

He was talking a lot about his wife's pregnancy too. Don't get me wrong I'm SO happy for them because they have been struggling for years and I have two kids, but it's still so hard to hear when *I* should be 23 weeks pregnant right now. I know he knows I had a loss, he doesn't know about the second loss, I just kept getting the feeling that he didn't care.

Ok, rant over. I just was in such a predicament and I didn't want to bring up my loss and rain on his parade but he got so hard to listen to. This has GOT to get easier....

[BigGrin]

You are a better person than me, I would've snapped something nasty like, "Well I wanted to be big and pregnant now like your wife but as YOU know, I lost my baby." Sometimes people need to be brought low to finally get the hint to be sensitive to these things. I am having a bad night so I really feel your pain.

[wildchihuahua]

Yeah, I probably would have reminded him about my loss if I were you. Way to be the bigger person! Sorry he was so insensitive. <hugs>

[Kary♥RN]

I have to agree with Tessa!! You are such a better person than me.... I would have gotten very snippy.. and just tell him to shove his weight loss comment where the sun doesn't shine... and than I would have said... the whole story... while yes I know.. why I have gained my weight.... A-hole!

[*MomofO&Nat*]

I agree with the first post and it had me LOL...whew, that would have shut him up fast, eh?

[noworries]

Yep, sounds like you are a better person that most of us here.

[dancefever]

I agree with the other ladies, I probably would have ever so nicely reminded him of what happened

But, I hope it gets easier for you soon hun. We're all here for you! HUGS! xx

[Justjessie]

Yeah, I am totally the smallest person ever and I would have been I know he doesn't know how you just lost another...but if you EVER lost one even 600 years ago...yikes!

I think he is jealous that you lost the weight and he can not stand your hotness.