is this normal do you think?

mafiamom · #1 January 29th, 2010, 09:45 AM

now that i am totally back to normal (well i dont know exactly what my hcg levels are, but no more spotting at all) i have these feelings that i am ready to try again already.

is it wrong to want to move on so quickly? i feel like i should be more upset about trying again then i am. right now i feel almost like i have to prove i can make a perfect baby.

thoughts?

SkyBaby · #2 January 29th, 2010, 09:50 AM

If you're ready, go for it! It took me a cycle's worth of time to get ready to try again emotionally. Every woman is different.

mommy x 10 · #3 January 29th, 2010, 09:55 AM

Everyone seems to feel different about it and I think some go back and forth about it. I was ready to try again real soon, but also scared that this would happen again at the same time. For me thinking about another pregnancy helped me not to focus on my loss. And I felt like I am supposed to be pregnant right now, so I wanted to get pregnant again as soon as possible. Now that that a couple of months have passed I don't feel as obsessed with getting pregnant, I still really want to be pregnant soon but I don't feel like I did at first. Now I feel like it's in God's hands and if I'm supposed to have another baby then I will when the time is right. But I'm still charting because I like to try to see what is going on and all.

mafiamom · #4 January 29th, 2010, 10:00 AM

^^^ i am completely freaked that i will m/c again, but i almost think if i wait too long i will chicken out completely. i am 38 going to be 39 in march. i dont have a lot of time to dither.... but i also have increase chances of something going wrong.

~sigh~

*Maddie&Jacobs*Mommy* · #5 January 29th, 2010, 11:05 AM

I think if you are ready go for it. I had also just stopped spotting from my m/c. I thought I was gonna want to wait, but I also feel like I am ready to try again... You have to do what you feel is right for you!

nutmeg116 · #6 January 29th, 2010, 01:22 PM

I didn't want to try again anytime soon at first either. But then I started charting and the OPKs just to get a handle on what was "normal" for me, and when I saw the surge happen I knew that nothing was going to stop me from giving it my best shot! I'm now 9 DPO, and just a few more days to see if we did it this round!

Kary♥RN · #7 January 29th, 2010, 02:12 PM

Colleen, HUGS... not it is not to soon. And just because you are ttc again, doesn't mean you have forgoten about the baby you lost. It is ok to ttc again, It is ok to look forward. And it is ok to be scared. I don't think a woman on this board would tell you it is not in the back of thier minds every time it is time to test... That is why we are here... We all have the same feelings.. HUGS! I know I do!!!

EVY&EGYsMommy · #8 January 29th, 2010, 02:23 PM

For me all I wanted was to start trying again! And we are. Got that first pos OPK today and hoping maybe we catch this one.

I was reading online that for some people jumping back into it is their way of healing....while others need time to heal. It is all normal

mafiamom · #9 January 30th, 2010, 08:34 AM

thank you all so much for your replies and thoughts. i cant tell you how glad i am to have found this board at such at difficult time.

hugs to all of you

KDD · #10 January 30th, 2010, 08:37 AM

At first I didn't think that I would ever be ready to try again. But I changed my mind and jumped back into TTC right away. I think that it helped me to move on.