[ldovey83]

I have been bottling up my emotions and I am just going crazy... i mentioned on someone else's post about this, but I just had new neighbors move in next door.. Well i am thrilled to finally have another mother to talk to, but the hard part is she is pregnant and has a due date of April 10th which is 2 days before when I was due with my last miscarriage.. It has been hard enough that it is already cycle 5 since the whole methotrexate injections and I still havn't gotten pregnant.. I cry everytime AF shows.... DH understands to a degree, but now that he finally started his new job Idon't know when we will find the time anymore... He has been having these strange hours.. I havn't seen him since 6pm Fri evening and i am not going to see him till sunday at 4am.. i miss him.. If anyone has any ideas on how to find us time I would appreciate it.. I do have a 2and a half year old who dosen't nap...Thanks for letting me vent.

[LisaG825]

What are his hours at work and are you working or a sahm? I am working and my DH is a cop. He just started this job in Nov. so he has crazy hours. He just started back at school so it makes things even harder on us. I know how you feel.

[mafiamom]

i am so sorry you are going thru a hard time. i can totally relate how difficult it is to be around someone who is due when you were. my niece is pregnant and due 2 weeks before i would have been.

i think it is pretty important for your dh to really try hard to spend some extra time with you. please sit down and talk with him. tell him how much you need him, especially now. i know how stressful it is to be starting a new job (my dh owns his own company - he is pretty much perpetually stressed out!). do you have anyone who can watch your toddler so you guys can plan a date night every month? it is amazing how just that little amount of time together can really help.

HUGE hugs. i hope things get better for you.

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS... I am so sory you are feeling this way... my SIL was two weeks ahead of me.. So every time I saw her... it was a reminder of what I lost... And now when I see my neice.. it is still a reminder. As much as I love her.... it hurts.

I am so sorry.... about the bd time.... except for the option of asking someone to watch him... you might have to get creative.... I am not sure... does he watch movies.. that you could put in a movie...(I don't know how you feel about him being in the next room, than again he is 2, so if you have a TV in your room... you have blankets... than again I don't know how you feel about him being in the same room) and have him be occupied... for a few mins... and than have dh sit with him so you dont have to get up... try to give those swimmers the best chance.. Good Luck.. HUGS

[ldovey83]

Thanks ladies.. DH's work schedule right now is hectic cause he is in the training period.. His hours since he started thurs were he worked 4pm till midnight.. Then went in a midnight Fri night and worked till 8 am Sat morning then he is going in again at 8pm tonight and working till 4 am and then he goes in tomorrow from 4pm till midnight but then is off Monday.. So I hope that he gets more settled in to a time schedule here soon.. Security jobs have wacky hours.. My son does watch movies and what not..i was thinking iwill probably haveto put his baby gate up.... LOL Thanks for all the advice and hugs and just listening.

[LisaG825]

I work from 8-3 Monday -Friday. My DH works from 7pm-3am Wed, Thurs & Fri. Sat he works 11am-11pm and Sunday 3pm-11pm. Mon. and Tues he has off although occasionally gets called in on those days. He just started school so now he has school M-F from 8:00 am-11:00 am. We don't have kids. Not sure how easy you DH is to get up but mine is awful or how long he sleeps. What if he watches your son while you take a nap and then when he gets home around midnight you guys could have a little time. I have taken naps and then stayed up til 3am til my dh gets home so I can see him.

[JesSsica]

I'm so sorry.

My mom teaches at my kids' school and there's another teacher there who was due just weeks before me. I see her frequently when I'm dropping off/picking up and she's got such a nice, big tummy now. I would be 25 weeks now. It's hard to see her but on the other hand I'm nothing but happy for her. It's so hard sometimes.

Good luck...............

[j&jmom]

I'm sorry about your new neighbor . . . it seems like everyone is pg now and all I see are baby things everywhere . . . and it is so upsetting to want something so bad . . . regardless of all the statistics that tell you that m/c are common and natural it isn't easy. About your dh's crazy hours . . . I got my boys on a consistent sleep schedule and my dh is also a student an hour from our home and in the military so he has crazy hours sometimes. I just fall asleep with the boys if I have to so I can wake up when he gets home. You can be really creative when you need to. It isn't always romantic, but it can still be fun!

[.:Shortcake:.]

I'm sorry he has such crazy hours... my DH has some crazy ones too but sometimes you have to make do. Spur of the moment times are awesome.