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February 1st, 2010, 06:49 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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they just depress me. 
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February 1st, 2010, 08:19 AM
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Super Mommy
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I do the same thing, but I can't seem to make myself stop
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February 1st, 2010, 08:52 AM
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There for a while i was constantly looking back at where they were but i became more and more depressed by looking at them. I try not to look but sometimes i slip up and look.
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February 1st, 2010, 10:16 AM
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I feel ya...I am the same way... I look at their trackers and think I should be that far by now
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February 1st, 2010, 12:14 PM
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I never went back.... When I was in the Sept 2009 DDC.. I had posted that I had lost my Heartbeat.. and a post was posted about how losses made them sad, and they shouldn't be posted... I left and never went back... When I got Pregnant in Aug... I never even went to the May DDC... I don't know if I will ever join a DDC again... it is just tooo hard.
But If I do.. and loose another baby.... I will just disapear.. will not even post, and wont go back... ever.
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February 1st, 2010, 12:39 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I am with you Kary - I can't go back. I may join one the next go around, but not until much later, after I feel comfortable that I will not have to leave.
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February 1st, 2010, 02:31 PM
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oh kary that is so terrible. i cant believe they said that. i am sorry, but losses are part of it, and they were supposed to be there for you. i think i am mad!!!
that's it - we will make our OWN DDC - the strong amazing women of the TTCAL DDC!! open to all who go thru hell and come out the other side - battle scarred but blazing!!
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February 1st, 2010, 03:48 PM
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i went back once last week worst mistake i ever made lol i have them hidden so i dont even have to see them it makes it eaier not to look
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February 1st, 2010, 05:56 PM
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Me too. My friend just posted pics on her facebook page and we were 4 weeks apart. She was already getting a baby bump when I had my m/c in Dec. and she was only about 11 1/2 -12 weeks at the time. I never really even got a baby bump
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February 1st, 2010, 07:54 PM
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I haven't been back in a long time. I think it would be hard for me. I still have moments where I think about how far along I'd be right now and it hurts.
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February 1st, 2010, 08:24 PM
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Newbie
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Okay, trying to figure out all these acronymns. What does DDC stand for???
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February 1st, 2010, 10:28 PM
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DDC= Due date club.
I go back to the August DDC occasionally, but I never post. I skip over the symptoms/health stuff and mostly read venting posts, or the ones talking about what to buy. I have been staying away lately though, it's more depressing the farther it gets.
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February 2nd, 2010, 06:47 AM
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I made the mistake of returning to my DDC last week (on the first day of my period). Crap, guys, don't do that!! Why did I think I would be totally fine seeing all of these ladies and their cute baby bellies? All it did was remind me of what I should have had.
Unlike Kary's experience, though, they were all incredibly supportive when I told them of my loss last year and I'm sure I will join the new club once I get KU.
Well, probably. We'll see...
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February 2nd, 2010, 12:47 PM
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Kary..that is HORRIBLE. I remember when I was pregnant with my daughter all the early losses we had in my DDC. We also had a later loss of a twin. None of us would have dared say something like that! Life is HARD, life is SAD. How selfish of those women. Shame on them! WHEN you get pregnant with that sticky bean I DO hope you eventually join a DDC. I know I LOVE my now PR buddies and have made life long friends.
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February 2nd, 2010, 05:38 PM
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I went to my DDC a few times after my loss and even offered them a few words of support. It hurt but I wanted to try to keep up with them. By my 4th post they just stopped replying to me. I think they felt uncomfortable because I had a loss or like I had a disease they may catch. So I stayed away for about 6 months and a few weeks ago made the HUGE mistake of going to the playgroup... To see how their babies are 3-4 months old broke my heart.
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February 4th, 2010, 05:51 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Location: California
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I keep making the mistake of peeking in too, It takes me back every time
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i really need to stop lurking in the DDC.
