How do you keep going? "for our Oldies"

Kary♥RN · #1 February 3rd, 2010, 01:46 PM

This is for our "older members"..... To help the "Newbies"..

How do you keep trying Month after month, Loss after loss???

KDD · #2 February 3rd, 2010, 03:36 PM

I'm stubborn!

I refuse to give up.

Kary♥RN · #3 February 3rd, 2010, 04:11 PM

For me.. I want my dh to have a child of his own... I want my Inlaws to have a bilogical grandchild.... I want to see that magic of the firsts... the first lighting bug, or the first time they see a butterfly, Christmas Morning.... So for those reasons.. my want for all these.. is greater then the fear of loosing again, or never having...

ldovey83 · #4 February 3rd, 2010, 04:47 PM

I struggle with this one myself.. Each month when AF shows i always cry, and i wonder why everyone else gets pregnant and why I havn't... God has been working on me and teaching my valuable lessons the last couple of wks, and so right now my answer to this question would be God.. He gives me strength to keep going and I know that in HIS timing it will happen... That is what keeps me going.. I hope that helps.. HUGS!!

Augie · #5 February 4th, 2010, 06:59 AM

For me, like Kary, I really want to give DH a child. It was one of the first things we talked about as a couple. We want kids. Yes, we have talked about (and will) adopt, but we still want a living biological child.

mlyster · #6 February 4th, 2010, 09:21 AM

I'm like KDD. I am stubborn. Each month gets easier and harder at the same time... but I am too stubborn to stop.

Celena · #7 February 4th, 2010, 11:28 AM

I concure... I'm stubborn as he!! and we're determined to bring a healthy baby(ies) into our family to complete our family. Dh has kids with an ex's, I have kids with an ex and we would like to together.

I never thought I would ever have anymore children after my ex and I split up, even after the 3 live children we had together I had gotten a 10yr IUD because I thought we were pretty much done.

But come years later and a new husband... who eventually was bitten by the baby bug, bugging me to have a baby get my IUD out (well, I wanted to have a baby with him too obviously) so here were are nearly 2 years later. Going on our 3rd loss... After our 2nd loss this summer I was DETERMINED that the next time I had gotten pregnant it was going to be the "charm" how little did I know? However, I think this baby is literally a blessing an angel that is going to help point the Dr's to giving us answers and help us bring healthy sibling(s) into our hearts, arms & family.

I hope I didn't ramble too much...

Moral of the story.... *HOPE & LOVE* is what keeps us going.

MeggysMommy · #8 February 4th, 2010, 12:01 PM

Well I'm kind of in that transition between "newbie" and "oldie" so I figured I would post here. I am so determined to give DH a baby. I want my parents and his parents to have that first grandchild. I want to be able to see my baby on Christmas', birthdays, Thanksgivings, etc and watch them grown and learn.