Forum: Trying to Conceive after Loss
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February 3rd, 2010, 07:02 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Hi. My name is Amy. I'm a Mom to two wonderful little boys. I was pregnant with #3 but m/c in about the 7th week (so fairly early). At the time it was sad, but I had no idea how hard it would be to pass pregnancy milestones...like knowing that I would have been finding out if bean was a boy/girl. It's been rough. I know nothing like having a later loss, but I've still had a rough go of it.
Hubby and I are planning to start TTC again. The only reason why we haven't yet is because we're going to try and "sway" so I'm charting (started in Dec) for a few months to try and figure out when exactly I ovulate.
Of course all we really want is another healthy little baby to complete our family, but we figure it can't hurt to try for a little pink around here...and actually, hubby has dreamt of a girl since baby #1. I always said I'd want 4 boys...but since our m/c I really just want another baby, pink, blue, green, orange...doesn't matter to me. lol
Anyway, now you also see I talk a lot. I'm very sorry to all of you for the losses you've experienced adn I look forward to getting to know you and hearing about a lot of BFP's that lead to healthy little beans.
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February 3rd, 2010, 07:07 PM
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i am so sorry about your loss, but so glad you are here with us! i pray that we get to kick you out very quickly due to a wonderful healthy sticky bean!!!
i am colleen and i am waiting for my cycles to get back to normal after i lost my baby at 8+4. waiting stinks, but this is a great board and the women here are wonderful!
welcome
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February 3rd, 2010, 07:12 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Hi welcome to JM!!
I'm sorry for your loss.  You were further along than I was. I was probably only 5-6 weeks.
I don't know anything about later on losses. I know both early losses and later losses hurt.
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February 3rd, 2010, 07:16 PM
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Hi! I'm so sorry to both of you. I hope we all get BFP's that stick very, very soon!  I'm looking forward to getting to know you all. It's nice to have a place where everyone understands taht with the anticipation and excitement of TTC we also have an awful lot of anxiety and fear.
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February 3rd, 2010, 07:25 PM
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Amy Welcome!! I am glad you made it over! I just responded to you your other questions on the Welcome page..
I am Kary 34, Dh Tom 35.. We have been TTC for 18 months... we have had 3 confirmed losses. I am so sorry your journey has brought you here... But I am glad you have found us.. The ladies of this board are just Amazing! WELCOME!
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February 4th, 2010, 03:23 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Hi and welcome! I'm so sorry for your loss...
I'm Jessica, my dh is Pat, and I have two kids who are 9 and 7 1/2. My dh has no kids of his own so we'll see what happens there. I've had two losses since getting married last May. It stinks, I tell ya!
I hope you are pregnant really, really soon!
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Madison Rey 11-24-2000
Cole Anthony 5-23-2002
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^angel^ 11wks, 1 day 5-22-10 with D&C
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February 4th, 2010, 06:15 AM
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Waiting patiently....
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Sorry for your loss. Welcome to the board, the ladies here are wonderful.
I'm Stephanie, DH is Neal. We have no living children. 3 angels watching over us. I lost twin girls at 23 weeks gestation and a miscarriage at 9.5 weeks. I'm just waiting on AF now to start really TTC again.
I hope you get your BFP soon!!
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February 4th, 2010, 06:45 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Hello to all of you. It's comforting to know there are others out here like me, but so very sad to read of all your losses. I'm sorry that any of you are here, but at the same time glad someone can relate.
I have felt very guilty in the last few months over being upset about my loss since I do have two beautiful boys. I feel like I need to just be thankful for what I do have, but try as I may I still feel sadness over my loss. Perhaps some of you can relate to that.
I look forward to getting to know you all and hope you all have healthy little beans soon!
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“Before you were conceived, I wanted you...
Before you were born, I loved you...
Before you were here an hour, I would die for you...
This is the miracle of love.” -Maureen Mansfield
 (6),  (3) and a  due Dec. 25, 2011 and one  up above and forever in our hearts.
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February 4th, 2010, 06:50 AM
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i think it is totally normal to feel sad over a loss even with living children. we are trying to add to our family - a member who will be lovec, and contribute to all our memories. it is sad to have all that taken away even tho we are blessed with other children.
that being said, i will say i hug my little girl a bit tighter at times since this has happened!
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February 4th, 2010, 03:22 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Yes, Colleen, I can definitely say I hug my boys a bit tighter since the loss of my little bean. I am a "high risker" but I always thought my "problem" was going into labor prematurely...I never really thought about the realities of a m/c. I should have since I had bleeding with both pregnancies pretty much from day one right through the middle of my second trimesters. But, since I ended up with two healthy kids it kind of came as a shock to me to lose the little bean...granted I hadn't known for that long that I was pregnant.
I'm just hoping that I can have a normal pregnancy without all the scary stuff the next time around. If there even is a such thing as "normal" pregnancy. LOL
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“Before you were conceived, I wanted you...
Before you were born, I loved you...
Before you were here an hour, I would die for you...
This is the miracle of love.” -Maureen Mansfield
 (6),  (3) and a  due Dec. 25, 2011 and one  up above and forever in our hearts.
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February 4th, 2010, 03:32 PM
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Welcome Amy!
I'm glad to have you join us and jump in as you're gearing up to TTCAL... I'm so sorry about the rough times passing thru the pregnancy milestones (I find myself thinking about where I would be right now had I still have been pg w/ my 1st or 2nd loss this summer) it makes me very depressed also. It's part of the grieving and everyone does it in their own way, but we all have so many similiarities that it's nice to have TTCAL at JM to come to with these wonderful ladies. They've definitely helped (are helping) myself included!
How are you doing today?
I hope that you and DH are blessed with that little girl  soon after you start TTC!
And again  to TTCAL!
btw, I'm Celena 33yr one of your co-hosts here & TTCAL chat. My DH is 31yr and we're trying for our first together, we've had 2 losses over the summer and found out 1/21 we have an ectopic pregnancy right now. We will be TTCAL sometime in the future, but as of right now... haven't decided. Going to have some testing after things have resolved and healed with me.
Last edited by Celena; February 4th, 2010 at 04:15 PM.
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February 4th, 2010, 06:31 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Hi Celena, my heart breaks to read what you've been through and are currently going through.
Thank you for being so welcoming. I didn't talk to anyone too much after my m/c and I guess now that we're getting ready to TTC I feel able to talk about it. I tend to like to do things in quiet and then once I feel stronger I'm able to open up. But yes, those would-be milestones really get to me.
God Bless you and all the ladies on here.
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“Before you were conceived, I wanted you...
Before you were born, I loved you...
Before you were here an hour, I would die for you...
This is the miracle of love.” -Maureen Mansfield
 (6),  (3) and a  due Dec. 25, 2011 and one  up above and forever in our hearts.
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February 4th, 2010, 07:21 PM
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 Amy. I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope that you will find lot of support here.
I'm Kimberley and my DH is Jason. We are TTC #1.
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