[momwithsmiles]

Hi my name is Amber and my dh is Paul. We were expecting our 4th baby in september but i had a miscarraige this past monday. I was in the sept DDC we were 7w 1d along .and the women there were wonderful and they told me about this group. We have 3 kids boy 9, girl 8, and boy 4. This baby was a complete suprise to us but when i found out i was so extremly happy. I guess i didn't realize that i really wanted another baby that bad. And then when i started to spot last friday i just new some thing bad was going to happen. The doc confirmed monday that we did have a miscarriage. I am having a really hard time with it but trying to i guess hide it from my kids and everyone (its just what i do). Dh on the other hand is taking it very badly. I would like to ttc after my cycles get back on track. I am very sorry to everyone here for what they have gone through as well and i look forward to getting to know you all better.

[stephjp]

I am so sorry for what you are going through but I do welcome you to the board...It is so hard to lose a baby no matter if it was planned or a surprise, far along or not far along...I hope you heart heals quickly and that your body get back on track soon...

[lex1078]

Hi Amber, welcome. I'm so sorry for your loss. The ladies here are wonderful and supportive and so helpful.

I'm Stephanie, married to DH, Neal. We have had 2 losses, one at 23 weeks gestation of twin girls and one miscarriage at 9.5 weeks due to Trisomy. In between the losses we took breaks from TTC but now that I've had surgery to remove a cyst from my ovary it's on full force. We started initially trying in May 2008. So almost 2 years.

Everyone grieves differently so just be patient with DH. I understand what you mean by "hiding it". I do the same thing. I don't like when people know I'm hurting.

I hope you're not here to long and you get your BFP quick.

[mafiamom]

hi and welcome amber. i am so very very sorry that you had to come and find us , but glad that we can be here for you.

i feel ya about all the emotions. my dh changes the subject when i try to talk about it so ... i just dont.

i pray that your stay here is short and sweet and you have a sticky healthy bean very very soon! the ladies here are really wonderful - feel free to vent away!

[*MomofO&Nat*]

Glad to see you made it over here! SO much support here, I hope it gives you some comfort. I am so so sorry for your loss.

[Celena]

Amber I'm very sorry that you're going thru this loss and that you & DH are taking it so hard. It's NOT a very easy devastating life changing experience that I wish no one had to go thru. You've definitely come to the right place... I was in the Sept DDC, but was extremely apprehensive to join full force because of my losses and well here I am again. (currently have an ectopic pregnancy)

BUT, I have to say that this is the best group I've ever been a part of... been thru thick and thin with all of these ladies. Allot have graduated from here since I've joined, but everyone is always so wonderful, supportive and compassionate who have joined since because we're all brought here for the same reason.... experiences might be a little or allot different, but we've all expereinced a loss or losses which makes us all a little different than the other TTC groups. It makes us more fragile and we need some special support from special ladies which makes up TTCAL!

to TTCAL, but I'm sorry that you're joining and I hope you find the support and friendships as I have

[momwithsmiles]

Thank you very much for the kind words... none of my friends have ever been through this so they have no clue..so for me to find people to talk to is wonderful. so thank you.

[hubshope]

Hi Amber. I'm sorry that you "have" to be here and have had to experience a loss. You story sounds similar to mine.

My name is Amy, dh is Steve. We had two very scary pregnancies but were fortunate enough to end up with two healthy boys. Our 3rd pregnancy was not planned but we were definitely excited once we found out. We m/c that pregnancy in August. Due to what I generally go through in pregnancy we waiting the advised 3 months but then wanted to get through the holidays before TTC. And here I am now.

Finding the Boards was a friend's suggestion because no one in my family "got" why I was so upset. My husband didn't even really get it, that's why I'm so thankful these ladies are here. I can finally get some of my feelings out and they all understand the anxiety of TTC when you've experienced a loss.

I pray you get a BFP soon and am sending you sticky baby dust to go with it!

[Kary♥RN]

Amber I am so sorry for your losses.... HUGS.. The ladies here are great! The support they give is amazing..

Sometimes.. you need alittle more support of just the loss.. You can also check out the Pregnancy Loss - JustMommies Message Boards... HUGS!

[BrandiJeane]

Im so sorry for your loss. I was also in the sept ddc. The dr is giving my body one more week to miscarry naturally before i go in for a d&c. I also feel as though emotionally I am holding back a little more than I should.. Being my second m/c I really am not sure what the proper way to deal is..