[SkyBaby]

I work at a Kmart. I'm a cashier/floor worker. I do a bit of everything. Every day, I'm reminded of my Angel Baby. Every day, I see lots of pregnant ladies and coworkers trying who got pregnant so quickly and easily. Every day, they complain about how they feel. It wears me down. I'm about to start a 4 hour cashier shift. I have to get busy enough that I can't think of anything else just to get through each day without having some kind of break down or just wanting to storm out because I'm sick of being complained too. I'd happily have morning sickness and pain and general discomfort if it meant my baby was healthy. It doesn't help the edd is coming up at the end of March. I was ok when I first started this job, but as the EDD gets closer, each day of being bombarded with this stuff gets harder. I can't tell you how much I look forward to the end of the shift, so I don't need to deal with it for the next several hours. I've gotten a bit better putting on a happy face, even if inside I feel like crap. I can't let it out, not at work. I save it for home and DH sees the full force of what I was holding inside during work. That's not fair to him. I know seeing me so upset stresses him out, because nothing but getting pregnant would help and that's not happening yet.

Time to leave. Thanks for reading.

[ldovey83]

You know I feel the same way... Although I don't work I am a stay at home mom. All my friends are pregnant and my neighbor is pregnant and hearing them talk about it and talk about how they didn't want it and how it sucks and all of this stuff is just emotionally draining for me.. Plus I acutally told my friend one day if you don't want to be pregnant I would happily take it for you.. I would love too and everything that comes wit it.. I am having a hard time getting pregnant myself right now so I totally know how you feel. Hang in there hun.. HUGS!!!

[SkyBaby]

Originally Posted by ldovey83

You know I feel the same way... Although I don't work I am a stay at home mom. All my friends are pregnant and my neighbor is pregnant and hearing them talk about it and talk about how they didn't want it and how it sucks and all of this stuff is just emotionally draining for me.. Plus I acutally told my friend one day if you don't want to be pregnant I would happily take it for you.. I would love too and everything that comes wit it.. I am having a hard time getting pregnant myself right now so I totally know how you feel. Hang in there hun.. HUGS!!!

Apparently I'm off today. I walked in and checked my schedule, and I'm off.. I do work tomorrow, but oh well. At least I get to enjoy today.

At least we are not alone in our ttc endeavors. That's comforting. I would not wish loss on anyone, but I do wish they'd be a bit more sensitive, you know? On the other hand, no one would know we lost our babies if we didn't tell them. There's no big neon signs ya know. We can't expect them to read our minds, but even after telling these ladies and they still persist in whining about pregnancy, that gets very draining. DH is even starting to feel the pain all over again as Angel Baby's EDD approaches. He's been getting upset a little bit lately, too. I think they only thing that will really help this is a sticky bean.

[Celena]

Kira I'm sorry honey! It sucks and I'm so so sorry

Is there any way that you could ask them kindly to not complain to you or perhaps let them know your devastating loss? I think it would perhaps shut them up a little more. Do they know at all? I know you might like your privacy or keep your life very private, but it might help to open up about how they're making you feel... or even take it to a superior to deal with so it's out of your hands? Hope there is some sort of resolve and that you can have some peace & solace at work

[Kary♥RN]

I am so sorry.... I have to say... at work for me it got to a point... were I would say it loud enough.... "Well at least your pregnant" or "I wish I had ms"...... Because I just couldn't take it... Call me a B*!$# but after you hear it day after day... and they all knew about my three losses.... For goodness sake.. I had my d/e in the Hospital.... and Each floor gets a copy of the OR schedule.... So after I made the comment.. they don't complain 1/2 as much!!!! And it makes my day easier.... At the end of the day... I don't want to make you feel better... you will have your babies..... so If I make you feel bad... tooo bad...

[SkyBaby]

Originally Posted by Celena

Kira I'm sorry honey! It sucks and I'm so so sorry

Is there any way that you could ask them kindly to not complain to you or perhaps let them know your devastating loss? I think it would perhaps shut them up a little more. Do they know at all? I know you might like your privacy or keep your life very private, but it might help to open up about how they're making you feel... or even take it to a superior to deal with so it's out of your hands? Hope there is some sort of resolve and that you can have some peace & solace at work

I have... they all know about my loss. I would never wish this on my worst enemy even, but I think the only way to truly understand this is to have gone through it yourself. One of my friends is worrying about her baby, because her symptoms are very muted. I almost didn't have any symptoms. She knows that. I was cramping a bit and breasts hurt very little and I was tired all the time. Her symptoms are pretty much the same way, but she has the thing where certain smells almost make her sick. I never got that and explained to her it's normal for some women to never get sick. I'm trying to be reassuring as possible, as the very same thoughts went through my head before I lost my little one. I truly think her baby is fine, because even now, her symptoms are stronger than mine ever got. I explained all that too her. She knows how mine ended. She's one of the more understanding ladies. She only brings it up if she has a question about what's normal and what is a bad sign.

Originally Posted by Kary♥RN

I am so sorry.... I have to say... at work for me it got to a point... were I would say it loud enough.... "Well at least your pregnant" or "I wish I had ms"...... Because I just couldn't take it... Call me a B*!$# but after you hear it day after day... and they all knew about my three losses.... For goodness sake.. I had my d/e in the Hospital.... and Each floor gets a copy of the OR schedule.... So after I made the comment.. they don't complain 1/2 as much!!!! And it makes my day easier.... At the end of the day... I don't want to make you feel better... you will have your babies..... so If I make you feel bad... tooo bad...

That's pretty much what I'm doing. That helped a bit, but they still do complain about it, but not directly to me anymore.

It's also hard being around them and seeing all their excitement and shopping in the baby stuff. I used to be that excited. A loss was the farthest thing from my mind. Caught us both (DH and I) by surprise. I don't want to rain on their parade or anything. It just makes my day that much harder.