[ldovey83]

OK so no bding today either, and I am definitely Oing today.. I had a temp drop this morning and I have been having O pains all day today.. Now I am upset cause the lasttime I bded was Tues around 2 am and around 9 pm.. I know that there isn't anyting up there.. So I am really upset and triyng not to cry while DH is here cause I told him it wasn't about the baby making but that part really upsets me.. I feel we wasted a good egg... Now if we have sex early in the am say around 6 am do you think I still have a chance at catching the egg?

[mafiamom]

JUMP THAT MAN! what is his problem?

so sorry you are dealing with this. goodness knows it is hard enough to catch the egg with bding!!! he needs to get with the program - time to have a chat with him, i think!

huge hugs - i hope he comes around. i can imagine how frustrated you must be~

[mlyster]

if you bd tomorrow you could still have a chance. You never know exactly when you O so maybe it won't be until sometime tonight... meaning tomorrow is still a fertile time. GOOD LUCK!

[Celena]

Yes I think you still have a chance so don't give up hope yet Lindsey!

I hope to God this is the unexpected cycle for you... you NEVER know what will happen so take your chances while you have them. Because if you don't then you'll never know. So just DO it, get friskey and I pray that you catch that eggie!

[ldovey83]

Thanks ladies.. I don't know what his problem is or how he can shoot down sex.. I mean what guy does. Normally I can't keep him off me and now I can't get him to do it.. I am stil having O pains so I hope that God has mercy on me and makes this happen.. Lord knows my heart is breaking right now.. Thanks for everything ladies...

[j&jmom]

I think sometimes guys get a little freaked out . . . I don't tell my dh when I'm o-ing so he doesn't feel pressured.

[ldovey83]

Originally Posted by j&jmom

I think sometimes guys get a little freaked out . . . I don't tell my dh when I'm o-ing so he doesn't feel pressured.

I didn't tell him where I was in my cycle.. I just told him it was frustrating cause it is longer then usual.. He didn't know I was ovulating today..

[missy123]

Originally Posted by j&jmom

I think sometimes guys get a little freaked out . . . I don't tell my dh when I'm o-ing so he doesn't feel pressured.

I totally agree... It was ironic though, I stopped telling my BF when I o'ed and stopped talking about TTC and now he is the one that is all up in my business and asking all the questions

[ma2b2010]

Sorry you are so frustrated hun... the reason your husband isn't as gungho about sex is because maybe he now feels as if sex is something that *needs* to be done. I haven't told my husband about the fact that I've started TTC'ing with OPT's because like J&J, I don't want him to feel pressured... and he initiates BD every 3 to 5 days. If I need to be more aggressive, that's when I employ some of my tricks! Good luck and try not to work yourself up too much! I know it's frustrating but sex should be fun and not a chore!

[hubshope]

I'm sorry you're so frustrated and that he's not cooperating. I do think you have a chance at catching that egg if you try tomorrow morning.

Maybe he feels too much pressure...like if you guys bd and you don't get a BFP that somehow he failed? You should ask him, if you haven't already, what his thoughts are. He may just be feeling insecure or something and need some reassurance from you.

[ldovey83]

It wouldn't be such a big deal, but the thing is this is the 4th day in a row he has shot me down and stuff.. I am used to him being all over me and me being the one who is like ok not tonigt.. I am not used to being the one turned down I guess. Thanks for all the advice..