[DukesMommy12]

That you wanted to be a mother, (or a mother again) for those of you with more than 1 child?

For me, I got thrown into it. In December I got pregnant on BC.... Then I lost the baby. Now its all I can think about. It seems unnatural for me not to have a child in my womb. So my husband(who feels the same way.) Decided that we should have a child togther.

But for those of you who didnt accidently get prego, how did you decide? Its such a huge and life changing choice.

[JesSsica]

I really have nothing more to add because I could've written your post myself. We had an accidental pregnancy too that ended in a loss and then my "need" for another pregnancy kicked in. I can still give you every logical reason in the world why we shouldn't have a baby but yet here we are 3DPO and me hoping...

[lex1078]

I've always wanted to be a mom. I was enthralled when we got pregnant with twins. Double the fun! Then when we lost the girls, the baby fever was something fierce after that. I went on to have another loss and now I'm really just scared to be pregnant. I wish I could skip over that part, but we're going for it again. Fingers crossed!

[Isabelle]

Yikes....my story is a book. I'll have to write it later.

Basically I went from never wanting children to wanting 4 children.

[mommy x 10]

After we had our first child, we talked about having 3 and being done. Then after our 2nd child we thought we might be done, it was a rough delivery. Then I started wanting another baby but dh wasn't so sure, if it happened ok but he didn't really want to try. I started praying that God would either give dh a desire to have another baby or take my desire away, I just us to be on the same page. I started thinking that we should let God give us however many kids He wanted us to have for different reasons but I wasn't ready to try to convince dh so I never said anything about how I was thinking, then one day dh said he had been thinking that so I told him I was too. And so we now have 9 children. When we conceived out 10th we had been kinda trying to prevent since I was in school again. Not fully trying to prevent but more so than other times, just avoiding what we "thought" were my fertile times( weren't charting and were off, lol). So while we would have been ok if we hadn't conceived that time, once we found out we had we very much wanted that baby. Now I want another baby so much. I sometimes feel a little guilty since I already have 9 beautiful children. And I am still in school, so the timing wouldn't be the best but I still hope for one more blessing.

[Kary♥RN]

For me.... I got pregnant when I was 14, had my son when I 15. I was still in high school but with th help of my parents raised him... I finished and a week after graduation met my dh... We have been together 17 years. He is an only child (His parents were told they (both) couldn't have children... but surprise... dh! No one knew we had talked about have a baby together (I wanted dh to have a child of his own). Than my dh was diagnosed with MS. Another 6 year wait so I could go back to school.. (in case something happened to him.. I would have to support the family)...... So came May 2008. I graduated... passed my boards stopped the bc pill. And Here I am...... with ever hurdle... I became more determined.. wanted it even more...... The desire to look into my baby's eyes... and look for my husband, Since having a child at a young age.. people would say he looked like his bilogoical father and I hated it.... (It was a abusive, verbal, mental and physical relationship.. and at 14 I knew no better) NOT THAT I DON'T LOVE MY SON... I DO! I gave up my life for him.. and would do it again in a min!!!! But I want that conection, the love.

[Halloween81]

I honestly dont remember a time in which I didnt want kids. Really the only reason why I waited so long (DH and I have been married for almost 7 years) was because DH wasnt ready. I think now he might actually want a kid as much as I do.

[KAB]

I have always wanted to be a mom more than anything. When DH and I got married we had always talked about having 4 kids, but with finances and such DH just wasn't ready to start right away. 4 years after we got married I stopped taking my bc pills and we decided that if it happened than we would be happy. 2 years after stopping the bc pills still nothing had happened, so in January 2009 we really started trying. After my miscarriage last month we now both have a burning desire to have a child more than ever, in fact now DH regrets waiting so long to try.

[Celena]

I don't know how to answer this because it's a simple yet complex...

I felt the yern for being a mother.... wanting to be a mommy to many children, period... this was while I was with my ex. With him it wasn't that I wanted to have *his* kids, I wanted to have children of my own. If that makes any sense? (he didn't want kids, marriage or any of that) However I would NOT change it for the world. My babies are *MY* babies still even at almost 11, an angel that would be 9, almost 9 & almost 7.

Then DH and I met... I didn't want a relationship, didn't want anymore children not to mention it was just alien & odd to think about. He ended up melting the ice that formed around my heart with the ex. He and I would talk about having a future baby together but he was against having any more kids... so honestly it was a blink of an eye that I had gotten and let go of the feeling of wanting to have his child. (made me sad)

DH was bitten by the baby bug years later... I still had an IUD and wouldn't get it out for some time after he started burning with that fever. So I got it out in 04'2008 and unfortunately it took a tragic loss for me to realize just how much more I really wanted to bring our child into our family... that I wanted to grow our family and be a mommy of 5! Always wanted a big family since I was pretty much an only child most of my life and had always wished I had siblings (my brother 8yrs older, chose to live with my gma) Feel like at least if I'm not here when they're adults they'll still have each other to always be there with each other for. They're so close and I love that about my kids... and they actually WANT a baby brother or sister which is a huge thing to me.

Sorry to make this so long winded.... there's so much more to all of this that I could elaborate on really.

[jojo1207]

My first child was not planned and from a previous (bad) relationship. My second child took 2yrs of active TTC with my husband. We were definitely not TTC when we got pg with our third when our second was only six months old and just returned home from the hospital after a 4mo stay on TPN/Gtube due to a bowel obstruction early in life. I started getting baby fever when our third was about 18mo and I joked about it with hubby off/on. We had a wild night of fun and bam - number four. Our fourth is now 20mo and the baby fever kicked in again. Another random night of no birth control and we were pregnant earlier this month... not planned, but still wanted. When I lost it, I realized we had all ready told everyone and got the shocking news out of the way so the hard part was done, per se, but it definitely planted the seed. I had all ready started making plans for our fifth child and it feels like someone is missing... told hubby that yes, we're crazy, but it will not go away... I am ready for that baby and I won't feel ok without at least trying.. he agreed to give this to me and here we are. I always had the plan to have a large family - DH was happy with our two... but well, things happen.

Kary - my husband too has MS, diagnosed in 2003 @ age 35 about a week after we found out we were pregnant w/#2, our first child together.

[ohnicole]

I have ALWAYS wanted to be a mom- it was just a matter of timing it right with DH my school and careers. Our first pg was timed perfectly. I would graduate right before delivery and then take a break to be a SAHM for a while. Now that we had our loss.... the timing is really awful. We will be moving soon and maybe not at the same time, I am out of town supporting my sister. And at this point I couldn't care less about the timing. TTC, getting pg, and having a baby are the top priorities for me now.

[LisaG825]

I have always wanted to be a mother. I graduated hs in 2002 and started working at a daycare right away. I love children. I went to school to become a teacher. DH and I have been together since 2001 didn't get married until June 2006. We decided that when we get pg. we get pg. We never really tried and we didn't really prevent. Unless you cound the pull out method and watching my fertile days (didn't chart though). I bought a baby memory scrapbook that this company was selling at the daycare where I worked. I can't remember my exact age but I was 18 or 19. I even bought baby shower invitations like 2 years ago and we weren't even trying. Everyone thought I was nuts for buying b/c we weren't even trying. We just wanted to get finish school, get married, and start our careers first. Now I am trying to find a teaching job but right now unless I have my baby it doesn't even seem that important to me.