[tobi4]

Ouch. Ouch ouch ouch.
We were so excited about the baby that we posted everything on facebbok. The pos. tests, the ultrasound pic, even a pic of fortune cookie that I got, right after we found out. It was one cookie inside of another. Just a symbol of me and bean.
Anyway, I announced on facebook about the preg, and for the most part thats how we shared the sad news as well. Other than family.
Ive been keeping pretty much to myself (and JM) since then, and I failed to tell my good friend about our loss. Well today my carelessness came back to bite me. On my facebook wall she had written, Hey pregnant lady, Happy birthday! Ouch. I feel so bad for her, I know she didnt know, and I dont want her to think shes hurt me. She never would purposely.
But it does. It hurts.
Thanks for letting me have a place to cry.

[EJsMommy]

Tobi I know how you feel. Your friend as you said did not know and did not say or post that comment out of ill will but it does hurt.
Our neighbor did not know we had lost our baby and asked if we had found out what sex the baby was. I got all choked up and said it was a boy and we lost him. I usually do not cry in front of others that I do not know very well but it was so recent since the loss I could not hold it back.
I had waited to tell people on facebook but it was not long enough as I lost the baby in week 20.
I come here and post my ups and downs so please feel free to come here with any emotions that you have.
The ladies on this board are here for you and we all understand what you are going through. I am also here for you.

[mlyster]

Tobi, there are still people who are just finding out about my losses and I had my first one a year ago. For the most part everyone knows but once and a while someone makes a comment and I realize they don't know... and it all comes flooding back. I can tell you that those moments get fewer and farther apart as the time goes by.

But it does suck to be reminded out of the blue one day... especially when you feel like you are doing so well.

(can you tell I speak from experience... I am dealing with one such situation right this minute actually).

[jojo1207]

I did the exact same thing... hugs sweetie. The little reminders do hurt. I think if I get pg again, I'm waiting. This was my first early announcement as I was so confident things were progressing strongly...I don't know if I'll do it again, however, I did come back on my FB with stating that every life is worth celebrating, no matter how small or how short. I feel it is important that people know because it is a time when you could use the extra support. It wasn't your friends' fault at all, and I'm sure she felt horrible (one of mine also missed my m/c announcement and later said I could eat whatever I wanted because I was preggo), but understand that pang that hits when it's mentioned.

Hugs sweets.

[DukesMommy12]

Believe me I know how you feel, the week after we told everyone I m/c'ed. Well my pastor announced in church that we were expecting... (To pray for us.) Then a congregant close to my family stood up and said "No they m/c'ed." In front of everyone. Thank God I wasnt there, but the next week at church I got bombarded with "Im so sorries" I just wish they had, had the sense to leave me in my misery... Instead of reminding me constantly

[mafiamom]

that must have taken your breath away.

i am sorry you had to go thru that.

the world is small, but people definitely fall thru the cracks. ~hugs~

[Kary♥RN]

HUGS... I am so sorry all those feeling came flooding back.. HUGS..

[BeccaM]

Tobi - Im so sorry to had to go thru that.