[dreamer10]

I have had so many different opinions on when it's "safe" to try to concieve. My doc has pretty much said that as soon as the hcg is out of my system and I have had a cycle we are good to go...my friends think that the reason I miscarried numbers 2 and 3 is because I didn't wait long enough between tries. What do you all think? What have your docs told you? What is your own opionion? I am curious. I don't want to put off trying because I am not getting any younger here (will be 40 in may!), and I want to try one more time. I am nervous though that my quick tries are ending in loses.

What do you all think?

[Kary♥RN]

Joowie.. HUGS... I have also had three losses.. and was told after each time.. when you are ready go ahead and go for it.... Even after my last loss... the first AF I was put on clomid. My Dr said you will not get pregnant if your body is not ready. He feels my losses.. are just bad eggs that were fertilized... Does it make the loss any easier.. no... but thier is no medical reason to wait after a miscarriage. you have that same 10-15 percent to miscarry again as any other women walking in... the only thing you have against you is your age. I am only 5 ears younger... so I can understand.... Follow your heart HUGS!

[Isabelle]

Hi

My doctor wanted us to wait 3 cycles. I looked at her like she was mad and then laughed. Okay she said, how about waiting 1 cycle. I told her I couldn't promise that.

And so far we've had sex about a dozen times since our loss a month ago Our first time was just 5 days after my D&C.

I'm 41, turning 42 this November. I have ZERO time to wait any amount of time. I figure this....my body will hopefully get pregnant when it's supposed to get pregnant.

Good luck to you sweetie.
xxx

[jojo1207]

Hey hon - as you know, I just had a loss and didn't wait and conceived again right away. I am of course very nervous as I'm no stranger to early pg loss - prior to my second child I had four or five losses before 8wks... and another after my third child. Because there's no real way to predict which pg will keep and which will not, I don't think there's a real answer to that. I'm sure there's some truth to waiting a cycle to help build up your uterine lining, but it's my personal belief that if the loss is early (before 6wks or so) that your lining is no more than a regular AF anyway... I agree in that it's a personal decision and there's no real way to guarantee that waiting or not waiting will produce a successful pregnancy.

I will mention though that after all my earlier losses I was put on prometrium which finally resulted in my sticky pg with Xander. Maybe you can try that? I didn't need it for the rest of my kids... maybe it was just a temporary deficiency then in my progesterone...

[dreamer10]

You guys are great. It gives me some confidence in going ahead and trying. I just dont feel as though I have forever (although women are having babies into their mid forties now) since I only want one more and I dont really want to have a huge gap between these last two kids. Oh goodness, I could go on and on about all the reasons I want to try now...the truth is I just want that beautiful pregnancy and a beautiful baby at the end of it!