[Kary♥RN]

We all know over the last few weeks we have had alot of BFP's... How does this make you feel?

Does it make you hopefull or feel down...

Please behonest....




I know for me... during 18 months of ttc.. with 3 losses... some times they were too much to handle....

[BeccaM]

A little bit of mixed emotions. I am SO happy for all the ladies with their BFP's but then Im a lil sad inside because its not me. But it gives me hope that others are getting a BFP again after a loss. Im just all over the place with this one. LOL

[LisaG825]

I have to agree with Becca. It is nice to see the BFP's especially for all of you ladies that have had such a hard time. To me, I think if it was a person that just started ttc and has never gone through a loss or any trouble ttc it would make it a lot harder on me and I wouldn't want to see all the BFP. All of us have suffered a loss so I am happy for you ladies. Hopefully that made sense. Sometimes it is hard too. Since I am not neg. I can't even ttc right now so in a way it is difficult but no one is making me come to this board. I choose to come here.

[KAB]

I agree with the others, I'm happy for the ladies that are getting their BFP, because I know they have already gone through the pain I'm going through right now and they deserve to finally get a BFP. However, right now I'm having a really hard time seeing it, and find that sometimes I can't even open the post. Maybe it's just the fact that I can't move on right now because my body is not cooperating, but getting a BFP seems so hard and far away.

[jjc99]

I think Becca and Lisa make great points! I am so happy with the ladies that got their BFPs. They are all well deserved and earned!! But it makes me sad, too, as I screwed up my cycle this month...so I can't be included in this "boom". But I will keep the boom going next month, and will pull in more ladies with me!

But as Lisa said, I chose to come to this message board. I want to see the good things, support those who need it, etc. When I don't feel like seeing all the happy stuff, I don't visit. Simple. (that's why I haven't been around as much, as well as my schedule lately). But no one forces us to be here...

I really am happy about those who have become sucessful getting their BFPs! Send some of that luck/baby dust/energy my way!

[EJsMommy]

I agree with the ladies above. I am sad that it is not me but hopeful that I can join in soon. Maybe the BFPs are contagious? I am hoping.

[Isabelle]

Happy for them because I know what it's like to want a BFP so badly.

Sad for me because I know what it's like to want a BFP so badly.

But then again I get hopeful because if it can happen for them then it can happen for me.

[aitch]

If I'm REALLY honest, it makes me scared that I'll never be one of them. Of course I'm over the moon for them, as DH said the other day, people getting pregnant again after a miscarriage has a totally new meaning to us now.

I think that's probably my biggest fear through all of this though. That somehow this was my only chance and somehow I managed to mess it up. I just hope I'm wrong!

[Isabelle]

Originally Posted by aitch

If I'm REALLY honest, it makes me scared that I'll never be one of them. Of course I'm over the moon for them, as DH said the other day, people getting pregnant again after a miscarriage has a totally new meaning to us now.

I think that's probably my biggest fear through all of this though. That somehow this was my only chance and somehow I managed to mess it up. I just hope I'm wrong!

I understand how you feel. I get the same way sometimes. I just want to say ugh sometimes. Because I have 3 little boys, I'm 41. And here I am TTC again? Sometimes it gets me down but I can't be like that. Lets be positive together

Hugs.

[markswife]

I agree completely with Aitch. I can't stop thinking what if this was my one chance and I screwed it up. It doesn't help that I work with women involved with the Department of Human Services who have had their children removed. I had to work with a mom yesterday that just had her sixth child removed from her custody. She subjects her children to domestic violence, substance abuse, sexual abuse and mental health issues and she just keeps having babies. I can't get over how unfair it is for her to have six kids and I can't even have one pregnancy that sticks around. I don't know if work is making miscarrying harder or if miscarrying is making work harder but I'm just miserable right now.

[KDD]

I am happy for everyone who gets their BFP. The booms on TTCAL don't bother me as much as on other TTC boards since I know the pain the women have already gone through. But, it's still tough for me. When I first joined the board it gave me hope to see everyone get a BFP after a loss, but as time went on and everyone got a BFP but me, it's simply demoralizing.

[ohnicole]

To be totally honest, there are times when it really gets me down. Like others have said, it is much easier to see someone on the TTCAL board get a BFP than it is to see someone who just started TTC breeze right into a BFP. But there are days when I'm already in a funk about TTCAL, and on those days, it's hard to see the BFP posts.

BUT everyone who gets a BFP should post it here. Because no one can be as happy for them as all of us here on TTCAL can be. We should be here through the bad and the good.

[Celena]

In my darkest hours and there have been many... I would just sit and cry. Cry for the want so much to join all my graduated TTCAL friends, cry for the babies I've lost along the way, cry because I miss my babies I won't ever meet here on Earth.

So in my worst hours I've had to be very disconnected from here because I couldn't handle reading about more losses or bfp's booming... it's never been anything personal ladies, ever. It breaks my heart to have new ladies join us or ladies come back... just know that I've been thru allot and allot I haven't shared in my personal life beyond TTCAL.

Yes, I've been jealous in a small way of the "bfp" itself not of the turmoil each lady has gone to get there to that bfp. Every woman who is here deserves it... but more so deserves that innocence back that their loss(es) have taken away from them.

It's inspiring to see the success stories, women who have been thru so much and finally achieve that healthy pregnancy and healthy baby and a healthy birth! That's the common thread we have here, we're all working to achieve that same goal and that's what has brought us here together.

I all of you and your compassion, support & friendships!

[tobi4]

What a good question!
Seeing all the BFP's is amazing for me. I feel like the women here, who we all share so much with, are like a personal cheering section for each and every one of us. When one of us is down, everyone rises to the occasion and when one of us has a success, in any area not just pregnancy, everyone cheers.
Ive found that no matter what the subject, there is always a shoulder, a hand, a tear or cheer to be shared.
So that being said, I cherish each of the BFP's that have shown in the short time Ive been here. I look forward to seeing more! Keep 'em coming ladies! lol, Its why we are here!
And to be fair, I havent been TTCAL for long at all, so I cant speak from experience, but I do think that if it became a long process for me, I think I would become envious of the BFP's. It might be upsetting to me to want what so many have gotten, and to left without.... yes, I believe it would be difficult.
I have seen the thoughtfulness in the announcement posts though, the wonderful news that is shared while still being considerate of the women who are here.

[martilynne]

We of all people ( TTCAL ladies) deserve BFP's more than anyone. It makes me have hope although it can be discouraging when you yourself is the one getting the BFN and everyone else is the ones getting BFP's...

[mafiamom]

as others have said. i have a certain special joy i feel for a TTCAL that gets that bfp. it is so wanted, so deserved and holds so much hope for the rest of us! i get a twinge of sad - i think more a fear actually, not sad - that it wont happen for me, but the overwhelming emotion is pure joy

TBCH, and i hope this is ok to write.... i also feel a twinge of fear when i see a bfp. a fear that they will find their way back here yet again... and if they can, then so can i. i am sorry to be a downer but there is definitely that emotion for me as well.

[~Lynda~]

it's hard to have it happen to many and not you!

[jayepink]

from the TTCAL ladies, a bfp makes me feel so happy and hopeful

[zkat]

I have adopted a little different, almost deattached view point on other women's BFP. I share everyone's thoughts that every women on this board gets special joy, because I understand the pain.

As for real life, I am over joyed and so totally happy for every women that gets pregnant, regardless of the situation. If it is someone who will have their baby taken away, then that women is carrying a child for someone that is desparate to adopt that baby. That unfortunate pregnancy will fulfill someone's lifelong dream.

My personal believe is that my journey is separate from each of theirs. It doesn't seem fair sometimes, but I remind myself that from a person outside looking in - I have more than my share of fairness and happiness. I have the most wonderful husband in the world, an awesome job in a great company and the most supportive and caring siblings in the world. It's all about perspective.

Kat.

[mafiamom]

^^^^^this is so very true. it is totally easy to get wrapped up in this one thing that we want so badly we fail to see all the wonderful things we may have that others dont.