What will your reaction be to a bfp?

Celena · #1 March 10th, 2010, 07:10 PM

Will you be in total shock and disbelief?

Or will you be elated, telling the whole world?

I know that once we have a loss, or in many of our instances multiple losses it really changes the perspective and innocence associated with finding out we're...

So "what will your reaction be?"

Isabelle · #2 March 10th, 2010, 07:12 PM

Elated. We'll tell the world again.

There will be a sense of worry but I can't control anything that will/might happen so I'm going to enjoy the moment and hope the moment lasts 9 healthy months.

Celena · #3 March 10th, 2010, 07:22 PM

To be totally honest, I'm going to be terrified altho a small part of me will be excited and pray that bean STICKS GOOD!

mmllhh · #4 March 10th, 2010, 07:26 PM

I have mixed emotions. I'm going to be sooooo happy, but also that nagging worry will be there.

ohnicole · #5 March 10th, 2010, 09:08 PM

Of course, I will be excited, but I have no idea how big the terrified part of me will be. Even now, I am a little scared to get a BFP- the idea of having to get through all those worries every day until the point of feeling like the pg is safe (if there even is a point of feeling safe) is scary. But a BFP and a healthy pg would really be a dream come true.

mommie2many · #6 March 10th, 2010, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Celena

To be totally honest, I'm going to be terrified altho a small part of me will be excited and pray that bean STICKS GOOD!

Same here, I wouldnt tell anyone untill I was 12 weeks.

KAB · #7 March 10th, 2010, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Celena

To be totally honest, I'm going to be terrified altho a small part of me will be excited and pray that bean STICKS GOOD!

DH and I agreed we're not going to tell anybody this time, I'm sure it won't seem real anyway for quite a while.

martilynne · #8 March 10th, 2010, 09:48 PM

I'm going to be so excited and tell everybody! My last loss was in the 2nd trimester so there is no way I'm waiting that long to tell anyone.

BeccaM · #9 March 11th, 2010, 04:56 AM

Mixed emotions... I know we will be so happy but Im sure I will be worried too. We have already said we would wait to tell everyone this time around as well...

dreamer10 · #10 March 11th, 2010, 04:58 AM

Sadly enough after 3 loses in a row my reaction will be absolute fear or shear terror mixed in with some incredible hope. I will be on a constant rollercoaster of emotions until I get to 12 weeks...and probably even beyond. I just have to remember to have the faith...have the faith..have the faith.

mafiamom · #11 March 11th, 2010, 05:19 AM

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Originally Posted by cricket909

Of course, I will be excited, but I have no idea how big the terrified part of me will be. Even now, I am a little scared to get a BFP- the idea of having to get through all those worries every day until the point of feeling like the pg is safe (if there even is a point of feeling safe) is scary. But a BFP and a healthy pg would really be a dream come true.

once again nicole, you took the words right out of my mouth!

i will be so happy, but it will be tempered quite a bit. i know me, and it will be like holding my breath for 9 months..... good times

EJsMommy · #12 March 11th, 2010, 05:27 AM

It will be mixed emotions. I know that getting a BFP does not gaurantee a baby in the end but my desire for it is so strong.
We have decided to wait to tell until after the time we lost our first which was at the half way point.

SkyBaby · #13 March 11th, 2010, 06:41 AM

I'll probably cry happy tears and pray like mad. We'll wait until we have a heart beat to tell everyone. My parents and DH's parents will know right away and so will my brother and sister and his sister. We'll just ask them to keep it quiet until the second trimester or so then we'll make the big announcement.

#14 March 12th, 2010, 02:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Joowie2

Sadly enough after 3 loses in a row my reaction will be absolute fear or shear terror mixed in with some incredible hope. I will be on a constant rollercoaster of emotions until I get to 12 weeks...and probably even beyond. I just have to remember to have the faith...have the faith..have the faith.

Exactly how I will feel. After 4 losses we will wait, as we did with DD until the 2nd tri. I would probably confide in my sister, brother, mum & dad as I need all the support I can get if we were to lose another baby. I have kept most of our pg a secret from family & friends at the time and only disclosed our losses in conversation when other have mentioned their losses etc.... I don't think I 'relaxed' until DD was born & even then I was praying for her to cry so I knew she was alive.

JesSsica · #15 March 12th, 2010, 05:46 AM

I would totally and completely follow my gut. When I got pregnant in August, I felt great about it (of course I'd never had a loss before) and told the world. My loss came with no symptoms so it shocked me.

When I got pregnant in December I just knew in my gut not to spread the word. I knew in my gut that something was wrong because my lines weren't getting darker. Once I got a dark line my dh, who was so excited, started telling people-- even the kids. My gut knew that wasn't a great idea. Sure enough, I lost the baby.

This time if my gut was sending off alarms I would shut up about it. If my gut was at ease with everything I would probably tell. I couldn't have gone through my losses and surgery without my family and friends by me so I would need them to know....

jjc99 · #16 March 12th, 2010, 08:02 AM

Honestly - I have no idea how I will react. I will be happy, but I'm sure i will be cautiously optomistic.
My reaction to my first pregnancy was not what I expected from myself. I DO know that I hope my husband's reaction will be better. Not that his first was bad...it just took him longer (than I would have liked) to get "ok" with the pregnancy.