[MalloCup]

Hi girls!! My name is Juliann.

Well, I just left my November DDC last week. My husband and I were NTNP and were suprised with a BFP on 3/5!!!

3/12 I was spotting, lightly, brown...POAS and had faint positives, digi was 'not pregnant'! I went to the doctors for bloodwork...HCG was 18! I was supposed to be almost 5 weeks so it should have been a lot higher...I started expecting the worst with a little hope that I wasn't as far along as I thought but after TTC our youngest son, and even though we weren't officially TTC this time, I still keep track of my cycles and whatnot....so I knew what was coming.

Saturday I started bleeding like AF.

Spoke with my doctors office yesterday and they still wanted me to get the second round of bloodwork to confirm and make sure my number was dropping.....not like I didn't already know I was m/c'ing....so I went....they called this morning and I was at 3.

So.....the bleeding was/is like a normal AF for me...aside from the quarter sized clot I passed on Sunday morning!! No cramping at all....no change in flow. It is pretty light now...which is typical for me by the 4th day.

So...the magic question.....WHEN CAN WE START TTC AGAIN?!?!?!

The doctor did say they typically say wait a month because if we get preggers, there is no AF to estimate EDD by...is that the only reason they want you to wait? I wasn't that far along when I m/c and my number is so low so it seems my body can't be that out of whack right....??

With plans originally for us to not TTC until or youngest was 2, then having this surprise pregnancy/loss....we now just want to TTC and not wait as planned.....

What do you recommend?

THANKS!!

[markswife]

Hi Juliann. I'm really sorry for your loss and that you had to come join us over here. I m/c in February after six weeks and this is our first month back at TTC. My doctor said to wait one cycle to give the lining of my uterus a chance to recover and be able to maintain a pregnancy. I've seen some ladies on here who have been told to wait longer or to not wait at all. I suppose it's really up to how you feel. If you feel ready, I say go for it.

[BeccaM]

Hi Juliann... Im sorry for your loss. My loss was 2/12 @ 8 weeks. My OB told me to wait 3 months but I didnt listen very well. AF showed for me and Im on CD 2. Will be TTC like crazy once she goes away! So Im not waiting the 3 months. Most usually say to wait for 1 period. I think as long as there are no medical issues and you are ready then go for it. Best of luck to you. I hope your stay with us is short and you get that BFP quick!

[Isabelle]

Hi,
So sorry.

We started TTC immediately. We actually had sex 5 days after my D&C. We didn't wait at all. My OB wanted us to wait 3 cycles. We're not

Best of luck

[Natalie_Snow]

Hi Juliann. I am so sorry for your loss. I have just left November DDC as well .
After my first m/c at 7w3d my doc told me to wait one normal cycle and then go ahead and ttc. This time I was not that far along (5 weeks), so I have no idea how long to wait.. i am going to try to wait 1 cycle. but I plan on NTNP this cycle too

[dreamer10]

I am sad you have to join us...but I say welcome all the same! There are an amazing bunch of women here....you will be loved! Sorry for your loss. My doc really didn't give me much of an idea as to when to go ahead and ttc. I will say that I have had lots of opinions about when to do it. I would listen to your gut and do what feels right. Good luck!

[martilynne]

I'm so sorry for your loss

My doctor recommended that we wait 3 normal cycles. We lost our little girl on 2/12 and my first AF since then stared today, we will be trying this cycle.

[Celena]

to TTCAL Juliann!

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your little one. You've come to the right place for support, compassionate, friendly ladies who've all experienced similar or the same circumstances as you have. Hope that you find this place as wonderful as I have and lift you up when you're going thru such a tough time right now. Again I'm so sorry, loathe hearing another lady having a pregnancy loss and joining this group. It's never an easy thing

As far as your question... TTC after a loss there are a few reasons your doctor suggests you wait... another besides having a LMP to have dates to go from, waiting 1 AF should give your uterus a little time to "clean house" sloff off the lining as well as build back up and another reason is to allow you some time to go thru a greiving period to mourn your loss.

Ultimately it is your decision along with talking with your doctor... I don't think any of us want to wait, so we can definitely agree with you there!!!

[JesSsica]

Hi and welcome. I'm sorry for your loss. I was on the Sept DDC board as well. I was due 9-1-10 but had a chemical pregnancy. I didn't wait at all and started TTC right away. I treated my loss as a period (as my doctor said) and just kept trying.

I would say try when you're emotionally ready because your body will do what it needs to when it's ready. Good luck and I hope your stay here is a short one...

[mommie2many]

Im so sorry for your loss.(((hugs)))

[~Lynda~]

hey there. your name sounds familiar to me. I think we met when you were ttc your last little guy. congrats on him!!! i'm still trying... moving on to medical assistance. I'm sorry for your loss hun. I've had three of them. it's so hard. i will tell you what my dr. told me, which I find to be very true... your body won't do something it is not ready to do! so go for it and if it happens great and if it takes a little while longer, then be patient! good luck!!!