[DukesMommy12]

As many of you know my hubby and I have decided that I would go to school. Well he told me that he wants me to go to school but he really wants us to have a child. More so than me going to school.

So he wants to try for one more cycle. If we dont get our christmas baby then he says we can wait to ttc until may.

I asked him whats the point of one more cycle.

All he said was, he wanted to try one more time.

I dont get it.

FIrst hes gung ho for nursing school.

Now its one more cycle for baby trying.

[Kary♥RN]

Well just run with it!!! If it is ment to happen it will..... If not... Than get your career on track.... Nursing is a great job to have a child with.... but not so great while you are in school.... Nursing school is very demanding... and most schools you can not miss more than two days a semester with out failing... Even if it is to have a child. I know of three girls in my class that delivered while in Nursing school. Only one went on to graduate... the other one had to drop out and one failed out... She had a c-section and couldn't get cleared to come back.... That is why we put off having kids untill I was done with nursing school... If you have any questions please PM mE!

[dreamer10]

I agree with Kary...run with it! I don't know much about nursing school...but I would run with the ttc idea. TTC is somtimes a long and hard road and I have read about a lot of women who stuggle with hubbies that don't want to go through it over and over again. If you can get your hubby on the same page as you then I would go with it. If things don't work out then you can pursue the nursing thing like Kary suggested. Good luck and mabye we can squeek into that dec ddc after all....together....maybe????

[Celena]

Stephanie...

I'm sorry that DH is being a little confusing right now, maybe a long talk to get things laid out on the table and hash it all over. Then maybe you'll have a better idea where his standpoint is coming from? Or did y'all already do that and he just made it more confusing? lol

Have either of you considered if y'all continue to try and sign up for the fall semester classes?

Then if you do get pg then decide whether you want to

a) do a semester or two until before you deliver
b) not go at all until after the babe and you're ready
c) .......insert a choice here.........

I'm not sure what to tell you, it's definitely not an easy decision either way. Go with the flow for now hope you get that Christmas baby sweets!

[mmllhh]

I'm with Celena. you can do both, you will just need to take a semester off to have the baby, if the timing works that way. Good luck.

[ohnicole]

Oh, Celena is a girl after my own heart. When in doubt, I say choose everything

In all seriousness, it is so hard when it feels like DH is giving conflicting signals/opinions. Most of the time I don't even think they know what's going on in their own heads. How the **** are we supposed to understand?

Maybe give the topic a rest for a while, you can continue to TTC this month and in the meantime look into some real stuff about nursing school (admission deadlines, cost, etc). Then in a week or two, revisit the conversation and see if you can come to any clearer understanding of where he's coming from.

Good luck with everything!

[DukesMommy12]

Thanks for all the advice ladies.

I did talk to hubby and he says either way ill be going to school. Hes just hoping I go pregnant. And have a baby either before or near when I graduate. I asked him whats the rush. We origionally agreed on May '11 because I would graduate June '11 and then have 8 months to secure a ft or pt night shift. He just says he really wants ababy now. So I told him that if it happens it happens. So were "officially" changing out status (after this cycle) to NTNP

[mafiamom]

i am glad you were able to come to an agreement. GL with everything!!!