New here and lots of questions.

Admin-Rachel · #1 March 31st, 2010, 03:20 PM

Hi everyone! I've popped into a few threads, but hadn't introduced myself officially. Lots of you probably have seen me around the boards from time to time, anyway.

I'm Rachel. I'm 37. SO is Neely. He's 36. I'm mom of 21 year old Sarah, 18 year old James & 4 year old Daniel. I'm step-mom to 11 year old Will and 9 year old Clayton, who live with us full time. My daughter no longer lives at home, but the rest are all here in addition to James' friend, Billy, who is not getting along with his parents right now. As you can see, I'm in need of some estrogen in my life.

I got a BFP on March 13 at 12 DPO, but sadly lost my bean on March 25th at 5 weeks, 3 days. I have been devastated to say the least. Neely isn't sure we should try again as he wasn't totally sold on having another child originally and me getting pregnant was just a happy accident for him.

Anyway, that's why I'm here. I desperately want to have one more child and feel like I need to start right away. I am pretty much no longer bleeding from my m/c. Just occasional spotting and when I wipe. I don't know if I should start temping now or wait till I have my first AF or what. I don't know when my cycles will be back to normal. I have a follow up with my OB on Apr. 13. I don't know if he'll suggest waiting a few months or what. Since I'm 37 (38 in June), time is not really on my side, kwim? I want to start trying right away. I can usually tell when I'm ovulating since I get O pains and I've always been a day 14 Oer and 28 day cycle girl. I just don't know if the m/c will mess with my cycles or not.

Anyway, that's my story. Can't say that I'm happy to be here, but I am happy that this place is here!

OwensMommy25 · #2 March 31st, 2010, 03:44 PM

Welcome,

I'm fairly new as well, but everyone has been great. Good luck

tobi4 · #3 March 31st, 2010, 03:47 PM

Hi Rachel, I have seen you around. Im sorry you have to join us. I totally understand about time not being on your side, Im 39 s/o is 34 and time is ticking pretty loudly for me. I waited the first month, until af arrived. Then O surprised me by happening on cd4! Im sure I missed that egg though, 3 bfn! (I may be an addict, even now as I feel the pre af cramping Im thinking I want to poas! lol)
Sorry again for your loss, but welcome. And good luck. ~~~hugs~~~

Augie · #4 March 31st, 2010, 05:23 PM

Rachel,

I'd probably wait until your first AF after the m/c then start temping and trying. A m/c can affect your next few cycles. It may take a few months for your body to be normal. (However, many women get pregnant quickly after a loss.)

Isabelle · #5 March 31st, 2010, 05:23 PM

Hi Rach'

Beyond sad and upset that you are here. :hugs:

We are kind of similar. I'm 41, Doug's 36 and he was okay with our 3 boys. But when we did get pregnant with #4 he was happy. But now that we had the loss he's really on board and definitely wants another. Hopefully Neely will come around and realize what 'could have been'. I think he'll want to try again

That being said.....

We had our D&C on Feb. 5th. I bled very lightly and we had sex 5 days after the procedure. OB wanted me to wait 3 cycles. I told her she was insane and mad and laughed at her. So she said 1 cycle. I said I couldn't promise anything

I thought I got my period on day 34. I had a period for 3 days which is pretty typical for me. And then 14 days later I got a period again, only this time I bled for about 6 days.

Now I am on CD9. I'm also a 28 day'er and a 14 day O'er.

I highly suggest trying OPK's. I just bought 90 of them plus 10 HPT's for $19.99 with free shipping

The OPK's will help pinpoint along with your O pain. Or you could just go by your O pain

Time isn't on my side either and the clock has practically sprung a spring

But we'll keep on TTC aggressively and never give up.

Tons of good luck Rachel. Huggies to you too

Admin-Rachel · #6 March 31st, 2010, 06:03 PM

I actually did order some OPKs recently. Along with 25 HPTs. I had had a bunch of cheapies here, but I used them up confirming my BFP and then I've used the last of them to see if my HCG had gone away. It hasn't yet so I know that's going to slow down my cycle starting.

I am actually really glad the bleeding has stopped. Neely and DTD last night, also 5 days after my m/c.

Isabelle · #7 March 31st, 2010, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Rachel

I am actually really glad the bleeding has stopped. Neely and DTD last night, also 5 days after my m/c.

I'm roaring..a girl after my own heart. Go you & Neely (now where the heck is the emotioncon for having sex?

)

dreamer10 · #8 March 31st, 2010, 07:16 PM

Hi Rachel....a warm but sad welcome. I wish non of us had to be here but alas...here we are. I did see you a bit in the nov ddc ( I was lurking until I got af last week...now I lurk in the dec ddc...

). I am sorry you lost your bean and I hope you can catch that sucessful bfp soon. I too am watching the clock...since I will be 40 this year and I would like to stop with the losing baby thing and start with the planning and names and onsies thing. I hope we can help, give advice and if nothing else just love and support. Here's to getting those babies here!

Celena · #9 March 31st, 2010, 08:03 PM

Rachel I'm so sorry

there's no words, but I'm sorry.

Don't blame you for not waiting, it's not something I'd ever suggest to anyone... had a not so good experience myself, BUT that doesn't mean that you or anyone else would have the same bad situation happen. So you know how allot of ob's suggest waiting 3 months? Well, I was however told by my perinatologist that the first few months after a loss you're more fertile, it has something to do with the cervix still slightly open or something to that effect from what she was saying. Kinda ironic since some doc's suggest to wait at least 3 cycles huh? So if you're ready then go for it, hopefully you'll get your BFP sooner than later... maybe you won't even get a period before you do

So a quick intro of me.... I'm Celena, 33yr & DH 32yr, we're TTC our first together and have had 3 losses in the last 9 months. We've been trying since April 2008 after I had my IUD taken out, altho DH had been bitten by the baby bug years before then and I didn't get it out. (guess I just wanted to know for sure he was serious? IDK) So here we are, just went thru our 3rd loss and I'm on CD 50 something LOL.

As far as your cycle, you may notice it being a couple, few days longer... perhaps a later O as well, but within 3 months you should be pretty much close to normal. So BD every other day if you're up for it and perhaps you'll catch that egg! I mean shoot, it sounds like good plan right?

TTCAL has been a safe haven and a place where we can unite, not feeling judged, unsupported, alone, isolated, misunderstood... but rather a place of warm, wonderful, supportive, compassionate, friendly and caring ladies.... FRIENDS! These ladies (and allot that have graduated) have been my ROCKS. We're here to lift each other up when we get down... and we get back up again!

Rachel

I'm sorry that you're here, but I'm glad you are... you're going to love the ladies here. Hope you don't stay long

and you get blessed with the super gorilla glued beaner!

Admin-Rachel · #10 March 31st, 2010, 11:43 PM

Thanks for the warm welcome! I look forward to getting to know you all.

.:Shortcake:. · #11 April 1st, 2010, 03:20 AM

I just wanted to drop in and give you a big hug! I agree with Celena! I hope you get your sticky bean soon!

DukesMommy12 · #12 April 1st, 2010, 05:02 AM

So sorry for your loss Rachel!

Hopefully youll get your BFP soon and your stay wont be for that long!

Kary♥RN · #13 April 1st, 2010, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Rachel

I don't know if I should start temping now or wait till I have my first AF or what. I don't know when my cycles will be back to normal. I have a follow up with my OB on Apr. 13. I don't know if he'll suggest waiting a few months or what. Since I'm 37 (38 in June), time is not really on my side, kwim? I want to start trying right away. I can usually tell when I'm ovulating since I get O pains and I've always been a day 14 Oer and 28 day cycle girl. I just don't know if the m/c will mess with my cycles or not.

Yes start temping now... First you will get in the swing of doing it.. you will also be able to see you body getting back on track... With the lengths, the temps, and trend of ovulation.

I have had three losses.. with every loss my Dr told me to start trying right away... that thier is no medical reason to wait if you are healthy. Your cycles sound exactly like mine... 28 day-Oing on day 14... After my m/c.... and one d/e My cycles were totaly out of wack.. and new PMS symptoms... (Much like Pregnancy syptoms, sore bbs nausea around O until AF showed.. oh so much fun the tricks our bodies play).. After my first loss.. my body bounced back very quickly... after the D/C it took 7 months to concieve again.. and than 4 months this last time.....

I hope your body getts back on track.. and the gives you the OK... and your BFP and sticky bean comes quickly! HUGS

martilynne · #14 April 1st, 2010, 03:52 PM

I'm sorry for your loss. Just like you, I'm not happy that I "get" to come here, but i'm happy that it's here. I'm TTC my first after 3 losses. After my first two m/c I waited longer than my doctor recommended only to go on and loss the subsequent pregnancies. This time I waited until my first AF now I am actively TTC. I refuse to wait 3 months again, if it ends in loss again at least I'm getting it done sooner.