[stargatemommy]

After going through dozens of tests on myself. We found that my DH has a balanced translocation chromosomes on 1 and 20. Meaning that bits of chromosomes 1 and 20 have switched places. We are going to see the genetic counselor to see what our options are. But I think our options are:

1. Keep trying and hope we eventually have a successful pregnancy. Which isn't to attractive of a plan.

2. PGD and IVF which is SUPER expensive!

3. Get a sperm donor. Which is what I am leaning towards, because it is cheaper than PGD and less heartbreaking than trying blindly. But I would like to have my DH's babies.

What do you ladies think? Any input or comments are appreciated. I am shocked! I am also a little pissed that I went through all those tests for no reason.

[missy123]

Hi Erica,

It is up to you and DH to decide what will make you both happiest. I am just glad that you finally got some answers.

[momof6lopez]

Erica, Im so happy you have some answers, and so sad for how your dh must feel. I think sperm donor is a beautiful option, letting go of the fear of the anxiety the BOTH of you must feel. Although, this a decision obviously that both of you will face once you speak with the gentetics councelor. Hopefully he/she can give you more %'s or odds with dh's own sperm and you will be able to make a very informed decision from that information. But to finally have some REAL answers must be at the very least giving you both alot more hope.

[JessP]

I am so sorry that you went through all that testing. I have no idea what I would do in that situation. Lots of .

[Kary♥RN]

Erica... If I am not mistaken.. a lady on the TTCwMA... had the same issue.. I believe Another option was to take fertiliy drugs... to make you release mulitple eggs... that to trigger to release multiple eggs.. trying to get one to fertilize and stick.... It is kinda a combination between options 1 and 2... but a lot less money..

No matter what option you choose.. it is a personal choice between you and DH... HUGS

[Celena]

Hi Erica,

It's good to hear that you have some answers, but not so great at the same time. I'm really sorry. How are you both handling the results?

I don't know exactly how that your RE said, explained, talk about it to you, but from my understanding (could have totally misunderstood tho) how my RE said it was that your percentages are good if only 1 parent carries the chromosomal tranverse abnormalities. That the chances of having a healthy baby is better than if both parents are carriers, but she made it sound like it is possible even when both parents have. (???) We didn't get into a huge discussion about it, but that was part of what she explained to me at the appt.

Personally I don't know what I would do being faced with this, but I think perhaps we would wait until after the genetic counsellor appt before we made a final decision and a plan. They can give you the percentages and best advice, treatment, and plan options to be able to decide from there. Any of those options aren't bad, but it depends on what you want the most... I mean obviously a healthy baby! But you know what I mean... having a sperm donar wouldn't be a bad idea if it comes down to it.