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April 4th, 2010, 08:09 AM
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I'm throwing a pity party for one today and need some help to get these thoughts stopped

I can't figure out how to see the light at the end of the tunnel right now. All I can think is what if I never get pregnant again? What if I never get to hold my baby? What if this was my one and only shot at having a baby?

I just can't see a way out of the freaking hole I find myself in and I'm so **** sad I can't hardly stand it.
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April 4th, 2010, 08:15 AM
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HUGS!! first and foremost. And i think the SAME thing, sometimes i think "am i broken" But we have to keep faith that our time will come. im a strong believer in everything happens for a reason. and i KNOW we all will have a pride and joy after our horrible experiences.. im SURE of it!! hope this helps . Because i KNOW how you feel, we ALL do sweetie, and we all have these days. Venting i think is the best way.. Venting and being patient! [ as hard as that sounds right? ]
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April 4th, 2010, 08:15 AM
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I am so sorry. You know...I think all of us that have had loses feel that way at some point. It's so hard to have faith and hope when you lose those babies. Keep your chin up though...not everyday will feel like this. Just keep talking, just keep praying and make sure to take care of yourself. We are here for you!
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April 4th, 2010, 08:59 AM
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Just wanted to send you a cuddle (hug).
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April 4th, 2010, 10:04 AM
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So sorry, we all know how you feel!

There is nothing you can do to stop the what-ifs.
Theyre a necessary part of healing.
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April 4th, 2010, 11:52 AM
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((Hugs)) I have had those same thoughts myself. It's just something that you have to work your way through. It does get better.
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April 4th, 2010, 02:04 PM
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Thank you everyone. It's hard to not get frustrated but I want a baby NOW and I'm scared that I will never get to have one. Thanks for listening.
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April 4th, 2010, 03:35 PM
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Hugs! We all know what your going through. Please don't try to keep your feelings in. Keeping them in just makes things worse. Cry, Yell, Scream, do what you need to do to get your feelings out. Praying you get a sticky BFP soon.
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April 4th, 2010, 04:21 PM
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I'm in the same hole. It doesn't help with everyone around me getting pregnant but me.

Vent, yell, scream, cry. Feel what you need to feel.
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April 5th, 2010, 03:02 PM
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I wish I could tell you it does get better but if it does, I'm not there yet.

I think the what if's change though. I've moved from the what if: this was my only chance etc etc.... to what if it I do get pregnant again... Still loaded with anxiety and worrying but it's a different kind.

In my experience the what ifs change, they're not necessarily better, but they certainly change.
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April 5th, 2010, 05:39 PM
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I feel like that everyday.
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