[j&jmom]

Today I saw my cousin who is pregnant and due the same time I would have been. I couldn't bare to look at her belly. I looked everywhere else and I didn't ask her how everything was going. I feel bad and I know I need to get over this feeling, but seeing her brings back a flood of emotions all over again. How do you all deal with this and does that feeling ever go away? I sometimes think if I was pregnant again I wouldn't feel so sad. Those of you who are pg, does it get any better?

[markswife]

I sometimes think that the only way to stop feeling sad is to be pregnant again. I've been thinking a lot about how pregnant I should be right now and it is just the worst feeling in the world. It does get better. Not all days feel like today did for either of us. You'll get through this!

[LisaG825]

You are not alone in this! I have trouble being around babies and pregnant people. I didn't go to my dad's side this Easter because my stepsister just had a baby about a month ago and I felt like crap at the hospital. I sat in the waiting room by myself while at least 20 ppl gathered around the window. I decided I didn't want to feel like that during Easter and having to be around everyone wanting to hold the baby. I also avoided seeing my friend today. We would have been 4 weeks apart. She was going out to eat with about 3 other ppl and invited me. I didn't go b/c I didn't want to hear them go on about her belly and stuff. If it was just me and her or me and my sister and the baby I could handle it better. I also feel that if I were pg. or at least could even ttc right now I might feel a little different about it all.

[martilynne]

I'm sorry, that is always so hard...Last year I skipped my family's easter since I was still bleeding and my SIL was big and pregnant. There was no way I was going to go to my parents house and deal with seeing that.

[j&jmom]

Thanks for helping me feel better about this. We actually went out of town to avoid the first family gathering since my m/c, but my parents had some Easter baskets for my boys so we stopped by for 20 minutes as we were coming home. I didn't want to completely avoid my cousin, but I cried afterwards. I feel guilty not wanting to be with the family, but it is good to see I'm not alone. I just can't wait to be pg again!

[mmllhh]

Ladies, it does get easier. It stinks that we even have to feel this way, but it does get easier with time.

[Kary♥RN]

I have to say.... After my first loss.. I concived right away again.. only to m/c... it took about 6 months for me to have a "little" less feelings towards my SIL... (Who was 3 weeks ahead of were I should of been with my little girl.. and she was pregnant with a girl)..... I was able to talk to people at work about thier babies... And than I got pregnant with pregnancy #3.... When I lost that pregnancy.. I went into the abbess.... Such a place.. that I couldn't even look at my neice... I couldn't be in the same area with pregnant ladies... It was so hard to just even think about what was around me... let alone look at it.... 5 months later I sit here 11 weeks pregnant... Does it get easier... being pregnant? In a way yes... I have hope right now. I was able to hold my neice last week.. and think of what will be.. and not empasize on what could have been.. (Not that I didn't look at her and think my little girl would be sitting right with her)... But compared to Christmas being pregnant did make it alittle easier. HUGS!