Therapy

hollann1984 · #1 April 6th, 2010, 12:01 PM

I am going to see a therapist tomorrow. Im a little scared but hopefully she can help. Since i have a history of depression and am currently not taking meds because of TTC i hope they can help with the issues ive been having. Since my loss i just havent been right. Angry and irrational. Lost and so on. I know that unless this person has gone through what we all have it might be hard for them to help me but im hoping she can. I just hope she is able to show me ways to feel better. I have multiple other things going on in which it will be a good thing for me to go see this person.
Has anyone else gone to see anyone following a loss?

Isabelle · #2 April 6th, 2010, 12:08 PM

I hope she can help, best of luck to you sweetie.
Hugs.
xxx

Kary♥RN · #3 April 6th, 2010, 12:10 PM

I thought about it... After my third loss... I was so mad, I was Pizzed I was in a dark, dark, dark place. I didn't want to talk to anyone, I didn't want to see anyone, I didn't want to leave my house. I was not ready at that point. Now I still think I should talk to someone sometimes... But it is hard with my shcedule.. HUGS.. I am so sorry you had to go through this... I am so sorry for your loss.. HUGS

zkat · #4 April 6th, 2010, 02:42 PM

I go to therapy every day, it's my JM board, but my sister joined an infant loss support group that was lead by a therapist and it REALLY, REALLY helped her after she lost her son. I highly recommend any women/couple that has dealt with a loss seek professional help. I just don't think we are equiped to deal with the loss of a child.

missy123 · #5 April 6th, 2010, 06:30 PM

JM was my hourly therapy. Most of the girls have moved on to other boards but I really had a strong support system here. I was raw and vented my deepest darkest feelings and I wouldn't have known what to do without them.

About 4 months after my loss I got put back on welbutrin for depression. I was a mess. I still have moments when I want to scream and a part of me really died with my baby. However it willl be a year next week and I have learned to just take things one hour at a time.

((Hugs)) what you are feeling is normal, people grieve in different ways. And ask your doc if you can take anti depressents while TTC, you may be suprised to find out some are ok

markswife · #6 April 6th, 2010, 06:48 PM

I started seeing one. Like someone said, I'm just in a dark place right now and don't know how to find my way out on my own. I'm miserable and can't figure out how to get unmiserable. I'm not sure that I clicked with the lady I saw at the first session. I told her that I was there because I lost a baby and she told me that she had a miscarriage and then two ectopics and lost both her tubes so they ended up adopting. I wanted to ask her and this is supposed to make me feel better how??? It felt better to have someone to talk to and to hear that I'm not crazy and that it's perfectly ok to feel whatever feelings you have. I don't think we can hear that enough. If you wake up today and you are sad, that's okay. If tomorrow you are happy, that's okay too. It might change minute to minute. I hope you find the answers you need.

martilynne · #7 April 6th, 2010, 07:12 PM

I have not seen a therapist but I probably should have. After my third loss I didn't leave the house for over a month. Posting here has really helped me but I still have some issues I really need to work out.

Celena · #8 April 6th, 2010, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by hollann1984

Has anyone else gone to see anyone following a loss?

Yes, I had 2 back to back losses over the summer which really left me in a horrible place... I highly recommend therapy, talking about it letting out your feelings and coming to terms identifying them can be so helpful!

I hope that you find what you need tomorrow, GL and KUP on how things went. Don't expect miracles after the first appt.

hollann1984 · #9 April 7th, 2010, 03:37 PM

Things at the appointment went well. We did talk about a few other things going on in my life as well so that helped. i meet with her again in a few weeks so im excited.