[BabyAthena]

We lost the baby at 12weeks 3days. Went to our NT Scan and there was no heartbeat. Had a D&C March 17th. We want to wait 3 mens. cycles to try again. However I am just terrified and don't know if I have the courage to try again. It has been 3 weeks since my D&C and I still can't talk about it without crying.

Just don't know if I can do this again.

[Isabelle]

Hugs sweetie.
So sorry for your loss.
I think it's a natural feeling to feel this way. It's so scary. Hang in there sweets.
xxx

[tobi4]

I understand how you feel. With my first m/c I just wanted to curl up into a ball and not move ever again. But it does get easier hun. I promise you that. And when it does get easier, you will become more open to the idea of trying again.
I work in an elementary school and after I went back to work after this last m/c we were having a harmony dance for the kids. They were all just dancing up a storm, all these cute little ones, trying to look so grown up... I laughed. And I started to cry. And as hard as it was, I reminded myself that its ok to laugh again. Its ok to be happy. Nothing was ever going to change what had happened, and I could never believe that my baby would deny my happiness. Sometimes you just have to give yourself permission to live again.
So live, laugh and love honey. Your baby would want that for you. The people in your life want that for you. You deserve it.

[mmllhh]

Larissa, you are completely normal to feel this way. You need to give yourself a break, what you went thru was traumatic. and i would think there was something wrong with you if you weren't bothered by it. I can't tell that the pain goes away, I can just say that it will get easier. so, my advice is to take this time to grieve, get sad and get mad. it's all about what you need to get thru this. We are here for you.

[ohnicole]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had a very rough first month after my loss, but time passes and things slowly get better. You will eventually be in a better place for making a decision about TTC. Hugs.

[martilynne]

I'm so sorry for you loss. I promise it will eventually get easier. I thought I would never get the courage to TTC again but now I know that the only thing that can make me complete is getting pregnant again and having a healthy baby.

[aitch]

These ladies are right, it does get easier. At 3 weeks post D&C the idea of trying again terrified me but another 4 weeks and although it's still not as easy as it was before the mc, it's doesn't fill me with dread either.

Take your time. You'll know when you're ready.

[BabyAthena]

Thank you all for your lovely support! It's good to here that I am not the only one that feels that way. To: tobi4plus 1more thank you so much for your uplifting words. It means a lot and what you describe is exactly how I feel right now.

[ma2b2010]

::BIG HUG:: It took me awhile to recover... It has been 4 mths since I found out about my m/c and I still tear up when I think about it every so often. You will get through this and you WILL recover and get pregnant again!