Forum: Trying to Conceive after Loss
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April 27th, 2010, 05:34 PM
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Have you ever.... wanted to give up TTC because of DH?
Was he being selfish?
Was he being hateful?
Was it after a knock down drag out fight?
(you don't have to answer the question "Was he...?")
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April 27th, 2010, 05:39 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Luckily, no- DH has been great for the most part through our TTC and TTCAL.
There were a couple times when I wanted to give up talking to DH (but still continue TTC  )
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April 27th, 2010, 05:55 PM
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Tobi
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It makes me crazy when I tell him what we should be doing, and he looks at me like I have 2 heads and makes comments which just sound like he thinks I have no idea at all. It really does make me want to give up, in fact Ive told him that if he wants a baby, then he better start researching about TTC and figure out what we should be doing because at this point, Im handing the responsibility over to him! (Cleaned up, for our JM monitors!) 
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April 27th, 2010, 06:05 PM
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Waiting patiently....
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DH has been wonderful and so supportive of my flip flop decisions. He's on board 100% and researches everything with me, or when he has a moment. He's the one who today, wants to make the appointment with the fertility specialist to see what our next steps are. If he wasn't the way he was right now, I would be done trying. I need his strength.
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April 27th, 2010, 06:13 PM
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Lovin life and family
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DH wants me to give up. Does that count? Sometimes it makes me want to give up too because I know how much it hurt him to loss the babies. But I still want one so BAD! Ahhhhh only time will tell.
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April 27th, 2010, 06:14 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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DH has been good but I can empathize with Tobi. There are times when he just doesn't seem to get it.
Like today when he came home from work and "didn't want to waste it". Wrong time of the month to be worried about that my love!
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April 27th, 2010, 06:56 PM
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Actually it is the opposite for me. DH wants to continue to TTC and I have been the one who has considered giving up and it is sometimes for selfish reasons.
I do remember once him telling me he thought the reason we weren't falling pg was all my fault. This was before his SA come back all clear & I was secretly hoping there would be an issue, albeit a fixable one....
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April 27th, 2010, 07:16 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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No, he has been so supportive. He wants babies more than I do. He had such a hard time with this loss. It makes me tear up thinking about him sitting in the hospital with me for eight hours, telling me over and over how there still might be hope, before we had the u/s confirming the lack of a hb. Sometimes that makes me want to stop trying.
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Wesley (7.16.09) Severe GERD, FTT, EoE, Gastroparesis, Sensory Processing issues, Tube fed only
Ruby (2.16.11) GERD, RAD, FTT, part-time G-tube fed
after Nissen Fundoplication and Hiatal hernia repair 10/25/11
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April 27th, 2010, 07:47 PM
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He wasn't hurtful.... but I felt he was selfish a little..
Yes.... After my third loss... I had to go to work... he knew it was "that" time he walked in the Door late..... I had to leave in 20 min.... well that 20 min + was about a screaming match between to the two of us... All he has to do is well.. you know... Me.. I have to temp, chart, use OPK's, monitor, insert pre-seed, lift my pelvis up, Stand on my head, and sell my soul! And all I ask from you is sex??? Are you kidding me? Do you want this or not... Yes he says... well than show it... UGGGG MEN!!!
HUGS! HUGS! XOXOXOXO
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April 28th, 2010, 07:08 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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For the most part DH is very supporative. The only time it really gets me is when he just dosent get why I get so angry at times. We have had a knock down all out cards on the table no holding back argument once since the loss but it was because of me being so angry with life in general. Other than that he is all on board with TTC. He is the one that suggested I go ahead and set up another appointment with my OB to discuss some help in any way.
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