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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Illinois
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I don't know why but I have been feeling very sad lately. I have cried so hard the last 2 days that I have made myself sick to the point that I am throwing up. I don't know if it is because it is getting closer to my edd. I know a lot of people that are pregnant and they are getting ready to have their baby within the next couple months. Also, Mother's Day is coming up. I don't have any children (except for my angel). So that stinks. My family is getting together on Mother's Day but I don't know if I am going to go. I have two cousin's that have babies. One was born in December (right before my m/c) and the other in Feb. My other cousin's gf just had their baby a few days ago, but she isn't speaking to my cousin. I just feel so lonely. I feel like i have this hole in me that will not heal. I am sooo tired and exhausted. I am not happy with my life at all. All I want to do is move on with my life and start ttc, but I can't.
Sorry ladies, I appreciate if you all read this. I just had to get this off my chest. DH is working 30 days in a row so it is just me at home every single night this month. Not that he would listen anyways.
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Nov 2009
Posts: 2,236
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I am so sorry Lisa!!!! Massive HUGS to you!!! I hope it will get better for you and you will be happy with your life once again! I hope you can start TTC soon!
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Bristow Virginia
Posts: 1,560
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Lisa I am so sorry that you are feeling sad. Sending you huge massice hugs in hopes that you feel a teeny bit better.
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~ Married to DH Gus 06/27/1998
~ Son Erik Jackson still born 11/04/09 - EDD 03/02/2010
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Virginia
Posts: 3,871
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I am so sorry Lisa. I wish there was something I could do to make it all just better for you. You have been through so much and deserve so much happiness. BIG HUGS!!
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Veteran
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Posts: 363
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sorry lisa big hug coming your way ,hope you start feeling better
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Waiting patiently....
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Join Date: Jul 2008
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Lisa, I completely understand how you feel about Mother's day. I felt the same exact way after the girls were born. I was just so upset and kept thinking it wasn't fair and that I should be a Mother too. I still think that way actually but it's a bit easier now. It's hard when a specific holiday comes around that should be our first and we can't celebrate it the way we intended too.
((((HUGS)))) sweetie. If you don't want to go out for Mother's day, don't. It's still your "day" and you should celebrate it how you want.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: Pennsylvania
Posts: 14,553
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Hugs I am so sorry! If you ever need to talk I'm here!
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: PA
Posts: 8,385
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Lisa.. HUGS.. I know you have been through so much.. much more than anyone should have to go through.. It is not fair.. I wish thier was something I could say to make it better... When ever you need to vent, we are here for you.. HUGS
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Nov 2009
Posts: 4,944
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Huge hugs, Lisa! It would be weird if you weren't feeling sad after everything that you and DH have had to go through. Let yourself be sad if you need to, and also, take care of yourself.
The whole Mother's Day thing is rough. And having an EDD is soooo hard. I just hope that everything else starts working itself out so that after you get through this rough patch, you can start moving forward.
You are a very strong woman! Hugs!
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jun 2008
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Hugs! I'm sorry that you're feeling this way. I wish I had the words that could make you feel better, but just know that we are here for you!
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 7,700
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Many many hugs to you Lisa.. With all that you have been going through and this loss and trying to get your cycle back, I can see why you would be so upset.. Do know we are here for you anytime you need to talk and get things off your chest.. Hang in there sweetie..
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 2,148
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Lisa having a forum to vent our feelings is so important. With that being said I am so sorry you are feeling this way. As you know there are no magic words to make those feelings go away but here's a big
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: California
Posts: 3,019
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Big hugs Lisa! I'm so sorry that you are not able to move forward. This is a tough road that we all have been given and you are not alone in feeling sad that you don't have any living children. I'm not looking forward to mothers day either, I know one way or another we'll get through this, and hopefully come out better in the end.
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Illinois
Posts: 2,233
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Thank you ladies for the encouraging words! I wish I could say today is better but it isn't. On top of being an emotional mess, I am super tired from the chemo. It is only 7:45 pm and I am going to bed! Hope you ladies are enjoying your day/night!
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Jacob Matthew born 5/30/11 at 5:27 pm 8 lbs 9 oz and 19.5 in long
 http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1db5ff
Mommy loves you!
Thank you Shortcake for my siggy!
 Thank you Shortcake for my siggy!
Gabriel Matthew- Induced @15w4d on 12/16/09 (Partial Molar Pregnancy). Took 6 1/2 months reach negative after 3 methotrexate injections, D&C 2/19/10, & 6 rounds of chemo Act-d.
url=http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker]  [/url]
Created by MyFitnessPal.com - Free Calorie Counter
"Now I lay you down to sleep,
I pray the Lord your soul to keep;
Within his arms he'll hold you tight,
My Heavenly Angel, My Guiding Light."
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: Florida
Posts: 7,904
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You will be in my prayers. Huge *hugs*
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Ruby (2.16.11) GERD, RAD, FTT, part-time G-tube fed
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 7,264
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you have been through so much!!! your strength is amazing! it is totally normal to feel sad, especially around mother's day! big big hugs to you girl!!! God will never give you more than you can handle! you will win this battle!!! big big hugs
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jun 2009
Posts: 2,946
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I know exactly how you feel.  I've been staying so busy that when I sit down and relax for a while, all the sadness comes back. My husband just wants me to move on, too.
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