[Jennifer8080]

DF and I haven't told many people about our losses. We had not told our families or anyone we were pregnant, therefore we didn't share with them about the losses. We're getting married next week and everyone just assumes we'll be TTC right away (our families don't know we've already been trying). Not only do I get the comments about, "I know you'll get pregnant right away" but my dad's GF keeps texting me about how she's so excited to send care packages to the baby, and going on about how I need to breastfeed and why it's so much better for the baby, how she'll be there to support me, etc.

I know that they all mean well, but at the same time it just makes me depressed and frustrated. I feel like telling them, "Look - we've lost 3 babies it's not going to be as easy as you think!" But then I know they'd be upset that we didn't tell them sooner. It's all just so frustrating - DF and I want a baby so bad, and I feel like I'm letting him and everyone else down that it's not happening.

It's 9 days before the wedding - I wish everyone would just drop the baby talk and concentrate on the wedding!!

Sorry - that was a longer vent than I expected.

[EJsMommy]

Jennifer I can see how frustrating and upsetting this is when you know you have had losses and the family and friends go on about babies etc without knowing about your losses. If I would be in that situation I would let them know to ease up on the talk about babies and baby topics for a while and just concentrate and enjoy the upcoming event you wedding. You look genuinly happy in the photo with your soon to be DH. I wish you and your significant other the very best now and in your future.

[ldovey83]

with what Lavisa said (I hope I spelled her name right).. Just ask them to ease up on the baby talk and focus on the wedding, and all.. HUGS hun...

[Kary♥RN]

You can always tell them that you will be waiting... so this way the baby talk will ease up.. and than you and dh can ttc.... I pray that your sticky BFP will come quickly.... HUGS

[Natalie_Snow]

I am so sorry Jennifer! We haven't told any of our relatives about the losses and it's hard at times (especially when they assume that we're simply enjoying ourselves and don't even think about having kids). I usually say that we'll have kids one day in the future and I never mention that we're trying.

{HUGS} I hope you get your Sticky BFP very soon!!!

[lex1078]

I agree that telling them that you're not TTC right away would hopefully ease the talk of a baby and put more focus on the wedding. Just tell them you want to enjoy being a Bride before becoming a Mom. You don't have to tell them you're waiting long, just about 6 months. I think that's a good window cause it can give you time to try and get in any Dr.'s appt's if needed.

Good luck!! I want to see wedding photos!!! Congrats on the wedding BTW!!!!

[mlyster]

I agree with the other ladies. A sure fire way to stop teh talk is to tell them you are not going to be TTC right away. The only other option is to tell them about your losses - but that can be VERY hard to do and not something Iwould recommend so close to your wedding.

Congrats on your wedding - have a blast!!

[~Lynda~]

i agree with you, tell them you just want to concentrate on the wedding for now. they will get it. you want your wedding to be wonderful hun, so just focus on the wonderful time you are going to have with your new hubby!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!