[dreamer10]

I kind of had a feeling it would. After 3 miscarriages, I seem to now have the road block of not being able to get pregnant. For my history and my body that is not the norm. Even after each miscarriage I was able to get pregnant the first cycle afterwards. Now after 3 cycles of bfn's I am not sure which direction we are going to go. Leave it to fate? If it happens great, if not....???? Or should we try a round of chlomid? We just aren't quite sure.

[megkatkoz]

I feel the same way. I just suffered a chemical and I had an ectopic in January, and my baby had a fatal diagnosis at 17 weeks back in October. I conceived right away before, but it took us 3 months this past time and it was a chemical. I am starting to get concerned, but after the ectopic the doctor said that nothing in my blood work made him nervous and that I am the victim of flukes. Now I wonder if I believe him...

I am trying to "not try" and hopefully it just takes me by surprise one day...but its hard...

[markswife]

twice I have scheduled an appointment about six weeks out with my OB to find out why I'm not getting pregnant and both times I've been pregnant when attending that appointment. We also used preseed this cycle and I really think that helped. I know how frustrating the TTC can be. I hope you find what will work for you soon!

[missy123]

It has only been 3 months sweetie... try not to beat yourself up so much. As we get older it tends to take longer.... I think you should do whatever is good for you... If clomid is the way to go then do it, if you want to ttc naturally you can do that too. When I was in my 20's I got pregnant so easy... I was one of those girls that just thought of getting pregnant and it happend! Now here I am 13 months later with no BFP's. Please try not to be too sad after today (we are allowed 1 sad day).

So you know, Soy isoflavins works like clomid. It is a vitamin/herb that you can buy at Walmart for like $6! It helped me O... I took it for 2 cycles before going to the RE. I have read a million success stories with it. I just have the real high FSH so I am going to have a 3% chance no matter what we try. If you want more info, you know where to find me

Hugs Julie! You have become an important part of my life and I want you to be happy Oh, I don't know if I told you or not but I LOVE your new signature. Fantastic picture!!!

[ohnicole]

Julie, I'm so sorry that AF showed for you this cycle! I know TTCAL is so frustrating and it can feel like forever, but 3 months of trying is well within the norm. I hope that next month is your month, and that you and DH can come to a decision about what you want to do.

[funnygal]

I'm sorry.

[dreamer10]

Thanks guys...I love all the support. You are all so wonderful. Thanks again!

[BeccaM]

Im sorry she showed Julie. I hope next month is a better month for you.

[Kary♥RN]

Sorry AF showed.. but like Missy said it has only been 3 cycles.. Aftr a m/c it may take a few cycles to get back on track.. even if in the past it was easy... this may be the new you.... HUGS

[KAB]

I'm sorry she showed for you. *hugs* Lets just hope your body is doing what it needs to do to be ready to carry a sticky bean.

[Celena]

Julie

I'm so very sorry she showed definitely know how you feel. It's not easy to see her come or a bfn. Do what you feel in your heart is best, discuss it with DH and go from there. Again, I'm really sorry Julie. My heart goes out to you... we all know how you feel!

It took me 15 cycle before I got my 1st bfp which didn't seem like a big deal until it ended in a loss... 25 months & 3 losses later... here we are, keep on keeping on! Our baby(ies) are out there and we're trying for him or her... that's what keeps us going I don't know when it'll happen, but we just try to remain positive. (easier for DH than me, but he helps ease the anxieties n sadness) There is a chance it just may not happen for us for whatever reason which isn't an easy pill to swallow, but we're hopeful that it will. I don't know what advice to give on how to cope or which way to go because it's a daily struggle here as well especially when that mean old wicked witch shows, but like I said before go with your heart.

[dreamer10]

Thanks Celena....I am ok so far. I can't change what is and at least I don't have to go through what so many on this and other boards go through...long cycles that produce nothing. I at least am having regular cycles..which will make ttc w/medical assistance easier, if we choose to go that way. I am feeling quite humbled by what's going on with Brandi and David. I have truly been trying to focus my prayers and thoughts with them. My heart aches for them, I can only imagine how they must feel. I am so grateful for my kiddos and know if things don't work out for us for another baby we have been blessed with some beautiful children. Things will work out for us. I just need to keep my faith. Thank you so much for your support...

[missy123]

You girls are all making me cry in this thread today... I am just super emotional anyway today. I decided not to TTC this month. I don't like the person that I have become with the drugs that I have been pumping through my body. TTC has got the best of me and I can't let it ruin what I have. I have the guy I always wanted and 3 really incredible boys. They are really awesome, great kids... TTC has made me angry, bitter, hateful (yup, I think I have felt real hate in the past 30 days).... none of this is me.

My DF told me that he wants a child very much so but not at the expense of losing me.... I am just downright angry and mad.... I have put $5,000 on credit cards in medical bills in the last few months TTC and have nothing to show for it. I just keep getting us further and further into debt chasing this dream when the doctors even told me chances are slim. I am back on anti-depressants and still cant find happiness... I have always been such a positive happy person. The kind of person that others were drawn to just because I was always smiling and fun.... Now I am angry and bitter and cry. I need to refocus my life.

Sorry Julie, didn't mean to hijack your thread... me and my adhd just started rambling away

[dreamer10]

Missy...I just love you! You can hijack anything you want. Thats what everyone is here for...I think the best thing you can do for yourself is to go ahead and let it all out. Don't keep those feelings bottled up...it does no good! Trust me...I should know. I am sorry to hear that you won't be ttc this month...but at the same time I can totally see why you came to that decision. We are in a very unique situation here....we already have kids, want one more, are not exactly spring chickens and the funds just aren't there...I am right there with ya. I don't know if we can even consider med assistance to conceive...we will have to wait and see.

I am here for you. I can listen, relate, care and love you through it. I cry a lot too lately...so much going on, not even including the baby thing...I always tell my kids..."Life is just hard sometimes. Just don't lose faith". That's about the most advice I can give you right now. Don't lose faith and keep talking to us. We understand and love you....