[aitch]

I met a lady at a wedding this weekend who was exactly 22 weeks pregnant. Same as I would have been, same due date.

I don't know her, but I was envious. I should have had that bump by now and I don't. AND I was doing so well until I saw her and people felt the need to tell me about her. I never did speak to her.

I feel bad for being so incredibly jealous but it hit me more than I'd ever expected it would. I also felt like I got those horrible sympathetic looks from the people that did know. Probably half imagined.

Is it ok to feel that way? I feel horrible for feeling jealous of her but I am.

[Celena]

Yes it is entirely OK to feel that way unfortunately we go thru bouts of feeling lousy like that and envious of those who are where WE SHOULD BE. You're still grieving the loss of your little one, the emotions involved with that are so irratic and irrational to us as times, boarderline confusing.


I was hesitant to open this post only because lately has been harder again as well, hugely pregnant ladies newborns and pregnancy thrusted into my "bubble" as I'm severely missing my angel. Should be in my 23rd week right now, somehow I think you and I are probably within days of each other... sept 23rd here

[MeganMomof5]

I know how you guys feel..I would be 21 weeks today...I don't know anyone that's pregnant, but I see a couple at my kids school that look to be about the same as I was and i'm jealous everytime I See them...Same thing happend when I was pregnant with Ella, there was a woman every day at the school that was due not long after Ella was due...I hate being jealous, and I hate being reminded every day that it should be me too that has a belly

oh and it sucks that there seems to be so many of us here from the september ddc

[tobi4]

I wonder if maybe its a 'normal' time to be feeling this way. I was supposed to be Sept 25th and this month has been terribly hard.

[ldovey83]

It is totally normal to feel this way.. I don't know if any of you remember about me posting about my neighbor that was due a couple days behind me.. She was a constant reminder and seeing her baby belly every day broke my heart.. Now I see the baby and still relive that I should have mine...... NOw I just have friends after friends announcing pregnancies and it has been rough on me.. HUGS to all..

[Isabelle]

Totally, totally normal to feel that way.
Hugs hugs.
xxx

[EJsMommy]

It is a totally normal feeling. I should have been holding my by boy now. Loved on him and cared for him. I still miss him. My good friend she was due not long before me and she delivered her baby in the end of February this year. I have gone and visited but not held her baby girl. I will get around to it but that is hard as well as I do not know how my reaction would be when I do.
After a loss like the ones that we have experienced the emoitional rollercoaster starts and there is no telling what comes in any situation that reminds us of what we were suppose to have. and know that your feeling is totally normal.

[aitch]

Thanks Girls.

Celena - we were close, sept 5th for me so I probably have my weeks messed up.

Everything felt ok til this month when there's no hope. I know many of you are in worse situations and I feel bad for moaning.

On the upside, DH went to the dr and now has the pills! Sorry for completely hijacking chat on Monday.