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a friend of mine if pg, due 11/28.
Just when you think I'm ok, I'm NOT. I'm hysterically crying, this ******* SUCKS!
then I have this fricken biopsy tomorrow and I really don't want to go
Last edited by Celena; May 25th, 2010 at 06:35 PM.
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Celena... I wish I could just give you a big hug.... I am so sorry you are going through this.. This is so not fair!!! I LOVE YOU!!!! HUGS
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Oh Celena,
I am so sorry to hear you got that news. I can remember when my friend was prego and tried to keep it from me. I was quite upset when I found out.
HUGS!!
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Celena, I am so sorry you're going through this! Massive HUG to you!!!!
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hun, i'm so sorry, it should be you too. It's not fair and just plain ole sucks.
Go for you test tomorrow, you need your answers. One step towards your healthy pregnancy. I know it's hard, but keep positive. We are here for you.
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and to add I'm kinda pissed that they hid it from me at the same time. Not that I'd even want to know, but dammit! My head is so screwed up at the moment, it hurts.
My 25yr + bff isn't even answering my message... whatever. I'm so hurt!
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what you are feeling is totally normal. Just when you think you are "over" it, you get surrounded by babies and pregnant women.
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Im sorry Celena. Its so hard, being in this place in our lives. Even harder when the people around us just dont get it. Im sorry I wish I could take some of your pain away ....
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Celena I am so sorry you are going through this hun.. How you are feeling is totally normal. I too have felt that, as well as all the other women in here.. Hang in there hun.. MAny many hugs.. Did she maybe hide it cause she didn't know how to tell you? Maybe she was triyng to be sensitive since she knew what you are going through..
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Oh Hun, It's allowed. I just don't understand why people think hiding it is somehow helping us. It's hard enough to deal with without our "friends" protecting us.
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I'm so sorry Celena. Big (((HUGS))). Good luck tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you.
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Thank you so much ladies.... have to say that I haven't cried this hard in a very very long time. I guess perhaps it really dug up all the pain from all the losses  found out by seeing a picture of this friend pg and at first I just thought it was the way she was standing, but nope it said it on her FB page.
She's older, a few years from 40, with this guy for less than a year and never wanted any more kids. She has problems raising her son as it is and lets him step all over her, BUT being with this new BF perhaps he's helped her with that. I'm happy for her, somewhere inside of me. It's not "her" per se as it is I want our baby so bad.... and I've been fighting slipping into that dark hole again. The positive "it'll happen" attitude is hard to have after 2yrs some months and 3 losses later.
My BFF, did answer me... guess she was trying to find the right words. I was sorta short because of being hysterical and said they'd never understand it, what I've been thru or the pain I feel. (But she DOES know grief and pain of losing someone... her fiance` passed away 2yrs ago this Jan 5th, his birthday was on sunday. So in some small way she knows what it is to lose someone, different, but the grief, the pain.) So she said in her own words that she doesn't understand, but she could only imagine how the pain I've been thru these past 11+ months thru several losses of babies... that her feelings about M (fiance) make her feel crazy and hysterical at times, things make it resurface making it so painful to move on.
I'm just so hurt tho I don't know why it hit like this, but it hit. Like ***** on a fan
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Oh Celena, I'm so sorry. This is such a tough road to be on, and it's ok to cry once in a while. *hugs*
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Massive hugs.
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THREE women in my life announced their pregnancies in the last month: a close friend, a coworker, and a former coworker. It's hard to feign happiness for them, but what else can I do? I know... it really stinks.
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I'm so sorry - sometimes you just think you're doing fine and then something happens like this and it just opens up old wounds.
I wish there were flyers in doctors offices written to tell pregnant women how to announce it and NOT to hide it to avoid hurting their friends.
SIGH.
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I'm so sorry hun. *hugs*
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i'm sorry (((Hugs)))
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