[brandimomof2]

I seriously would be open to it at this point. I have already applied and need to take the classes for foster care. DH really wants to have our own though.

I just feel dh puts so many limits on things that its going to be impossible to ever have a baby. He doesnt want to do IUI and he doesnt want to adopt. My fear is that I will never get pg on my own.

Since I am so so ill during pregnancy I think adoption would be perfect. We cant afford private adoption so would have to go through foster care. I would so do it but dh wont.

Have you ever thought of adoption? If so how does your dh feel about it?

[Lex&angels]

We're contemplating it.
To be honest if we have another loss we will probably stop TTC and try to adopt. (we might give it one more try after that depending on the circumstances)
But we would have to wait a long time to adopt because I'm going back to school and no adoption agency would take us seriously until I'm done (just one more year) and I get my new career launched. Plus DH is doing his phd, has 3 years left. He has a very decent salary but it'll be best to wait until he has a teaching position and my career has taken off. If I get pregnant we will be fine but adoption is more complicated for many reasons.

[hellokitty]

Honestly I've never thought of adoption. Because of money reasons a private adoption would be out of the question.


My grandmother adopted 3 of her 4 children though my mom included.

When she was adopting my aunt she actually became pregnant also

[Celena]

YES!!!!

DH wasn't into the idea, but I keep bringing it up to him. I would want to help a child that needs it... and I've even been interested in the adoption of an older child not neccisarily an infant.

[lex1078]

We've talked about it and are both in agreement that if we can't have children on our own then we would look into it.

[MeganMomof5]

I haven't thought about it...If for some reason we can't have another child, then i'll just be done since we already have 4 of our own...I have no reason for not wanting to adopt because I think it's a great thing to do, just not for me...We know some people who recently adopted 2 children from haiti (they were adopting them before the earthquake), 2 of my cousin's are adopted and I think my husband has a cousin that's adopted too.

[Natalie_Snow]

yes, we have seriously considered it. DH agrees to do it too. We actually hope to be able to afford it in about 5 years (I'd probably try international adoption from my home country). We also agreed that even if we're able to have kids of our own, we'd adopt our #3.

[NutMeg76]

We have discussed adoption as something we might do later, and to adopt an older child. If we had not been able to have children of our own I would have wanted to adopt and infant. Since I lost Colm and I still want a baby, but I am afraid to really try to get pregnant again, I have thought about adopting an infant.

We have a lot of adopted family members. Two of my cousins are adopted. Another cousin adopted 3 children from Korea. Plus, my aunt gave her first born away for adoption when she was young, later my cousin found our family and she has been in and out of our lives since then.

[missy123]

Yes!! We talked about adoption even before we lost our babies. We were talking about it again tonight. I think we may go the route of adopting through the foster care system. We are going to look into it further after we get married.... no one wants to even talk to us unless we are married.

[Jennifer8080]

DH has his heart set on adopting at some point in our lives. I know several people who have done it and had their heart broken in the process because of the ups and downs, which makes me a little reluctant, especially if we can get pregnant and successfully have children. If we can't have children on our own, I would definitely be interested in adoption.

[KAB]

I have always wanted to adopt at some point in my life. When TTC wasn't going our way, I told DH that I just wanted to adopt, and he is totally against it. He thinks that if we can't have children of our own, then it's just not meant to be for us to have kids at all. It is totally frustrating because my DH also doesn't want medical assistance, he thinks it should be something that is meant to be or is not. I don't really understand, because I think that he has a bigger desire than I do to be a parent, and I also think that my DH puts too many limits on what may be the impossible. I would love a child more than anything regardless of where it came from. I still want to adopt, and I haven't given up yet on trying to convince DH. If we do, it would also be through foster care.

[EJsMommy]

My DH brought up the idea of adoption when we first started the TTC journey and I was hesitant at first but it is still a possibility. He is also not against any medical assistance involved in getting our PG. I think if I get my period now I should call my doctor for one set of clomid.

[Augie]

We've talked at great length about it. We're both open to it, but he's not ready yet. (I am.) We hope to do a private, in state, no agency adoption.

[brandimomof2]

The classes start in June and I am really going to talk dh into going I hope. The classes are not a commitment just a further investigation. LOL

The only thing I wouldnt want to do is to get a baby as a foster child and then have to give it up if the parents were to get custody again. This would be heartbreaking for me. I guess this is why you would have to stay in the mind set that its temporary until you knew for sure.

[angel3y35]

We're considering adoption. We already decided at the beginning of the year if I wasn't pregnant by October we would start filling out the paperwork and get the process started. There's an agency here in Alabama that only does adoptions for couples who are dealing with fertility issues and don't have any kids yet. I *think* that might make the wait time a little shorter. Since we don't have any kids yet I do want an infant. If the wait for an infant would be really long a 12-18 month old would be ok. DH is more than willing to adopt. He continuously tells me that if we can't have one of our own we can adopt. He wants me happy and that's his main concern.