Hi, New Here, Those Who Have Lost, When Did you Start to TTC again?

MamaRN · #1 June 7th, 2010, 04:50 PM

Hi All,

I'm Kim, 34 and we found out on Friday that our almost 8 wk baby had passed in utero thanks to a horrible subchorionic hemorrhage that bled out the night before. I took cytotec over the weekend and had a follow up ultrasound today, and all the POC are gone... I'll be bleeding for awhile yet (the endmetrium was still quite thick). My doctor's said that after 1 normal period we can TTC again.

Just wondering how long you ladies waited, and what your feelings on TTC again are?

I'm scared.... excited.... nervous....apprehensive....

ldovey83 · #2 June 7th, 2010, 04:59 PM

Hi and I am sorry to hear about your loss.. With my first loss I lost in May09 I waited a cycle and then lost again in Aug 09, but since my body didn't cleanse itself fully the blood tests I had done showed I was still pregnant with high numbers and they did an u/s and didn't see anything in utero so they considered it a possbile eptopic and I had a round of methotrexate. I was asked to wait 3 cycles and then I could try.. It took me a few months from then to get my latest BFP May 28th and then I lost that one.. Good luck hun.,

MamaRN · #3 June 7th, 2010, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by ldovey83

Hi and I am sorry to hear about your loss.. With my first loss I lost in May09 I waited a cycle and then lost again in Aug 09, but since my body didn't cleanse itself fully the blood tests I had done showed I was still pregnant with high numbers and they did an u/s and didn't see anything in utero so they considered it a possbile eptopic and I had a round of methotrexate. I was asked to wait 3 cycles and then I could try.. It took me a few months from then to get my latest BFP May 28th and then I lost that one.. Good luck hun.,

Ldovey I am so sorry for all your losses. Did they identify why you had 3? I'm hoping not to have another...I had a subchorionic hemorrhage, the OB said today that the likelihood of that happening again is very small, and that sometimes it can indicate there was a chromosomal anomaly with the baby. I go back to the OB in 2 weeks for an exam and to make sure my Hcg levels are dropping.

Isabelle · #4 June 7th, 2010, 07:02 PM

So sorry about your loss.

We started TTC immediately after our loss. The very next month.

angel3y35 · #5 June 7th, 2010, 07:29 PM

The doctor recommended we wait one cycle even though it was an early loss just to let things heal/get back to normal. That was mostly because I'll be taking Clomid again though. We aren't trying this cycle but we aren't preventing either.

lex1078 · #6 June 8th, 2010, 05:50 AM

We waited a few months after each of our losses. I wasn't ready to jump onto the TTC train right away. After our 3rd loss this past April we went to a RE and are going to start IVF soon.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Everyone is different. You can start TTC whenever you are ready. Most Dr.'s recommend to wait so your body can recuperate from the loss. I hope that when you do start TTC you get your sticky bean real quickly.

Lex&angels · #7 June 8th, 2010, 05:55 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss

Both of our losses were very early so we can start trying right away if we want to, which is what we did after the first loss.
After the 2d one, we are waiting 2 or 3 cycles. I'm going to see an RE after getting some testing for recurrent miscarriages (they start testing after 2 here, at least my doctor does). I'm seeing her after I should ovulate on my 2d cycle after the loss, so we'll not try that cycle. Depending on what she says, we'll either start on our 3d cycle after the loss or later.
Honestly, I'm waiting mostly for emotional reasons, 2 losses so close together has been very tough emotionally. My body is back to "normal" already.

.:Shortcake:. · #8 June 8th, 2010, 06:12 AM

The doctor recommended we wait one cycle so we could date the next pregnancy but she did say that there is no medical reason to wait. Your body will not get pregnant unless it is ready. Hugs! I pray you get a sticky BFP soon. Welcome to the board.

MamaRN · #9 June 8th, 2010, 06:41 AM

Thanks Ladies,

It helps to know that a lot of women feel as I do and want to start trying right away. I just don't want to feel like I am diminishing the value of my baby that we lost or betraying his or her memory by wanting to try again so soon. I am not getting any younger and I really would like my daughter to have a sibling close in age.

BuckeyeGal23 · #10 June 8th, 2010, 09:12 AM

Hi there...I'm Amie and I also had a loss at 8 weeks. I'm so sorry for your loss...everyone here can definitely relate to how hard it is; this forum has been really helpful to me throughout my time.

My doctor recommended waiting to ttc for 3 months to allow my uterine lining to build back up...and we are waiting because of that and some other circumstantial situations right now. I need clomid to ovulate, so I think that's another reason he wanted us to wait. But we're ntnp in the meantime. Shortcake is right - if your body isn't ready you won't get pg, so don't worry about trying too soon. I've read that after one period your rate of m/c doesn't go up at all.

SD Mommy · #11 June 8th, 2010, 09:33 AM

Hi Kim, I'm so sorry about your losses. There are a wonderful group of ladies on this board, it's a great place to be after a loss.

After my first I waited a cycle before we tried again and this time around we started right away. I'm scared that it might happen again but I think I'd still feel that way even if I waited longer. Some things just change you forever.

tobi4 · #12 June 8th, 2010, 10:19 AM

Im sorry for your loss. I agree, your body wont get pregnant until its ready. Its such a personal choice and you need to do whatever is comfortable for you. I waited til after my first AF, as my Dr advised but there have been lots of women who don't even wait that long! Good luck with your decision, I hope your stay here is short.

markswife · #13 June 8th, 2010, 10:21 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't believe that you are diminishing the baby that you lost at all by continuing to try for another baby. No matter what, the baby that you lost will always hold a special place in your heart. There is nothing in the world that can take that away from you.

I had a loss at 6w5d in February. My doctor said to wait a cycle to try but we didn't wait. For me, I couldn't wait. I felt like I would never be happy again until I was pregnant again so the idea of waiting was far worse than the idea of possibly losing another baby.

I hope you get your sticky BFP really soon.

MomtoCTSK · #14 June 8th, 2010, 06:05 PM

Kim I am sorry to hear about your loss and sorry to see that we will be over here instead of our DDC. My OB said to wait one cycle and although I am finding it really hard to do it, we are waiting. I want to try again so bad. I wasn't even like this when we were initially trying for our second but now I want to try ASAP. So we are going to start next cycle. Mine was an earlier loss than yours but I don't think you should feel that way about being excited to be pregnant.