quesion - DTD?

3Sapphires · #1 June 12th, 2010, 05:08 AM

So I miscarried last weekend, and the bleeding finally stopped - I hope it stays that way. I thought it stopped yesterday, but then it started again.

Anyway, DH and I haven't DTD since a few weeks before I found out the baby died.

The MW said she wanted to do a pelvic once I stopped bleeding, but at this rate it won't be till late next week.

Is it ok to go a head and DTD - I miss my DH so much... and am ready to reconnect.

Kary♥RN · #2 June 12th, 2010, 05:14 AM

I would wait until your MW sees you.. ... Since you really should be bleeding free before you DTD so you don't get an infection. And since you are on and off again bleeding.. I would wait..

Cuddling is always a nice way to connect.. since you really don't want an infection ontop of everything you have already been through..

HUGS

Servilia · #3 June 12th, 2010, 08:47 AM

You shouldn't DTD until you completely stop bleeding. You wouldn't want to be dealing with an infection

3Sapphires · #4 June 12th, 2010, 09:21 AM

I am pretty sure it is done. I have also checked my cervix and it is closed...

mmllhh · #5 June 14th, 2010, 11:18 AM

I would wait till you see the MW. You can do everything but until then. have some fun with forplay.

MamaRN · #6 June 14th, 2010, 01:46 PM

Ami I was wondering this too. I had a little brown bleeding yesterday but it was light and haven't had any since. DH and I haven't DTD since I was put on pelvic rest at 6 weeks and I really miss him too. I don't see my OB until next Wed. and it feels like forever.

I think I'm going to wait because I am afraid of infection....

BuckeyeGal23 · #7 June 15th, 2010, 05:46 AM

Well, my doctor told me to wait 14 days until after my d&c to dtd (although we couldn't hold out that long...only made it 12!). But I was still bleeding then, and he said that was fine. In fact, I had a similar situation where I stopped bleeding for a day or two and then started bleeding heavily again. But he said it was fine...but I guess at that point I'd already been back for my follow-up and examined.

I can totally relate to wanting to reconnect again - having a loss changes your relationship, and it's like a whole other level of closeness that you feel when you are able to be together again. I hope you can get some comfort soon hon!

3Sapphires · #8 June 15th, 2010, 06:58 AM

they don't want to me to come back for a follow up for 2 more weeks - it will practically be July!

BuckeyeGal23 · #9 June 15th, 2010, 09:40 AM

oh geez, how frustrating! especially if you think you are gearing up to o (saw your other post). If it were me, I'd be dtd...but that's just me. Seems like 2 more weeks is a LONG time to wait to get some booty!!

MamaRN · #10 June 22nd, 2010, 09:59 AM

Hey Ami,

Just wondering if you went ahead and DTD?

I didn't end up waiting until my follow up appt which is tomorrow. DH and I went away this past weekend and were naughty and were again last night. It was definitely emotional for me and I'm (not so) secretly hoping we are super lucky and get PG right away since it was 14 and 16 days after the M/C and I've read some women ovulate like normal following M/C.

Just wondering what you ended up doing!