[brandimomof2]

I am just so upset right now. I know I am not pg. Temps are making there way down to the coverline now. When I wiped a min ago I saw a tiny bit of brown so AF is for sure coming. Its so unfair. I just feel so upset and horrible. I cant help but just cry. I feel so helpless like there is nothing I can do about it. I dont get how it was once so easy to get pg and now its so so very hard.

Do you guys believe the stress of wanting to be pg so bad can actually affect you from getting pg? I have heard stress cant affect science and then I have heard the other way too. What do you guys think? I think I am getting ready for a break but do not want to stop in fear that I will miss the mth we were suppose to conceive in. Ya know?

[Brittanie]

I'm so sorry honey. I don't know whether it can keep you from becoming pregnant, but I DO know stress has a great affect on your body. On Sunday the 13th I had a VERY stressful family situation. I was on cd 15, and I started bleeding. It was a definite period flow, but it only lasted until the person in question left.

So...maybe. I would think that it would have to be more stressors than that one though, unless it is REALLY stressing you out. I mean, I was nearly at an all-out anxiety attack level when this happened, and it took me several hours to get my breathing under control.

As for missing the month you were supposed to conceive in...I don't personally believe that will happen (if it's supposed to happen, it will). Allow yourself to relax a little, it can only do you good.

[KAB]

I'm so sorry this is happening, I'm also feeling so very worn down right now. I'm hoping that sometime in the very very near future we will get our BFP. TTC is a hard tiring road, but we just have to keep our eyes on the prize, it will be so worth it!

[tobi4]

Aww Brandi, Im sorry you are so sad. I totally understand how you are feeling. I dont know about the stess preventing it. Ive read probably all the same materials as you (God love the internet) but I really dont know.
The stress of ttc has me taking a break now, and truthfully its almost as hard knowing there isnt a chance as it was hoping each month. Especially as I fear the same as you that maybe Im going to miss the 'one'! But I believe that if Im in a better, more relaxed mind set, that it will be easier. Maybe easier to conceive (Fingers crossed) but also easier to handle the disappointments.
I wish you the best of luck whichever way you decide. Each side has its pros and cons, just do what feels right for you.

[ldovey83]

Brandi many many hugs to you hun.. TTC is definitely stressful and TTCAL is even more stressful.. If you feel you need a break then try the NTNP approach and maybe it will just happen for you.. I was more laid back last cycle and I got pregnant.. This cycle because I am sick I have no idea where I am at right now.. HUGS

[SD Mommy]

What a bummer. I was really hoping that you'd get your bfp this month. I'm really sorry that it didn't happen for you. Who knew ttc would be so hard? I always have a hard time when I know AF is coming, the anticipation and bitter disappointment is just too much sometimes. I hope you feel better soon.

[MamaRN]

((HUGS)) I am so sorry, I can understand your frustration. I hope you get your BFP soon.

[BuckeyeGal23]

I definitely think you can be so stressed that it can affect you fertility...but, at the same time, I can relate to wanting it so bad you can practically touch it. I agree with Brittanie though - that if it's meant to be, it will be...so don't worry about missing it - your bfp will come, I just know it!

[SkyBaby]

So many people have told me my issues are all in my head. I want it to so bad, I'm actually stopping myself from getting pregnant. I don't quite know what to think about that. All I know is my body doesn't behave normally either. I have often heard that as soon as you "stop trying" you will get pregnant. Maybe that's what it will take. Maybe take a break from "trying" and maybe do the NTNP thing (not trying not preventing). Good luck!!

[BabyAthena]

Yes, stress can affect you getting pregnant. I tried to get pregnant with my first for 9 months and nothing until I changed jobs and went on a vacation in between. I gave up TTC and boom the 10th month AF didn't show. My OB had been trying to tell me that the only thing stopping me from getting pregnant was myself. I just didn't understand what he meant by that until I gave it all up.

You will get pregnant again!!!! (when you least expect it)

[MomtoCTSK]

Hugs I am sorry that you are sad. I have not TTC after my loss until this month but I can already feel the pressure and stress that I am putting on myself that was never there before. Maybe a break of just doing it to do it and reconnect might bring a pleasant surprise, or at the very least give you the mental break needed to keep moving forward. I am sure stress can play a big factor in all of it.

[ohnicole]

I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. I don't know where I weigh in on the whole stress-fertility connection. I do know that as much as a break is tempting sometimes, I don't have it in me to put it on hold when I want it so bad. Whatever you decide, it WILL work out in the end. You won't miss 'your month'. It will happen for you!

[Celena]

I'm so very sorry Brandi

Originally Posted by brandimomof2

Do you guys believe the stress of wanting to be pg so bad can actually affect you from getting pg? I have heard stress cant affect science and then I have heard the other way too. What do you guys think? I think I am getting ready for a break but do not want to stop in fear that I will miss the mth we were suppose to conceive in. Ya know?

Oh of course it does... mind body connection!

Your body is in self preservation mode when under allot of pressure, stress and so forth... however it would show up in cycle as in irregularity. If your cycles are dead on the same every month with little variation, I wouldn't worry about it so much. However reducing stress, reducing anxiety and work on general overall health by eating right exercise can be helpful